Deceived.
By rakski
@rakski (156200)
Philippines
June 16, 2018 7:05pm CST
Hello everyone.
Today we are celebrating Father's Day in our country. For most people, they will surely celebrate it with their dads. We used to celebrate this also with our father. Our father was our hero. We looked up to him. We respected him. We listened and we believed in him.
But everything last December 2015.
After 40 years of existence in this world, me and my siblings found out we have other siblings from my father with other women.
One woman was our nanny when I was very young but we do not know where they are now. Who told me this story? My mother.
This not end here.
He has new 'younger' kids now. 'Younger' means they are almost the same age as my kids and younger. I have two kids. He has more. And he chose to be with the kids and the woman now. The woman who is with him now is a few years my junior and was known to be with a lot of men before.
I am sorry. Maybe this not sounded so good on a Father's day.
He is still my father. I do wish him well.
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14 responses
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
17 Jun 18
It is a hard pill to swallow, when you find out such things about your own father. I never knew much about my dad, even when we lived in the same house. Tomorrow is Sunday for us and so father's day. I know it's already Sunday where you are.
I found a picture of my dad holding me when I was a baby. I might take a picture of the picture and send it to my dad via text. I'm planning to text him tomorrow out of a sense of duty and not because he necessarily deserves it.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
17 Jun 18
@rakski I understand. You idolize your father only to realize he isn't as super heroic as you had first thought. I don't think I ever idolized my father, my childhood was a bit tumultuous because of him.
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@rakski (156200)
• Philippines
17 Jun 18
@ScribbledAdNauseum that is true that is also a reason why it is harder to accept what happened.
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@Raine38 (12387)
• United States
17 Jun 18
I understand your sentiments. At some point, our father also had an affair, and my siblings and I would have had another brother/sister had the other woman not commit abortion. It's all in the past now, more than 15 years ago and since then my dad has never strayed.
It is nice to know that despite everything your father did to you and your mother, you still wish him well. You are right, he is still your father. I am not sure if he played any role in your upbringing, but whoever brought you up did a very good job.
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@chavezrmc (6095)
• Philippines
17 Jun 18
I'm sorry to hear about this. We all have different stories and I'm sure we're getting some lessons from those. Let it be our guide to do better in our own lives.. Have a blessed Sunday and good week ahead. 
Happy Father's day to all father.
Happy Father's day to all father.3 people like this
@toniganzon (77064)
• Philippines
18 Jun 18
I wonder how you were not able to know about those?
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@toniganzon (77064)
• Philippines
18 Jun 18
@rakski So he did that when all of you were already married and not during the time when you were young and living with him?
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@rakski (156200)
• Philippines
18 Jun 18
We did not think that our dad can do that. Compared to the reputation of my cousins from my mother side, we did not believe a word they said about out father. During the time I got married, from time to time, I received a wrong sent text from my dad which was intended for the woman, I confront him with these but he denied it. When I called him once hearing a baby or kids in the background, I asked him but eh had a lot of alibis and excuses and we failed to see all these with the belief that my father will not and cannot do such thing.
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@rakski (156200)
• Philippines
18 Jun 18
@toniganzon I am planning for the wedding when I first receive a wrong text message. When I moved in with my husband I think the woman moved in to our house with my father. But when we go and visit there. There is no one there but him.
@rakski (156200)
• Philippines
18 Jun 18
@SIMPLYD yes and yes
Yes, she is a kind, generous, understanding and brave woman. And I honor her and I am so proud of her.
Yes, for my dad though it was hard for us to see and realize -- he is truly a womanizer (hard to say and accept but he is).
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@rakski (156200)
• Philippines
17 Jun 18
My mom only knew the one from our nanny and since they (the nanny and her son) went back to the province, my mom did not said anything about it. My mom who was the one who helped financially for the hospital payment when the she gave birth,.
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@thislittlepennyearns (68159)
• Defuniak Springs, Florida
17 Jun 18
I do not talk to my father often but will text him tomorrow.
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@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
19 Jun 18
It seems a stranger more than a father. I am sorry this happened.
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@hereandthere (45628)
• Philippines
17 Jun 18
now i understand what your other post meant (because i read that one first).
i can't believe your father is asking you and your siblings to support his new younger wife and younger children. you have your own families now and your own kids aren't old enough to work yet.
is he not working? is his new partner not working?
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@rakski (156200)
• Philippines
17 Jun 18
Actually, we have been supporting them for eight years without our knowledge. 8 long years. My mom and my sister's savings were all put to them without our knowledge.
My dad is already a senior. He stopped working when I was in college and became a free lancer. He has a pension now but not enough for 5 kids and a wife
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@Freelanzer (10782)
• Canada
17 Jun 18
Unfortunately our parents are sometimes flawed - my was and he two was a womanizer.. However, he has passed now but I have always loved him and still do.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
17 Jun 18
in my personal opinion, i hoped you should not have divulged this information about your father. but then, we do not really know your personal information, even your name and surname, from where do you live, or how old are you.
i still wish that you still love your father despite the errors he made to you and your mother.-
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@rakski (156200)
• Philippines
17 Jun 18
They knew of the situation already. They met his new kids and I still up to now do not know them. My dad now more than ever tries to avoid me because I am the one who ask him upfront about this and if I did not do that, until now we are living under all the pretense of a happy family.
As for me, I have been the youngest in the family for 40 years until 2 years ago when this all happens.
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@rakski (156200)
• Philippines
19 Jun 18
@ridingbet once in a while when he needs money.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
19 Jun 18
@rakski i get it. do you still get to communicate with your father?
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