Is this comment rude

@mydanods (6513)

Nigeria

March 1, 2018 10:03am CST

A woman was announcing her wedding plans to a group. She was so excited about it. She is 45. Suddenly somebody said: Better late than never. I thought that was rude. But I just didn't want to conclude until I hear what others have to say. I think it's just like saying to someone who's had several miscarriages: better late than never. It's rude and insensitive. Is this rude?

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@LadyDuck (502423)

• Italy

1 Mar 18

I agree with @thehousewife, if it's not indended as a joke, it is rude.

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@mydanods (6513)

• Nigeria

1 Mar 18

Why do you say so please?

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@LadyDuck (502423)

• Italy

1 Mar 18

@mydanods Because if it's a joke among friends it is acceptable, but if it is just a statement it is rude. Saying better late then never is just like saying that she was unable to find someone to marry before. It is not nice.

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@mydanods (6513)

• Nigeria

1 Mar 18

@LadyDuck It's a statement. I think it was thrown for effect. I can't really judge the intention though.

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@Daljinder (23193)

• Bangalore, India

1 Mar 18

Coming from someone close in a light-hearted manner it is not rude.

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@mydanods (6513)

• Nigeria

2 Mar 18

Well, I felt it was but wanted another opinion. I could say they are close although not too close as you might think.

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@Daljinder (23193)

• Bangalore, India

4 Mar 18

@mydanods Then it is rude.

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@Jackalyn (7558)

• Oxford, England

1 Mar 18

I would be furious if someone said that to me. The person was indeed, being very insensitive. Some people just love to put others down!

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@mydanods (6513)

• Nigeria

1 Mar 18

That's what I thought. Thanks for being on my side.

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@Namelesss (3364)

• United States

1 Mar 18

How would we know whether it was rude or not. We don't know the relationships between these people and it's none of our business. Could be a standing joke between them. Only ONE person can decide that and SHE is the only person who has a say. It's time people stop telling everyone else how to be.

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@mydanods (6513)

• Nigeria

2 Mar 18

Okay. But whether they were close or not, would you think that was a wise statement to say, to someone who must be thinking about it herself?

@mydanods (6513)

• Nigeria

2 Mar 18

@MALUSE Haha.

Humans always want to know what others think. It helps us shape our social behavior. We are social animals. Why do you think social networks are so popular?

@DesirousDreamer (34776)

• Peoria, Arizona

1 Mar 18

That is a common saying for events like that, it is seen as a joke. Weddings and miscarriages have no correlations if they said it to a person who has had several miscarriages yes it is rude. But for weddings, not really. It is just teasing.

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@mydanods (6513)

• Nigeria

1 Mar 18

Haha. Thanks for explaining your point of view. Just teasing. Okay.

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@Melanie_Marie (2448)

• St. Clair, Michigan

1 Mar 18

Kinda rude, also kinda jealous in some way, but not wanting to admit it. Whenever someone says a smart-a$s comment like that, it usually means they are angry at themselves or at life in general, or they are jealous. Besides, 45 is the new 35 anyway.

I'm not a fan of marriage, but I'm not angry about it, and I certainly don't get jealous when I see other people getting married and drop rude comments on them whenever I can. But I do secretly pray I don't get invited to the wedding. I HATE events like that.

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@mydanods (6513)

• Nigeria

1 Mar 18

What events do you enjoy?

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@Melanie_Marie (2448)

• St. Clair, Michigan

1 Mar 18

@mydanods Sitting in my room and watching Tarot Card readings on youtube, and shopping at Kroger.

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@neha211985 (779)

• India

2 Mar 18

I agree it is really rude to say. But I know many people who have master's in insulting and saying I was just joking.

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@neha211985 (779)

• India

2 Mar 18

@mydanods its really heart breaking :(

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@mydanods (6513)

• Nigeria

2 Mar 18

Hmm. That is really interesting. How would the receiver feel?

