Jobs are a touchy subject for me.
By AmberLynn
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104632)
United States
July 24, 2018 7:05pm CST
I had one friend who mentioned to me once about applying for different places to work. I told her that I knew what I wanted and what I didn't want and that I wanted to try something different for myself. She respected me and dropped the subject of it.
I have a friend that I only know online and whom I met because of things I did online to make money. She messages me from time to time asking me about whether I am looking for work and I just have to ignore her. I know her well enough to know that explaining myself wouldn't much matter.
I also have to say that I didn't really hound her when she was unemployed so I wish she wouldn't hound me. Like I said, easy to ignore and wait it out.
My thing is this : Do you pay my bills? No. Then don't worry about it.
I don't ask for hand outs. I don't go crying because I can't buy this or I can't buy that.
Yes, I do live at home. People seem to mistake that for me living off of my family. I don't do that. I pay my own bills an I contribute what I can to the household. It works for us and I would worry if I did move out because of the extenuating circumstances I'd rather not explain here.
Anyway, sorry for this half rant but I had to get it off my chest.
Don't Judge what you don't fully understand.
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@allen0187 (58444)
• Philippines
25 Jul 18
People are quick to judge but slow to understand.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104632)
• United States
25 Jul 18
That's a very good way of putting it.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
25 Jul 18
Me too, I get it sometimes.
Friends will ask me if I'm back to work, and I would simply tell them that I'm on the recovery process yet.
I know that they want to me to live my life the way I wanted but for now, I keep trying to get a part-time task but looks like it's not yet my time though I keep trying. It's kind of frustrating and at the same time, it's stressing me.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104632)
• United States
25 Jul 18
I can understand that. It doesn't help when friends are inquisitive even if it is them just wanting the best for you. It's frustrating when you are trying to find work but can't.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
25 Jul 18
@ScribbledAdNauseum
It is indeed frustrating. I have offers but those are full time. I can't work full time as I have dialysis every Monday and Thursday.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104632)
• United States
25 Jul 18
@JustBhem I hope a part time offer comes along for you soon.
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@dodo19 (47121)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
25 Jul 18
@ScribbledAdNauseum It's good to have people to help, but sometimes it's how the person asks. Sometimes, people don't always appreciate being asked constantly, and we do need to be careful how we ask.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104632)
• United States
25 Jul 18
@dodo19 I am guilty of using a tone that seems angry. Sometimes my frustrations on things come out in my voice and so I try to not allow my frustrations to come through.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104632)
• United States
25 Jul 18
Exactly. She and I are friends online. It's not that I keep things from her, but I don't tell her every detail of my life either. She was in a similar situation to me and I tried to help her with getting a job. All I said was places she could go to see about getting one. I never pestered her about it.
I am sure she think she's being helpful but it's the way she asked that bothered me the most.
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@RasmaSandra (73743)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
25 Jul 18
Each person has their own reasons for doing what they do. I will have to eventually look for work but right now I can manage and I am glad to contribute to my income with passive money from online. It does stretch the pennies and I am glad.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104632)
• United States
25 Jul 18
Exactly, I can manage with what I earn online. It might not mean I have a lot at the end of the week but I can pay my bills and that is what matters.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104632)
• United States
25 Jul 18
People tend to assume that because it is the "normal way of doing things', that you should do things that way as well.
I don't understand it.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104632)
• United States
25 Jul 18
It can also depend on how they word the things they say. Sometimes it's the wording that doesn't set well with the recipient.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104632)
• United States
25 Jul 18
@Lissiel Oh I know you aren't judging. You are right, there really is no control over what other people say and do.
@Lissiel (423)
• Philippines
25 Jul 18
@ScribbledAdNauseum I'm not judging, I'm just saying you have no control on what people will say. They will talk on things they like to talk. Just focus on the things you want to do.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104632)
• United States
25 Jul 18
That is a good outlook to have. Not to worry about those nosy individuals and just be and do for yourself.
@Shavkat (137238)
• Philippines
26 Jul 18
@ScribbledAdNauseum I agree. In real life, some of them cannot give help and left us in times of difficulties. I had some of these people before and now, I cut the ties between them.
@PatZAnthony (14752)
• Charlotte, North Carolina
25 Jul 18
Many we know have several generations sharing space. It works! Sending you a PM with info you might want-
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104632)
• United States
25 Jul 18
Okay thank you. I'll check the Pm here in a moment.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104632)
• United States
25 Jul 18
I am over it now but it did upset me. I do know deep down she only has the best intentions. I don't think she realizes that "tough" talk doesn't work for me. It just upsets me more.
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@LadyDuck (459348)
• Switzerland
26 Jul 18
@ScribbledAdNauseum I am like you. I do not like people who want to "suggest" what I should (or should not) do. It's an invasion of my privacy.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104632)
• United States
25 Jul 18
I agree that people look at it from their own perspective. However, as I said, atleast with this person, they were once in the position where they were not willing to get a job.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104632)
• United States
19 Aug 18
Well, I hardly talk to her anymore. I Think there's always room to give advice, it's just a matter of how it's given and how it's perceived.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104632)
• United States
19 Aug 18
@RubyHawk I always try to be, and apologize when I am not so diplomatic.
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@RubyHawk (99423)
• Atlanta, Georgia
19 Aug 18
@ScribbledAdNauseum That's true, you should be diplomatic with any advice you hand out.
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@nela13 (55734)
• Portugal
25 Jul 18
Some people are rude, why does she keep asking you those things? It is your problem not her's.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104632)
• United States
25 Jul 18
I agree. That is just the way that some people are.
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@nela13 (55734)
• Portugal
26 Jul 18
@ScribbledAdNauseum People always wnat to know more about other people's lifes 
@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
25 Jul 18
I agree with you on that.. we should not judge unless we know everything
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104632)
• United States
25 Jul 18
There are so many nuances of details that people dont' know about each other. Especially the way a person thinks. We don't know what might hurt them.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104632)
• United States
25 Jul 18
That's a good rule to live by.
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@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
25 Jul 18
I can understand why you have ranted about it. i have experienced people like that and they often make you feel that they are so much better and every time you talk to them you'd just feel as if you ate below them (in a way). I can't explain it fully well but i think they do these so they can make themselves feel better (or so they thought).
Live and let live! =)
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104632)
• United States
25 Jul 18
I do know what you mean. There are people who make you feel as if you are below them. There's a saying, something along the lines of "the bottom of your shoe."
@tammys85 (29952)
• Baltimore, Maryland
28 Jul 18
It bugs me when people, especially online, worry about what others are doing in terms of work. There are people who DO have jobs, and are still hounded by others because they work in retail (I've seen that one on Twitter), and I don't even get how that's any of their business.
Like you, I also live at home, but I also contribute and pay my own bills. People shouldn't just judge a situation they may not know anything about.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104632)
• United States
25 Jul 18
I like to take the less confrontational way out. With online friends, it's somtimes easier to just back away for awhile.
I could rub in her face how she was once in a similar situation but I won't.
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