Sex Offenders With Your Last Name Popping Up On Social Media

United States
January 7, 2018 2:41am CST
My dad comes from a long line of sex offenders (which I guess means I come from a long line of sex offenders, but I don't recognize those people as family, and he does.) His father was a child molester and rapist, and several of his cousins were also child molesters and rapists. When I was a freshman in high school, one such cousin made headline news locally when he was busted for distributing child pornography. His face and name were plastered all over the local paper, and as we share the same last name, it sucked. Kids at school kept asking me if that was my dad or my uncle, and it caused a lot of grief having to deal with that crap. Especially knowing that I was, in fact, related to the creep, even though I'd never met him. Well today this cousin popped up on Facebook, commenting on posts in a local history group, complaining about how in the late '90s he got "burnout" from the drama of small-town living. The nerve of that creep! I so badly want to reply to his comment that perhaps he wouldn't have had any drama if he hadn't been distributing child pornography. He was the one who caused "small town drama" for those of us who share his last name! I clicked on his profile and he has a GoFundMe campaign for people to contribute to his "retirement fund." Honestly I'm appalled that sex offenders -- especially ones whose crimes were against minors -- are allowed to even have access to social media, or the internet in general. Shouldn't they be monitored to make sure they aren't continuing to prey on children? The internet and especially social media gives this guy easy access to minors. I looked into reporting his profile (as well as his "retirement fund" campaign) but it doesn't appear that either one violates either website's terms of service. You can easily find this guy and his offenses listed on the sex offender registry -- I verified it was him before attempting to report him. I wonder if they also let murderers join Facebook! I'm disgusted that this sorry excuse for a human is allowed to be on social media and collect free money from people by playing on their sympathies. He doesn't deserve any sympathy! Why should he live in comfort when he contributed to the abuse of children?? And this is exactly why I've always wanted to change my last name -- because of creeps like him! It sucks big time living in a small community and having the same last name as creeps who keep getting busted for this sort of thing. I'm ashamed to share my name with a bunch of perverts!
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4 responses
• United States
9 Jan 18
I am sorry you have to deal with having the same last name. Is your last name one a kind so that is why it's obvious or perhaps the small town you live in everyone knows each other? The whole GoFundMe - anyone can start one, its ridiculous and for any reason too. I hope no one donates to it!
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• United States
10 Jan 18
@Srbageldog Sorry you have to deal with that and people knowing your business. That must have been real annoying growing up with the last name + bad history behind it. :/ What is his GoFundMe Goal? If he doesn't reach his goal - I don't think people get the fund? Unless he decreases it maybe. I don't know how GoFundMe works clearly but I hope he doesn't get it either - definitely not worth it.
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• United States
10 Jan 18
@Srbageldog I'm glad you were never sexually abused, sorry to hear that wasn't the case for your cousins. I hope you're there for them to talk to if you're close with them because it could definitely be an awkward situation. Even growing up, that definitely has to take a toll on your life. I'd be scared too. Wow, he set a GoFundMe Goal in the million dollars. I think the person just donated for the heck of it because they know the goal would never meet it.
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• United States
10 Jan 18
It's not a common last name, and pretty much anyone who has it around here is related. Also, this used to be a small town (it has grown over the years) so anyone who lived here when it was small all knew each other, and knew everybody's business...so you still run into people like that, if the family has been in the area a long time. I encountered a lot of people when I was a kid who knew all about my family. Someone already did donate to it -- it was only one person last I checked, but that's still one too many! Fortunately Facebook deleted his account, so hopefully he won't be able to get back on there or use it to share his GoFundMe campaign.
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@LadyDuck (502979)
• Italy
7 Jan 18
If you encounter this kind of problems, I think you should change your surname. There is no reason to continue to have problems due to this. What about switching to your Mom's family name?
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@LadyDuck (502979)
• Italy
7 Jan 18
@Srbageldog In Italy women do not change their names when they get married, I still have all my documents with my maiden name. You have the choice if to indicate on the document your husband surname. It is not mandatory.
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@LadyDuck (502979)
• Italy
7 Jan 18
@Srbageldog This has always been this way in Italy, women keep their name. I think it's a lot easier if someone divorce.
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• United States
7 Jan 18
@LadyDuck It is becoming more common here for married women to keep their maiden names, too. Sometimes the husband will take the wife's name, and sometimes they hyphenate their surnames.
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• United States
7 Jan 18
a friend of mine has the same problem-only it was his dad,and he was named after him.so you can imagine the hell having the exact same name causes if they don't check further..
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• United States
7 Jan 18
Ugh, how horrible. I feel for that guy!
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• United States
7 Jan 18
@Srbageldog yup.his dad's been gone now for at least 10 years and it still happens.
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• United States
7 Jan 18
@scarlet_woman That's horrible. His dad made his life a hell that he can't escape from even now that the dad's gone.
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@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
7 Jan 18
i can certainly understand. i am starting to think nearly everyone has some in their family. some that just have not been found out either. i have a cousin that hasn't been found out. and his brother that was found out and did time. and don't you know, the one not found out was his biggest hater with nasty words about him. it is all a terrible mess. i just wonder and you never know how to get them off the site nor stop them. the cousin that did time is not allowed on social media. so i just wonder where that guy lives that you know that is not monitored or the person that is supposed to do that is not doing anything. can you not perhaps inform the authorities of his conduct?
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@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
8 Jan 18
@Srbageldog good you are at least trying to get something done.
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