Home maker...a full Time job?

United States
September 10, 2006 9:03am CST
I think it is. I am a home maker myself and feel like I dont get enough time to do anything for myself. I have 3 wonderful baby girls. I couldnt imagin what life would be like if I had to work and take care of the house. I did work after having my first daughter. In fact I worked a full time job and a part time job. Now that I get to spend time with the other 2 and watch them grow, I know what I missed with the first one. We arent as close as the other 2 and I are.
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@chalmette69 (3010)
• United States
14 Sep 06
I am a homemaker as well and I seem to never have enough time. I also keep other peoples children and that keeps me busy too. I would never trade being a stay at home mom. I have been there for all my daughters big moments and would never want to miss any of them. My daughter is 10 now and we are so close.
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• United States
14 Sep 06
I can't blame you at all. i do think you can work some time for yourself. every home is run differently. I had my 3 nephews and my daughter and found time for myself. It is just something you have to work at. I am glad you can see what you missed out on. I can't think of the housrs my daughter spent in this rechet womans house. sitting in a frakin chair all day. I wish you luck with yours angels.
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• United States
14 Sep 06
I BELIEVE IT IS. AND AN IMPORTANT ONE TOO. THE FIRST FIVE YEARS OF ANY CHILDS LIFE ARE THE MOST IMPORTANT. AT FIVE YEARS OLD THEY ARE ALREADY THE PERSON THEY WILL BE FOR THE REST OF THEIR LIVES. CHILDREN SHOULD HAVE THE MOST AFFECTION AND ATTENTION IN THIS STAGE OF THEIR DEVELOPMENT. AFTER FIVE THE JOB GETS EASIER AND YOU CAN START TO LET GO. ALTHOUGH IT IS A SLOW PROCESS, IT IS VERY HARD TO LET GO. SOME MOTHERS NEVER DO.
• United States
15 Sep 06
DEFINITELY! I have 7 kids and I work from home. I used to work outside the home, but it was insane. Jobs don't want to hear about your kids being ill, snow days or doctor's appointments. My kids come first, so when I lost my job I went on a quest to find ways to earn income online. Now I earn all my money online!
@rainbow (6763)
14 Sep 06
I worked when Bong (6) was small and stopped work when I was pregnant with Roo(2). My mom looked after Bong and I missed a lot so cut down to part time. Eventually I gave up work because I was pregnant and my mom was ill. I feel much closer to Roo because I am always with him and feel guilty about leaving Bong as we have now found out he has Autism and ADHD and I was more concerned about providing the things he needed like a home than about spending time with him. I do not feel that I have time to go out to work but am training to work from home once they are both at school.
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@mcc371 (918)
• United States
14 Sep 06
I worked up until I had my first child. Then, I wanted to stay longer home so I didn't go back once my leave was up. I worked some after he turned a yr. But It was so hard on me that it stressed me the whole day what was happening at day care becausethat was just when all the daycare was coming over the news with child abuse reports and the state mandated they be licensed to proceed..Then I found out we were going to have our second baby I told my hubby I thought we could make it on his check things would be tighter but I knew my place was at home with our children and what we would be paying a babysitter would just go to the children. He agreed, Two yrs. later I had a third child, My kids are all two yrs. apart. I have been a stay at home mom. In the last five years I have found things on the internet to do and make a little to supplement his paycheck. Our kids are now teens and we are so close. I now work full time at home for companies and make twice what I did back then. I don't have any regrets and I am lucky to have such a wonderful and understanding husband. My only thought is time has went to fast for us, they are 14,16,18 now.
• United States
14 Sep 06
I think home maker is a full time job specially if you have a children with you all day. Im home maker too and all I do now is clean the house, cook, do laundry, wash dishes but when my daughter was still alive, it was hard.
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@babray06 (1787)
• India
14 Sep 06
It's fulltime but not a job, it's what you are doing on you own and sometime you may feel you wanted to do more. I feel you are a great example to so many mothers and you are blessed by the Almighty to have such wonderful thinking.
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• United States
17 Sep 06
I am a work-at-home mom. I have a new 5 mo old son. I didn't want to put him in day care and pay someone else to raise him. Since i chose to work at home i can work when i want.
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@fritz27 (1137)
• United States
16 Sep 06
I WAS A FULLTIME MOM. THEN I WORKED FULL TIME, I HAD LESS TIME AS A FULLTIME MOM THAN A FULLTIME EMPLOYEE.
