Marriage Proposal: Inquiring Minds Want to Know
By patgalca
@patgalca (18481)
Orangeville, Ontario
July 19, 2018 10:51pm CST
I saw my daughter's boyfriend's mother today. I told her I thought she had been avoiding me because she was afraid to let out J's secret. Turns out she had a cancerous tumor removed from her thyroid. Why didn't J. tell me that? I asked him later and he said, "You didn't ask." I said I was always asking how she was. How was I to know I was supposed to ask if she had cancer?
I finally brought it up to J that my husband had opened his big mouth about the proposal. He was furious at my husband and he was determined to tear him to pieces (jokingly - but he was going to confront him). It took a lot of convincing, and tickling him, to get him not to say anything to my husband. I told him that I was on his side (the boyfriend's). I told him I had held it in for 2 months without saying anything.
Anyway, his mother had told me she didn't know what was going on other than that they know they will always be together. That's pretty much a given.
When I asked J. he said that HE didn't bring it up to my husband, that my husband asked HIM. So there is really no proposal expected in the near future. As J. said, it's not like he is out looking at rings or anything. Their first priority is a house.
So I'm a little disappointed. I did ask him his budget for a house but the houses anywhere near here are just too expensive. I do hope they find something. I need a wedding and grandkids before I die! 
So that's the update. We continue to wait.
So that's the update. We continue to wait.6 people like this
7 responses
@patgalca (18481)
• Orangeville, Ontario
20 Jul 18
@cintol That's not going to happen, especially when they are both still living in their parents' homes. I would be very upset if my daughter moved in with her boyfriend at his parents' house (they have a bigger house with an extra wing reserved for the in-laws when they are in town). One grandmother being much closer than the other. I would be ticked.
@patgalca (18481)
• Orangeville, Ontario
20 Jul 18
They have been investing money and saving money and meeting with the bank and doing everything they can to secure their future. The only thing is my daughter working for the airlines is taking advantage and travelling a lot. Though they do travel cheap. She wants to get all her travel out of the way before settling down.
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@andriaperry (118793)
• Anniston, Alabama
20 Jul 18
I hope all goes well for them. A house is a good start.
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@responsiveme (22923)
• India
20 Jul 18
They will work things out at their own time,it is good to know they care deeply about each other. As parents we can only wait .
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@BarBaraPrz (51819)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
20 Jul 18
It isn't necessary to have rings that cost several thousands of dollars, nor is it necessary to have a lavish wedding. Really. And it's not necessary to own a house before having kids.
@patgalca (18481)
• Orangeville, Ontario
20 Jul 18
They need to be living in their own home. There is no way they are going to throw away money on rent that could be going into a house. I don't want them to have a big wedding. They're inching closer. It would be nice if the housing prices would start to go down a bit.
