COLDshoulder.
By ingrid
@ridingbet (66854)
Philippines
July 2, 2018 11:06pm CST
Good Tuesday morning to us all.
Have you experienced living in a house where there is cold shoulder treatment between you and another resident? I do, and I am.
There is still a cold air circulating in our house. Though my son talks to my sister (but is not apologetic), I reply to my sister when she asks me something, as cold as ice.
That is one of my attitudes. If I know I am right, I don’t bend my knees and say SORRY. Maybe in time, I and she will talk as if nothing happened, but I am not a fake person and she knows that.
Now, I am hoping it is now August so I can stay away from home. My son is just fine. Once he is doing something in his laptop, I do not disturb him. My sister should do that too, but time and again, she complains of some body pains and aches, like just wanting attention from me and my son.
I don’t know when I will have a warm shoulder; maybe December?
Or maybe I should wear some sweaters on?
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
3 Jul 18
that is good to know. maybe some other time, i and my sister will be okay. but i don't know when.
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@RubyHawk (99367)
• Atlanta, Georgia
4 Jul 18
@ridingbet It's really hard but sometimes you don't have a choice. I had no choice because no other options were available, but later they were able to get their own place.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
4 Jul 18
@RubyHawk good morning. we are talking already but there is still some air of indifference.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
4 Jul 18
yes hija, i know your situation there also. for me, i think it will go, and it is doing well now. she talked first last night.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
5 Jul 18
@JustBhem but there is an air of animosity still. her eyes, yes her eyes are envious.
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@neelia_lyn (2003)
• Philippines
3 Jul 18
I've been there and it's a hard and awkward situation. Just let things cool down, things will be okay.
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@hereandthere (45628)
• Philippines
4 Jul 18
@ridingbet if she speaks to you, then yes, you answer. what i mean is if you don't feel like initiating conversation yet, then don't.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
5 Jul 18
@hereandthere she does the first move, always. i am not really compelled to initiate talk with her.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
4 Jul 18
yes, i have to. she spoke first to me last night, and i answered her.
"here is the TV remote control, I am going to bed"---that was her dialogue last night.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
4 Jul 18
yes that is so true. we started talking this morning. there were no apologies uttered, it is as if it is normal for us to have animosity, which i dislike.
@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
4 Jul 18
really? maybe your relative thought you paid because it was delayed payment? 
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@YrNemo (20254)
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4 Jul 18
@ridingbet Oh no, I just moved in at the time. Had never stayed there before in my life.
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@Shavkat (141906)
• Philippines
4 Jul 18
@ridingbet It could last for a week. We don't talk much if it happens.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
4 Jul 18
how many days kabsat, don't you talk to each other?
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
5 Jul 18
@Shavkat indeed, it is so hard to med the fence again. a hole is already present, i believe no amount of patch can bring back what was removed from it.
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@LadyDuck (502208)
• Italy
4 Jul 18
@ridingbet I am glad she decided to speak first. I think like you, she will be rude again sooner that she thinks.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
5 Jul 18
@LadyDuck yes, and i should expect that. that is why i believe i have so many discussions here showing my relationship with her, her being the 'antagonist' of our family. so many posts about her attitude. it is in this site that i can pour out my rant and emotions.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
4 Jul 18
she spoke first last night. i hope she won't be that rude in the future, which i doubt it will.
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