Would you go to a destination wedding?
By Lena Kovadlo
@lovebuglena (52174)
Staten Island, New York
April 21, 2018 3:26pm CST
My husband and I will be invited to his friend's wedding. I am all for going, except that it will be a destination wedding. We will have to travel to Dominican Republic. That means plane tickets, hotel costs, and most likely a monetary gift for the couple, among other expenses. Plus, my husband will have to take days off from work during which he will not make any money because his job is commission-based. All this makes me not want to go. And I am not planning on it. Hopefully, he will feel the same way.
There are different reasons why people may want a destination wedding. Two of them may be the lower cost and also not having to invite as many people. However, if they want everyone invited to actually come to the wedding, doing a destination one is not a great idea because many guests will decline the invitation. Or so I would think.
If you were invited to a destination wedding would you go?
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@lovebuglena (52174)
• Staten Island, New York
21 Apr 18
@AlisaTR Some people pay for your stay but you have to buy the plane tickets to get there and you have to give a gift. Some may have you pay for plane tickets and hotel but not require a gift.
@mlgen1037 (29882)
• Manila, Philippines
22 Apr 18
If I have the money, I will. But being practical, no of course. I have no time to spend my money on a day that is so costly.
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@lovebuglena (52174)
• Staten Island, New York
23 Apr 18
I'd rather spend that money on something else, like going to a honeymoon, which I've yet to go on.
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@mlgen1037 (29882)
• Manila, Philippines
24 Apr 18
@lovebuglena That can do too. It would be sweet and romantic. 
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@much2say (57760)
• Los Angeles, California
22 Apr 18
One of my very good friends decided to have her wedding in Hawaii . . . where she is originally from. She even asked if I would be her maiden of honor and my daughter be the flower girl. The thing is we were not in a financial situation to make such a trip (plus it was during peak season) and like you said there would be tons of other expenses - sorry but I had to turn her down. All the friends she invited from "here" also did not make it to their wedding. I don't know if my friend didn't have the forethought that maybe not everyone could afford to go or what . . . but I would never have a destination wedding and expect people to fork out all that money to come.
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@lovebuglena (52174)
• Staten Island, New York
23 Apr 18
Maybe she did it on purpose. Maybe she had to invite all of you but wanted to save money on the wedding and did it there knowing many would decline and she wouldn't have to spend as much money.
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@Tina30219 (82978)
• Onaway, Michigan
21 Apr 18
Well I can say I have been invited to them 2 times by my sisters they both got married on cruise ships and I could not afford to go. They understood.
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@Tina30219 (82978)
• Onaway, Michigan
21 Apr 18
@lovebuglena Right. I can’t afford those kind of luxuries I wish I could
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@lovebuglena (52174)
• Staten Island, New York
21 Apr 18
It is good that they understood. I reckon not everyone is that way and may get upset if you don't go their wedding.
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@lovebuglena (52174)
• Staten Island, New York
23 Apr 18
I agree with you. Some people feel like they are obligated to go or that if they don't go to the wedding the relationship with the couple will suffer.
@AlisaTR (936)
• Trinidad And Tobago
21 Apr 18
I probably would not go unless it is someone I am really close to simply because of the logistics and the expense. But the Dominican Republic is really beautiful though, so if you are thinking of a getaway for yourselves, it might be good to consider it.
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@lovebuglena (52174)
• Staten Island, New York
24 Apr 18
I've been there on vacation many times. If I went to the Caribbean I'd wanna go to another island country.
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@scarlet_woman (23463)
• United States
22 Apr 18
nope.if i'm paying for travel,it's on my terms.
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
22 Apr 18
Probably not. I don't like to travel anymore and couldn't even get to a memorial service for an old friend because it was a three-hour drive when I didn't feel well. If people want a destination wedding they may as well elope and have a reception with friends when they return home.
@hereandthere (45628)
• Philippines
22 Apr 18
celebrities are doing it here, too, either an exclusive high-end resorts or overseas, so of course, mostly celebrities can afford to attend. i guess it's their way of avoid gatecrashers and fans taking unauthorized pictures and videos.
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@lovebuglena (52174)
• Staten Island, New York
23 Apr 18
Even celebrities, who can afford a big wedding, do small, private ceremonies.
@jaboUK (64346)
• United Kingdom
23 Apr 18
I wouldn't go unless it was family, or if we could incorporate it into a holiday we were already planning. My daughter got married in Thailand (where she was living), and consequently most of our family didn't go. We did of course, and spent three weeks there and had a fabulous time.
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@lovebuglena (52174)
• Staten Island, New York
23 Apr 18
You had no choice as she was your daughter.
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@Iam_jauntyjen (5452)
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22 Apr 18
If I could afford,why not? . That could also be a good short vacation.
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@lovebuglena (52174)
• Staten Island, New York
23 Apr 18
If you actually wanted to go to the place where the wedding would be for a vacation.
@tso1960 (224)
• United States
21 Apr 18
I have been invited to a destination wedding and we didn't go because we could not afford it, but we are still good friends with the couple, they totally understood, that we could not afford it. I think that most of the time the couple understands that many people can not afford it.
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@lovebuglena (52174)
• Staten Island, New York
21 Apr 18
It's not just about whether you can afford it or not. It's also whether you actually want to spend that kinda of money, even if you have plenty of it you can spend.
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