Ever been blamed for doing good?
By vanny
@vandana7 (98826)
India
July 15, 2018 10:00am CST
These nuns...sigh...now I have to be their lawyer...on social media.
I do like them a lot you know. That is a disclaimer.
So there are aborigines out here, called adivasis. And this girl came to the nun when she was pregnant. No information on how she got pregnant. One wonders if it is adivasi custom or somebody cheated her or raped her etc.
But she cried that she does not have enough to take care of the child, and the nun arranged for somebody to adopt the child, and getting 120000 INR in process.
Is it wrong?
First and foremost, when law implementation is bad, and socially a person can be ostracized, then I would deem this as help and not child trafficking provided
a. The nun verified about the parents. Children are adopted or kidnapped for organs. But it is unlikely that the purpose of taking that child was for the organs as the baby is new born and not good enough to be a donor.
b. The nun declared how much she received which she did, and did not use it for personal benefit.
Orphanages and old age homes now do not enjoy tax concessions as they did in the past. Now they are entitled only to 50 percent tax concession which has made raising monies difficult for these charitable organizations.
CARA ..the government agency that enables adoption should also have been informed. CARA anyway allows parent to receive a sum of 40000 so the word child trafficking would be wrong in this case.
Just that when nobody is helping the poor, helpless, needy, and these women have devoted their life for that charity, it is a shame to subject them to such humiliation. The poor lady was as honest as she could be feeling guilty and uncomfortable.
Shame on journalism if it does not see that society would be a loser if such people are made to walk on tight rope. After all, she was only trying to help.
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@garymarsh6 (23393)
• United Kingdom
15 Jul 18
It was a noble act rather than giving her up to the authorities so that she was placed in an orphanage. Hopefully the nun would have monitored the progress of the child to make sure she was being well cared for.
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@garymarsh6 (23393)
• United Kingdom
16 Jul 18
@vandana7 I would not blame the woman if she had been a victim of rape. I guess there are always reasons why some give up their precious child. I doubt that it is done without any regret. I hope the child will be brought up by a loving couple that give her all that she requires in life.
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@vandana7 (98826)
• India
16 Jul 18
@garymarsh6 I agree, if she is victim of rape or even betrayal of trust, she can't be blamed. But out here, male child is such coveted progeny that people continue to have more children in hope of striking gold. Two ladies I know have had more than 3 girl children. One of them 5 and the last one was given away for adoption. No amount of education helps because traditional beliefs are frequently thrown on face, and well, I do know that people who are better educated than me continue to carry such thoughts into next generation.
And many are more than happy to surrender their child or leave them. Those "natural" feelings that you mention pale in front of monetary implications. Even people who have enough are willing to dump their children, to enjoy their lives. You see, having child is often just a proof that my uterus is functioning and I am not a barren person, or impotent man.
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@garymarsh6 (23393)
• United Kingdom
16 Jul 18
@vandana7 Yes I heard this before Vanny. It is shameful. I don't know how a woman who has carried a baby for nine months could give it up without a second thought. It is heartless and morally so wrong.
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@vandana7 (98826)
• India
16 Jul 18
The journalist is in rush to be the first one to report, or at least the second or the third, so is not bothered to find out about the pregnancy background. They do our society such disservice when they label organizations such as this bad, since no infrastructure is there to help the poor and needy out...first let them build it, and then talk about such things as undermining another religion. Sigh. Makes me want to hit out at them...and hit out badly. More at the journalist than the Hindu fanatic because the duty of journalist is to raise pertinent questions not bias people.
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@vandana7 (98826)
• India
15 Jul 18
Me too...but they are calling it child trafficking racket. I am feeling so sorry for the nun. The money also...after this government took over, it has reduced tax rebates on donations to such organizations, so donations have pretty much dried up. It becomes difficult to operate without monies.
@akalinus (40440)
• United States
15 Jul 18
I am not sure how to answer this. I have heard of some missionaries who the government accused of attempting to traffic children when they helped street orphans. I think the powers that be do not like Christians like the nuns or missionaries and try to make life as difficult as possible. Children and women suffer as a result.
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@vandana7 (98826)
• India
16 Jul 18
No...but I feel I have to stand up in defense of the nun. My heart was aching when the poor lady was being cornered by the journalist. She was being as truthful as possible, fearing god or whatever. The lady must have helped many sick and ailing. She deserved some respect. The journalist should not have been so poking. And should have tried to inform people that last year government removed concessions on tax for people donating. Halved them. In the process, these organizations could be looking at alternative source of revenue. Yeah..sometimes I fight..I hate injustice.