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@sprite1950 (30461)

• Corsham, England

1 Mar 18

It does seem a little rude especially as people get married at all sorts of different ages but it depends on how well she knew the woman. It may have been said with humour,

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@sprite1950 (30461)

• Corsham, England

2 Mar 18

@mydanods well I'm sure when her happy day comes she won't care what this woman thinks.

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@mydanods (6513)

• Nigeria

2 Mar 18

@sprite1950 I wonder if she even noticed. I was just the one that noticed.

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@mydanods (6513)

• Nigeria

2 Mar 18

Let's hope that is the case. Because I felt sad on hearing it. I wish she did not feel the same.

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Anne Marie Guyer

@LeaPea2417 (40029)

• Toccoa, Georgia

2 Mar 18

I agree, it is rude.

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@mydanods (6513)

• Nigeria

2 Mar 18

Everyone seems to be agreeing. Then my intuition was not wrong it seems.

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@DianneN (254926)

• United States

1 Mar 18

I consider that very rude. What an awful thing to say.

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@mydanods (6513)

• Nigeria

2 Mar 18

That's the truth @DianneN

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@DianneN (254926)

• United States

2 Mar 18

@mydanods I agree!

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@Hannihar (130150)

• Israel

2 Mar 18

I believe it was not the right thing to say to her. I would say just congratulate her and be happy for her that she found someone.

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@mydanods (6513)

• Nigeria

2 Mar 18

That is what other people did.

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@mydanods (6513)

• Nigeria

4 Mar 18

@Hannihar They carried on with their congratulations after the statement was made as if they didn't hear it.

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@Hannihar (130150)

• Israel

4 Mar 18

@mydanods What did other people do Nnaemeka?

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@Kandae11 (57231)

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1 Mar 18

Maybe the lady could have got married earlier - but she waited for the right person to come along.

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@mydanods (6513)

• Nigeria

1 Mar 18

Or maybe she had some problems emotionally. But why remind her of that in a joyful moment.

@kavinitu (5534)

• India

3 Mar 18

Yes I agree, This is a rude comment

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@mydanods (6513)

• Nigeria

3 Mar 18

Everyone agrees. My instinct was sharp then. Thanks

@nitirrbb7 (4317)

• India

4 Mar 18

I think that is a little bit insulting to whom its said because its like pointing towards the women's age.

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@mydanods (6513)

• Nigeria

4 Mar 18

Thank you for telling me that I was not over sensitive.

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@youless (114117)

• Guangzhou, China

2 Mar 18

I don't really think it is rude. After all, this woman is getting married. If she was still single, then it is rude to say that.

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@mydanods (6513)

• Nigeria

2 Mar 18

What irked me is that she is now 45. Better late than never reminds her of how late she is in getting married.

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@just4him (323168)

• Green Bay, Wisconsin

1 Mar 18

It can be if the person doesn't know anything about the person getting married. On the other hand, if it's a very good friend, it might have been meant in fun.

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@mydanods (6513)

• Nigeria

2 Mar 18

If it was meant in fun, it was the wrong time. This was a time when the wife-to-be needed encouragement and help; not being reminded of a weakness.

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@nela13 (59365)

• Portugal

2 Mar 18

Yes, I think It was rude. No matter the age, she was Happy and deserve some happy feelings to celebrate her wedding.

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@mydanods (6513)

• Nigeria

2 Mar 18

That's what I thought myself.

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@dya80dya (36805)

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2 Mar 18

No. I think it's not rude.

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@mydanods (6513)

• Nigeria

2 Mar 18

Why do you think it's not rude?

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@Prdhan (587)

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2 Mar 18

Yes,This is rude.

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@mydanods (6513)

• Nigeria

2 Mar 18

That's how I felt. Thanks.

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• Tunisia

1 Mar 18

I think it's totally unacceptable.

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@mydanods (6513)

• Nigeria

2 Mar 18

Totally unacceptable behavior and in bad taste. Thanks

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