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@bratt3 (3)
• United States
15 Sep 06
I think so too IF we paid people to do the job we do to stay at home and take care of the kids and the home front it would cost us thousands a month.
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@slimfox (900)
• United States
15 Sep 06
im a stay at home moo too. i have 3 boys and i love being at home with them.my husband is in the navy is gone most of the time..i only have a few years then my youngest will be starting school.
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@wsue1023 (1396)
• United States
14 Sep 06
Homemaker here too. It's at the very least 2 full time jobs. I'm mommy nearly 24/7, only getting a time out once a week for my Bible study. It's wonderful to be a mom, but it can be overwhelming too. We need to find ways to make time for ourselves, just to stay healthy. I'm a better mom when I get a break and a better wife too. I think it's very difficult in my situation because I don't have a car, so I can't even take the kids on outings. We get cabin fever and when the weather isn't great we can't even walk to the park. Still, I wouldn't trade being home for anything. I don't want to be in the work force. I'd rather be home with my 2 kiddos. I'm very grateful to be home with them and I know there are a lot of women who would give anything to trade places with me. Anyway, find ways to meet with a friend once in awhile, or just get out and take a walk by yourself. Very healthy and rejuvenating. If I could, I would take a break at least twice a week just to remember who I am!! lol
@sanell (2113)
• United States
17 Sep 06
I have two girls and I love to spend time with them. The hardest thing for me is to find structure for them during the day, I work from home but I love my job because i work my own hours. I am hoping to put my first one who is almost 3 into a montessori but I have to wait until we move to do so. It kind of sucks but hey, I just want to get her into something 2 days a week. She is potty trained and everything already at only 2 1/2 and I love my baby girl. THey are fun. I do a lot of housework, and I help my dad and my husband with other things too. I have to have something to do at almost all times, so I know that I will have plenty to do as my business grows. But that is me, I like to do projects and I love the kids....I am so glad to be at home with them....we have fun!
@peetred (272)
• United States
17 Sep 06
I wouldn't give up being a stay at home mom for the world. I am getting to watch my baby grow up and it's the most wonderful thing in the world. I also plan on homeschooling.
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• United States
16 Sep 06
Yeah but this FT job needs a payment plan...LOL Just kidding. My hubby is a Marine, and we are not "loaded" but our bills get paid and we still get to go out. But I dont think i could ever trade this job. I have thought about it but then i pull back on the reins and say no. I dont wanna miss all that she does. I mean its hard with deployments bc how do you explain to a 3 yr old that daddy is in Iraq??? All i can say to her is hes working and he will be home sometime.... You can only say that so many times a day.
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@amiksinha (1961)
• India
15 Sep 06
Its true.. it very diffecult to manage home and office job together. After all children also would like to spend some time with their parents and if u r office going then after u come back to home, u will be tired and busy cleaning home and cooking for them , then where u will get time. So u shd think of some home based business which can make you to spend more time with ur children
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@tanwark (34)
15 Sep 06
i think thats the biggest responsibily one cud ever have....hats off to the homemakers...
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@pumpkinjam (6928)
• United Kingdom
25 Oct 06
Yes, it is a full time job. I come on here while the kids are having their breakfast and maybe a little while after they have gone to bed because it's all the free time I have. It's not so bad with my 6 year old because he's at school most of the time but my baby has recently leanrt to crawl so all the time I'm trying to get housework done, I'm chasing after him as well so I end up having to leace the housework and do that after he's in bed! So yes, it's definitely full time and anyone who thinks it isn't ought to try it!
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• United States
25 Oct 06
I have 3 kids, 5, 2, and almost 1. So I know what you mean about not having that much time. I get time to workout after they go to bed and IF they take naps. My kids dont ever want to take naps at the same time so....yeah its hard to do anything. :) But it is so worth it!! I feel so much closer to the baby's than the oldest. I think its because I wasnt around all the time when she was a baby. I worked 2-3 jobs at a time. But now I have a wonderful husband who wants the best for us.
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• United States
24 Oct 06
being a home maker is truely a full time job. You are oncall 24/7 no brakes. My husband used to say that I get a break during nap time. I said what do you think I do during nap. I clean the kithcen pull something out for dinner do a load of laudry. Pick up the living room. There is a lot to do in 1 1/2 hours. Half the time I think I am more tired after they get up from there nap then I was before they went down.
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• United Kingdom
25 Oct 06
I feel like that sometimes but now my kids don't nap so I've got no time at all to do anything!