Favoritism

how did you know? and how do your siblings feel about that?

@hereandthere I have 10 siblings, I am #6 and I am the first one who got cellphone from our parents. I feel they always prioritize me..

Lucky you.

@simplfred Exactly! She never admitted that my brother was her favorite, but everybody noticed the difference.

The sad thing is that if we asked them, they'll say "No, No, we treated you equally".lol.

@LadyDuck ha ha. my parents too.

@simplfred I really hard to overcome the situation. I struggled for a long time and tried to find love to others but no avail until someone came I am just lucky I found my husband who made me understand and accept the situation.

@Bhebelen14 At the end at least we've learned lesson from it for us to use during the time of parenting.

I'm glad that you overcome the situation. There were times of my life that I've acted like a fool revolting with my father because of the favoritism issue. But being a family man now I understand why.

Definitely we love all our children. But sometime without our notice jealousy already seeded to one of them. Well, that's only my observation.

@simplfred Its pretty good that my children do not show signs of jealousy because we always try to make it a point that we don't show any favoritism.

@cherigucchi That's good.

@simplfred what do you mean? why the dream?

@ridingbet i'm sorry just been to your page and now i understand. I almost mean dream for another child... lol

Ha ha. Why not dream for another one.

So true, I can relate with that. There's a poem I've made about it. Title: To Be A Parent The love they've rubbed is never only a cover If we open their books it contents depth and weight They didn't literally write, they've never used a pen But what historically they've written can't be compare Tired eyes they've hurriedly open Upon hearing the child's cry, they'll look for our wound To give handkerchief when we are sweaty To teach us to fill our space of innocence As countless waves kisses the sand The lesson they've planted to us seems uprooted by air Their ability has also a limit There are definitely things that they cannot fill Our sometimes impossible request Instead to understand, thinks our dreams were killed and the reason was them We think we are wise, that's why we've always answered them We think we are great, that we don't need any medicine As the sun and the moon quickly interchanged Time came that we've regretted It's odd to thinks sometimes when we had gone their way Only then we've understood the value of their book... Note: I don't know if I've translated it right because it is written in our own national language.

@LeeShanty That's a beautiful quote you have in your country. My first time to read such and definitely it make alot of sense.

@simplfred Wow! it's totally true. in my nation there is a term too, it says " a mom or a dad can care 10 children, but 10 children rarely can care their mom or dad"

I hope I could do the same as a parent.

Yah, we are six. Why?

@simplfred so, you and your sister are the lucky ones among the six.

@hereandthere Nope, I just used that as an example of my argument. Because If I explain our situation one by one It'll be along one. ha ha.

So true. Sometimes the feeling of jealousy will be carried till adulthood.

Yeah, no parent is perfect.

@simplfred Yes they truly are.

I think your parents are amazing.

@simplfred thank you.

ha ha. lucky for you.

@simplfred uhuh me too

Like the ice cream part. lol.

So true indeed. It is unfair right, jealousy is always there.

@simplfred That's right.