What do you fear most in life?
@sprite1950 (30453)
Corsham, England
March 8, 2018 1:00am CST
One of my biggest fears is that I will die before I have the chance to bring up my granddaughter. She has been with me since she was 4 and is now 11 but I want to see her grow into a happy and well adjusted adult. There is no one else who could look after her if I went so she could go into the care system.
Before I had children my fears were different. I suppose I might have worried about losing my parents but once you have children and grandchildren, people you care about more than yourself, new feelings come to the surface.
What is your biggest fear in life?
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
8 Mar 18
Last year, I would have answered ghost. But now I seem to fear nothing in life. I am not afraid to die because I know my son and the rest of the people I live behind will be ok, financially, not sure emotionally. But I know they will be strong. But I don't want to die now. I'm just 40 and my son will turn 14 next week. I want to live a full long life to see him married and have his own family. But if I ever did, he will be ok, like I turned out to be ok when I lost both of my parents at the age of 13.
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
8 Mar 18
@toniganzon It must have been horrible to lose your parents at such a tender age. It's nice that your son will be well cared for if you were not there but I'm sure you will go on to live a long and healthy life.
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
8 Mar 18
@mydanods Yeah. I'm not a religious person but I believe in God. Every time I feel weak, I turn to God. Some people may call me stupid or even crazy for having faith in something or someone we haven't really seen and couldn't really prove exists, but I don't care. Having faith in him gives me peace and courage.
Losing my parents was horrible, but me and my siblings survived that chapter in our life and we are all doing ok with our own respective family.
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
8 Mar 18
@toniganzon You sound like a strong well adjusted person.
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
8 Mar 18
@LadyDuck I guess that's the biggest drawback of not having children, I'm sure you have friends though.
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
8 Mar 18
@LadyDuck Yes that does happen. I think my son might be like that although my daughter wants to move closer to me a she is a long car journey away. I would hate to be a burden to her though.
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@LadyDuck (459425)
• Switzerland
8 Mar 18
@sprite1950 Yes, we have some very good friends. I have known people who had children and when they were no more healthy and old, their children do not even went to see them anywhere. I have known more than one.
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
8 Mar 18
@mydanods She's good now. She had chemo and radiotherapy and is back at work. There's no guarantee she will be fine forever but she's in remission right now so fingers crossed.
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@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
8 Mar 18
@sprite1950 Fingers crossed. We'll keep her in our prayers
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@cmoneyspinner (9221)
• Austin, Texas
8 Mar 18
My fear is not about this life. My fear is that hell is real and its eternal.
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
9 Mar 18
@mydanods I saw a tv programme where a priest said exactly the same. He believed that hell was a made up place that our ancesters had used to keep people under control and it has lasted through the ages.
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
1 May 18
That would be terrible. I think you would know the case of British child Madeleine McCann who was kidnapped while on holiday in Portugal and has never been found, Her parents left her while they dined out. I would never have left my children that way.
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
1 May 18
@nela13 I don't think she will ever be found. A lot of people over here have no sympathy for the parents because they feel they shouldn't have left them.
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@nela13 (55734)
• Portugal
1 May 18
@sprite1950 yes, I know the case, that was terrible. I would never leave my kids alone too.
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
8 Mar 18
@Icydoll I think that's the biggest fear for most people.
@MainerMikeBrown (1373)
• Bridgton, Maine
9 Mar 18
One fear I have is about my brother's physical health. He's very overweight, smokes, doesn't eat in a healthy manner, and doesn't get any exercise. He's a heart attack waiting to happen.
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
9 Mar 18
@MainerMikeBrown That is worrying. I hope you nag him to change his diet and exercise more.
@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
9 Mar 18
@MainerMikeBrown That must be hard for you and your family.
@MainerMikeBrown (1373)
• Bridgton, Maine
9 Mar 18
Snowdrop, the thing is he won't listen to anybody who tells him to lose the weight and stop smoking. He'll just say, "Oh, I'll be alright!"
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@cherigucchi (14879)
• Philippines
8 Mar 18
I fear that something bad might happen to my loved ones. I always pray for their safety and protection
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
8 Mar 18
@cherigucchi I think it's the same for many of us. The more people you love the bigger those fears become.
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@cherigucchi (14879)
• Philippines
8 Mar 18
@sprite1950 I agree with you on that.
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
8 Mar 18
That I die before my dang house is paid off and I can enjoy it without having to shell out a monthly payment. It will be paid off in 3 years when I'll be 70 @sprite1950 . And with my health, 3 years can be a long time.
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
8 Mar 18
@nanette64 You're the same age as me and I have 18 months left on mine. 3 years isn't too long .. my health is good but we never know what is round the corner .. I could be hit by a bus tomorrow.
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
8 Mar 18
@sprite1950 That's fantastic that you only have 18 months left. Watch them dang buses. 
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@cintol (11261)
• United States
9 Mar 18
@spiderdust It is the worst feeling in the world and you never get over it. I hope your child becomes a little more aware of the dangers you fear for them, I pray they will always be safe..
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@cintol (11261)
• United States
9 Mar 18
@sprite1950 Something inside takes over and you push to move on, you have others who need you and you feel you can't let them down no matter how your hurting inside. You hide your tears until your alone, it is a very lonely place. I feel for your friend. I am also glad your son straightened himself out and hope you never will have to feel like that again.
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@spiderdust (14741)
• San Jose, California
9 Mar 18
I have a similar fear. My adult child has made a lot of risky decisions in the past couple of years, and I'm often fearful that I'll get a knock at the door in the middle of the night with the police asking me to come identify a body.
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
9 Mar 18
@dya80dya I'm so sorry to hear that, Take care of yourself as best you can.
@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
9 Mar 18
@dya80dya I'm sorry to hear that you are suffering this way. Is there anyone who can help you?
@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
8 Mar 18
@sashann It sounds like you are suffering from anxiety issues. I have been worse since I retired. Too much time to think.
@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
8 Mar 18
@sashann I used to be a cook in an old people's home. I loved it.
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@sashann (210)
• Philippines
8 Mar 18
@sprite1950 Yeah I think, because sometimes my body is shaking when I am worried even in a little things, :( what is yourjob before:)
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@Starmaiden (9311)
• Canada
9 Mar 18
Focusing on worries only manifests as your greatest fear come true. So I try not to worry about anything. But the worst thing that could happen to me other than losing one of my children, is if I were to lose my mind to dementia or Alzheimer's.
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
9 Mar 18
@Starmaiden My mother had dementia at the end. She didn't forget who I was but she did forget my daughter which was very upsetting for her as they used to be close when she was little. It's a horrible disease but we see more because people are living longer. Years ago when the 50s or 60s was old age it was virtually unheard of.
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
13 Mar 18
@Katiepie I never used to think about it when I was young. It's only since I had children and a grandchild that I fear it.
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
8 Mar 18
My greatest/biggest fear is not to able to bear a child in the future.
@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
8 Mar 18
@Prshnth Just do your best and you won't. Have faith in yourself.
