What event would you like to change in your life?

@mydanods (6513)
Nigeria
March 16, 2018 3:50pm CST
If there was one event in your life you would like to change, which will it be? Mine: The day my brother disappeared after he went to the hospital for his doctor’s appointment. It was a traumatic one week’s experience for the family having to look for him in this big city called Lagos. After one week, we decided we couldn’t find him and gave him up for lost. Four years after, I keep recalling that one week of events. If I could change that one event, my life would find peace. I can’t stop blaming myself for not escorting him to the doctor’s office as my mother had asked me to.
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Marlina
@marlina (154165)
• Canada
16 Mar 18
What a terrible thing to happen. I am so sorry. I understand why you would want to change that event. I can't recall any event that I would like to change.
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Nnaemeka
@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
17 Mar 18
@Maria24 what made Wisconsin a bad decision for you?
Nnaemeka
@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
16 Mar 18
Okay. Maybe you have so many lovely experiences in your time on earth?
Mari24
@Maria24 (2661)
• United States
16 Mar 18
I would of change the fact that I came to Wisconsin
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Courage7
@Courage7 (19633)
• United States
16 Mar 18
I am sorry to hear this..what age was your brother? The one event I would change that was not good and destroyed my family was my choice of partner in life. He was very evil.
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Nnaemeka
@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
16 Mar 18
My brother was 36 years old.
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Nnaemeka
@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
17 Mar 18
@Courage7 Yeah, so young. Thanks
Courage7
@Courage7 (19633)
• United States
16 Mar 18
@mydanods So young, I am sorry. Thanks
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Danna B.
@db20747 (43434)
• Washington, District Of Columbia
17 Mar 18
I hope U find him. He was grown which means u very well may see him again. Maybe he is running from something. That happened to my cousin and he turned up!!! He's gone missing a few times!!!
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Nnaemeka
@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
17 Mar 18
No. He had some issues with his health. He's not running away from anything. Why won't he come back? Can someone run away for 4 years?
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Nnaemeka
@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
17 Mar 18
@db20747 I hope we do.
Danna B.
@db20747 (43434)
• Washington, District Of Columbia
17 Mar 18
@mydanods sometimes they are running away from someone they owe money to or the law whick may not have been their fault!! He is probably around! Sure pray that U find him and something tells me U will!!
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Manuela Lopes
@nela13 (55824)
• Portugal
17 Mar 18
What happened To your family was a terrible thing and I hope one day you find what happen that day and have some peace.
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Nnaemeka
@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
17 Mar 18
We all hope for peace here.
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Nnaemeka
@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
17 Mar 18
@nela13 We will never know. That information is known only by God. Even the police cannot offer an explanation.
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Manuela Lopes
@nela13 (55824)
• Portugal
17 Mar 18
@mydanods It would help a lot if you actually know what really happened that Day.
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Abishek S K
@Lignitecityabishek96 (7110)
• Cuddalore, India
16 Mar 18
Have you made a police complaint? Have you took any steps to find him? I would have studied well for my public exams,so that i may get good marks.
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Nnaemeka
@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
16 Mar 18
The first thing we made was a police complaint. That was four years ago though. So, you didn't pass very well in your public exams? Do you have a second chance to retake it?
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Abishek S K
@Lignitecityabishek96 (7110)
• Cuddalore, India
16 Mar 18
@mydanods I got passed but I didn't get what I expected.
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Nnaemeka
@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
16 Mar 18
@Lignitecityabishek96 It wasn't an earth shaking event then. Just some irritating event.
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Starmaiden
@Starmaiden (9311)
• Canada
17 Mar 18
One thing I regret and wish I could change is giving custody of my youngest daughter to my ex and his wife. :-(
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Nnaemeka
@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
17 Mar 18
That must have been traumatic for you. I wish you do get visitation rights?
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Nnaemeka
@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
18 Mar 18
@Starmaiden They would have told her all sorts of things about you.
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Starmaiden
@Starmaiden (9311)
• Canada
17 Mar 18
@mydanods Yes I did, but later they shut me out of my daughters life. :-(
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Shavkat
@Shavkat (137261)
• Philippines
17 Mar 18
That's a tragic situation in the family. I feel bad for not seeing your brother after that incident. I don't have an event that makes me into such situation.
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Shavkat
@Shavkat (137261)
• Philippines
17 Mar 18
@mydanods So far so good. I am teaching online while mylotting.
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Nnaemeka
@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
17 Mar 18
It's okay. Wherever he is, God will take care of him. How was your day?
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Judy Evans
@JudyEv (326726)
• Rockingham, Australia
16 Mar 18
Oh goodness, that would have been a terrible time for you and your family. How old was your brother when he disappeared? I wish now I'd gone to university instead of going back on the farm.
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Nnaemeka
@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
17 Mar 18
He was 36 then. That was four years ago.
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Nnaemeka
@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
17 Mar 18
@JudyEv Don't be. It's all in Jehovah's hands now.
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Judy Evans
@JudyEv (326726)
• Rockingham, Australia
17 Mar 18
@mydanods I'm so sorry.
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ingrid
@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
17 Mar 18
i am sorry, but why did you not report it to the police authorities?
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Nnaemeka
@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
17 Mar 18
we reported it the next day. We were afraid people would start accusing us of something strange. The police gave us suggestions and that was all the help they gave.
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Nnaemeka
@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
18 Mar 18
@ridingbet Thank you
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ingrid
@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
18 Mar 18
@mydanods what strange would that be? a missing brother is worse than a missing cat.
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Lynn Fowler
@lynnief (1203)
• Australia
17 Mar 18
I'm so sad to hear about your experience. I hope you will find peace about it. For myself, there is nothing I would change in my life, even if I could. That does not mean that my life has been perfectly happy. Far from it. I have had some sad and terrible experiences, as well as some wonderful ones. But what I have learned through it all is that, if you will allow it, every experience can bring you growth, and no matter how bad the experience was, growth is always good. All the experiences I have had in life have helped to shape the person I am today - and I kinda like the person I am. Besides, if we could go back and change the bad experiences in our lives, there is no guarantee that what we replaced them with would not turn out to be even worse.
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Nnaemeka
@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
17 Mar 18
Your comment was great. But it would be a delight to have the opportunity to change the bad experience in our past because we have the benefit of hindsight.
Amaka
@ammyluv (611)
• Abuja, Nigeria
16 Mar 18
wow! This is so sad! I am so sorry you and your family went through stuff like that and I want you to stop blaming yourself. I totally get why you would want to change that
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Nnaemeka
@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
17 Mar 18
Yes, that's the truth. I want to change it in my life. It causes me nightmares.
eli sayag
@elico6666 (177)
• Kfar Saba, Israel
17 Mar 18
i dident have the chance to be a student and i am 52 years old
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Nnaemeka
@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
17 Mar 18
You're doing fine. Keep on doing what you're doing.