I love and miss them
By Faye
@FayeHazel (40230)
United States
April 3, 2018 3:41pm CST
26 years ago my grandparents on my dad's side passed away.
I've never forgotten and I'll never quit hurting over this.
It's a hard day, always.
So to ease the pain that we all feel today I told my parents we should go somewhere good out to eat today. Therefore later we are going to Texas Roadhouse.
I remember a lot of things from this date 26 years ago. It's so funny to be bothered about I guess - not that my grandparents died, that makes sense to be upset about, but that this date should continue to bother me. It isn't the same year, after all. That year came and went - and we don't need to live through that again, ever. Also the weather was 100% different, as were we all due to life circumstances.
How do you deal with difficult dates?
Photo: Pixabay a poodle - the type of dog my grandparents liked
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@amadeo (111937)
• United States
5 Apr 18
@FayeHazel always hurt the one you love.La la da da What do I know.
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
5 Apr 18
Thanks. I guess it means I loved them... wish it didn't hurt this bad....
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
5 Apr 18
Thank you dear. You're right, time doesn't heal things, just changes things
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@epiffanie (11327)
• Australia
4 Apr 18
that’s really touching that you miss your grand parents that much.. 
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@epiffanie (11327)
• Australia
6 Apr 18
@FayeHazel I never missed anyone in my family that much.. sometimes I wonder how it really feels to miss people that much ..
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
6 Apr 18
@epiffanie It's not nice. I'm happy that you haven't experienced this amount of discomfort..... :/
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
5 Apr 18
Thanks dear... I guess it means that I loved them and that's a good thing.... just wish didn't hurt this bad
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@Courtlynn (67089)
• United States
3 Apr 18
So sorry for you loss.
I understand the still hurting, and it always being a hard day.
To me, time doesn't heal wounds. It only makes you find ways to cope.
I have two hard days coming at the end of the month, and I'm not ready for them. Though, I never know how I'll be (sad, angry, okay, crying - wise) til those days are here.
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
5 Apr 18
Thank you dear.
Yes, you are very right. Time doesn't heal anything. Changes things maybe, but doesn't heal.
*groan* sorry that you have 2 tough days coming up. I hate that. I found that having something small to look forward to on the day (going out to eat) helped....
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
6 Apr 18
@Courtlynn Yes. Not to belittle people, but I think those that say "time heals..." haven't been through any serious trauma. Hard times, sure... but majorly tough stuff? Likely no.
Oh so sorry for your losses. So young when you lost your cousin and time is never time enough with our grandparents/great grandparents. I'm happy you got to know your great grandma, though. I got to know 1 of mine.
I hope the days go by with a minimum of pain this month and I will keep you in my thoughts
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@Courtlynn (67089)
• United States
6 Apr 18
@FayeHazel that too!
Thanks.. it's ok..
She was the only great-grandparent I knew. Got 13 years with her. 12 with my cousin. But its something, and i have many memories with each.
Thanks, I hope so too.
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@YrNemo (20254)
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11 Apr 18
I am a very forgetful person so the days, weeks and months just fly past without me noticing. I try to turn up to work on the right day though. A month or so ago, I forgot my favorite penpal's birthday. I felt so uncomfortable when I remembered suddenly.
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
11 Apr 18
Actually you just reminded me, my aunt's birthday is coming. Thanks for the reminder. :-)
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@dgobucks226 (37621)
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9 Apr 18
I look at cards and old photos. I visit my mom's gravesite and talk with her. It never gets easy but to remember our love ones is to honor them...
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
9 Apr 18
Lovely quote. You have a talent for finding the right quote for the right occasion.
I'm sorry for your loss. I know my dad will discuss with his parents, in his case I don't know if it hurts or helps him. He talks about wishing they could reply. Maybe I should try.
Thank you my friend.
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
13 Apr 18
@dgobucks226 I believe that is possible, that our loved ones still guide us. My grandma and I have a thing with pennies. Just we can't get replies in the usual way....
I believe that is possible, that our loved ones still guide us. My grandma and I have a thing with pennies. Just we can't get replies in the usual way....1 person likes this
@dgobucks226 (37621)
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12 Apr 18
@FayeHazel Your welcome I believe my Mom is listening and is somehow guiding me in her special way. I guess in a way that is a reply.
I believe my Mom is listening and is somehow guiding me in her special way. I guess in a way that is a reply.1 person likes this
@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
5 Apr 18
Oh no. Those roaring back moments are tough. I had a period of years where it wasn't as vibrant of pain.... and now a period of years where it feels very fresh. Thank you dear.
@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
5 Apr 18
Thanks dear.... it's true .... I wish loving people wasn't so painful.....
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
5 Apr 18
That is really good advice, to remember the good times , thank you and sorry for your losses
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
5 Apr 18
Thank you, you are right, power of prayer is a real and true help
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@rheicel (7065)
• Philippines
6 Apr 18
@FayeHazel Yes, indeed. 
Just keep on praying.
Just keep on praying.1 person likes this
@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
5 Apr 18
I'm so sorry. That is very hard to deal with. I'm not sure how you believe, but I like to think they are still there , on a different plane.
