Do You Believe In The ‘Forgive And Forget Policy’?
By AKRao24
@AKRao24 (27422)
India
March 17, 2018 12:14pm CST
I have got inspired by one of the discussion I have gone through recently where someone cheated another because of which the latter got hurt!
These things are on-going in one’s life! As life is big and we need to face many characters in day to day affairs …unfortunately all are not genuine or perfect as we expect them to be!
Many hurt us or offend us because of which we tend to get irritated and get angry on them as we feel that some injustice has been done to us!
We tend to develop negative attitude towards them, start disliking them and at the end start hating them and develop a thought that we would serve a ‘Tit for tat’ when time comes! That is taking revenge when we get an opportunity to do so!
But at the end …today have you realized that we are the people who are suffering because of this attitude! We are unnecessarily burning our blood and unbalancing our hormones to torture ourselves!
Having had a plenty of such experiences in life, now I think that we should forgive such people and forget about them to lead a life happily!
What do you say? Do you believe in the ‘Forgive and forget’ policy?
Please respond! Your responses will be highly appreciated!
These things are on-going in one’s life! As life is big and we need to face many characters in day to day affairs …unfortunately all are not genuine or perfect as we expect them to be!
Many hurt us or offend us because of which we tend to get irritated and get angry on them as we feel that some injustice has been done to us!
We tend to develop negative attitude towards them, start disliking them and at the end start hating them and develop a thought that we would serve a ‘Tit for tat’ when time comes! That is taking revenge when we get an opportunity to do so!
But at the end …today have you realized that we are the people who are suffering because of this attitude! We are unnecessarily burning our blood and unbalancing our hormones to torture ourselves!
Having had a plenty of such experiences in life, now I think that we should forgive such people and forget about them to lead a life happily!
What do you say? Do you believe in the ‘Forgive and forget’ policy?
Please respond! Your responses will be highly appreciated!11 people like this
12 responses
@arthurchappell (44941)
• Preston, England
17 Mar 18
I find it hard to forget and rarely forgive deliberate slights
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@AKRao24 (27422)
• India
18 Mar 18
Are you happy with this situation? Don't you feel always stressed and off mood with those irritating thoughts which have dwelling in your mind dear @arthurchappell! Thanks!
@arthurchappell (44941)
• Preston, England
17 Mar 18
@mydanods my memories are clogged with everything lol
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@toniganzon (77288)
• Philippines
18 Mar 18
I can forgive but I cannot forget. The mistake done will serve as a lesson for me. And it's something that will remind me not to do again. As for the person, when it comes to cheating, I can never trust that person anymore.
I don't hold a grudge, but I just don't forget what was done to me.
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@AKRao24 (27422)
• India
18 Mar 18
I understand your feelings...yes it is difficult to forget completely if some one cheats you...but you have got a big heart that you don't carry any grudge against such person though you don't forget the issue! Thanks @toniganzon! God bless!
@aninditasen (18202)
• Raurkela, India
17 Mar 18
Not always. At times you have to strike back to set people right. Those who commit a heinous crime against you should never be forgiven?
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@AKRao24 (27422)
• India
17 Mar 18
I respect your emotions and feelings ...but in long run we repent for the silly thing of striking back when we realize that the person with whom we behaved like that has no change in him/her and keep on behaving the way that he/she was! That is why it is better to forgive and FORGET such people so that we can live peacefully! this is just my opinion...i welcome your views @aninditasen! Thanks!
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@AKRao24 (27422)
• India
17 Mar 18
@sharon6345 l agree that every living being like to have a life with freedom...thank the Almighty that today you are having that with you...at the cost of a person who never deserved you! God bless! Thanks!
@AKRao24 (27422)
• India
18 Mar 18
@sharon6345 , That is very true , no freedom means living a life of a slave that can be either physical or mental! Thanks!
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@mlgen1037 (29882)
• Manila, Philippines
18 Mar 18
This! I believe in that forgive and forget saying. When we forgive, we must forget about the fault done. It is like a brand new start. But many people find it impossible to forget someone who've hurt them even if they have forgiven that person. We must remember that with forgiveness, forgetting comes after. They are partners.
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@AKRao24 (27422)
• India
18 Mar 18
That is what I mean, having forgiven one must try to forget to start afresh...with the bad memories lingering in the mind there can't a mental peace and one gets stressed! So it is always best thing to implement the 'saying' completely @mlgen1037! Thanks!
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@mlgen1037 (29882)
• Manila, Philippines
18 Mar 18
@AKRao24 Thank you, my friend.
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@ammyluv (611)
• Abuja, Nigeria
17 Mar 18
I totally believe in forgiveness, but one thing is sure...you can forgive but you can't totally forget. Now, what you do with it matters. I can forgive someone for an offence but each time I remember that offence, I still don't hold it against the person.
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@scarlet_woman (23463)
• United States
18 Mar 18
forgive to a degree,perhaps.forget,never.
cause if you do,they'll likely keep doing whatever it was.
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@AKRao24 (27422)
• India
18 Mar 18
What is the guarantee that these are not repeated in future if you don't forget them? This is just my curiosity to know @scarlet_woman ! Thanks!
@CaptAlbertWhisker (32760)
• Calgary, Alberta
18 Mar 18
If I do, I will still be talking with my parents until now. I can forgive but I am not an amnesiac. That is why I decided to stay away so there will be no more feuds after the forgiveness.
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@AKRao24 (27422)
• India
18 Mar 18
you have got a big heart to forgive...forgetting the things as an amnesiac is different than forgetting them deliberately! In my opinion one should forget the issues once they have been solved after forgiving. I appreciate you have got concern for your parents and staying away from them to avoid future feuds! God Bless!
@Letranknight2015 (52665)
• Philippines
18 Mar 18
I heard that when you forgive some one, you let go of that hold of suffering from that person who hurt you.
Otherwise, it only consumes you to hate some more and you never recover from it.
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@AKRao24 (27422)
• India
18 Mar 18
I agree with your views as they are very true and have logic dear @Letranknight2015 ! God bless!
