If you are married, do you wish you were single? and if you are single now, do you wish you will get married someday?
By Curlann
@annierose (19234)
Philippines
January 5, 2019 11:02pm CST
I am already in my mid 30's and most of my friends are already married and have kids. I also have close colleagues whom I have only a little age difference and are already married and have kids. Sometimes I will hear them complaining about kids and their husband and wishing they were single again. But then, they will ask me when will I get married. So, I asked myself, will I still get married after I hear their complains about married life.
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@annierose (19234)
• Philippines
6 Jan 19
I super agree with you Judy! I hope that I will be able to find the right person for me.
@antonbunot (11092)
• Calgary, Alberta
11 Jan 19
@dfollin And life is miserable with the wrong partner!
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@LeaPea2417 (36513)
• Toccoa, Georgia
6 Jan 19
If you find the right one, marriage is a good thing.
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@annierose (19234)
• Philippines
6 Jan 19
I thought I found the right one. I made up my mind that he is the one I am going to marry but he left me without a word.
@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
6 Jan 19
I was married twice and single three times. I think marriage is better but it has to be to the right person and I am still looking for the right person and the right time for my third and hopefully last marriage. 
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@annierose (19234)
• Philippines
7 Jan 19
Wow! You have been through ups and downs in marriage. I do hope that your third one will be your last and your ultimate love.
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@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
7 Jan 19
@annierose Life is life! Some things work out and some things don't. We need to make the most out of each day, come what may. I have no regrets but many joys!
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@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
8 Jan 19
@1hopefulman You have become wise with experience amd learned to accept life as it unfolds
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@infatuatedbby (94921)
• United States
6 Jan 19
Everyones relationship and situation varies, do not take their complaints too personal for your personal love life. :)
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@annierose (19234)
• Philippines
6 Jan 19
You have a point there Michelle! We all have unique stories and I guess I should learn from their experiences as well.
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@Letranknight2015 (51537)
• Philippines
6 Jan 19
@annierose They made their choice with it. But once the choice was made there's no turning back unless you want to cancel the marriage before it begins.
@LadyDuck (459353)
• Switzerland
6 Jan 19
@infatuatedbby Happy New Year Michelle.
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@annierose (19234)
• Philippines
7 Jan 19
I agree..It is really a tough decision getting married unless both persons are true with their feelings and intentions.
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@LadyDuck (459353)
• Switzerland
7 Jan 19
@annierose You must know very well what do you want. My husband and I wanted to live together, work and travel together and we did not want children because our intention was to be the two of us together.
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@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
8 Jan 19
@LadyDuck Wow i admire for that. Excellent advice.
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@annierose (19234)
• Philippines
7 Jan 19
That is so sweet Dianne! I hope I can find someone like that who will not get tired of loving me.
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@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
8 Jan 19
You are bery lucky. Wishing you more happy years together
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@annierose (19234)
• Philippines
6 Jan 19
I am very sorry to hear about it. He is in heaven now and I think even he is not there physically, he is still watching over you.
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@dfollin (24228)
• United States
7 Jan 19
@annierose That’s what I have been told happens. I too hope it does.
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@ShyBear88 (59296)
• Sterling, Virginia
7 Jan 19
Honestly I don’t miss being single. I’ve been married for 8.5 years. We where 21 and 20 when we got married and then had 3 kids 2 years apart from each other. Some times I complain about the kids but that is only because we didn’t get to enjoy a little married life with no kids before having kids. Honestly if we didn’t have kids I don’t know what we would be doing. When they are done I find myself missing them, or getting bored because I’ve finished all the cleaning or just have the my littlest to care for.
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@annierose (19234)
• Philippines
7 Jan 19
Oh, I can feel that you are happy and satisfied with your married life. I know some people who just want kids even without a partner.
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@annierose (19234)
• Philippines
13 Jan 19
@ShyBear88 I agree with you. I have a cousin who told my mom before that she is not looking for husband. Having kids even without a husband is enough for her. She is engaged now and perhaps will be married soon.
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@ShyBear88 (59296)
• Sterling, Virginia
8 Jan 19
@annierose some times raise kids without a partner is for the best. As long as the child is loved and cared for that’s all that matters. Kids don’t think to much about family systems especially when you explain to them from the being that all families are different and have different sizes and look and no one family is wrong when everyone is loved.
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@annierose (19234)
• Philippines
13 Jan 19
@Shavkat You are absolutely right. When we start improving on our own selves, then the right one will come along.
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@annierose (19234)
• Philippines
6 Jan 19
I agree with you. Our happiness does not depend on marriage alone. It is a good thing to find out first who we really are.
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@Shavkat (137238)
• Philippines
10 Jan 19
@annierose We need to love ourselves first before loving others.
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@Letranknight2015 (51537)
• Philippines
6 Jan 19
Hello @annierose There are times that I dream of having a relationship, then marriage and then kids. But after seeing my two brothers go through their marriage, makes me think twice about making it a reality. In fact, I'm not really hoping for a relationship any time soon. I probably just don't have the financial capability to do so.
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@annierose (19234)
• Philippines
6 Jan 19
Money is also a big issue in marriage. Many relationship fails just because of money. I think it is a good idea to just go in the relationship if both have a stable job.
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@annierose (19234)
• Philippines
7 Jan 19
@Letranknight2015 I think too much familiarity makes one another gets tired sometimes.
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@Letranknight2015 (51537)
• Philippines
6 Jan 19
@annierose Money is a big issue, it's not just love. No, relationship fails because it lacks the foundation. Some people "just change" over the months, and years after marriage.
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@annierose (19234)
• Philippines
13 Jan 19
That is true Jabo! I hope in God's time we will find our way toward each other.
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@antonbunot (11092)
• Calgary, Alberta
11 Jan 19
I am married . . .no, I don't wish to be single . . but I wish I have a second or third wife . . .so that when my first wife and I argue . . . I have another one to console me. and if the first and second wives gang up on me, I have a third one to ask for help. The big problem is if all 3 gang up on me! . . . . No choice but to seek cover or run to dear mama!
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@annierose (19234)
• Philippines
13 Jan 19
Hahaha! That is a hilarious answer Julito @antonbunot! You should be very wealthy to do that. 
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@annierose (19234)
• Philippines
20 Jan 19
@antonbunot Hahaha! I am not a fanatic of buying lotto tickets but I hope that you will be successful in all your endeavours.
@antonbunot (11092)
• Calgary, Alberta
14 Jan 19
@annierose I keep buying lotto tickets.. haha
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@Swayamsiddha (4358)
• New Delhi, India
6 Jan 19
Well I am in rhe middle. I would like to marry a bit late if there are any chances.
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@annierose (19234)
• Philippines
7 Jan 19
@Swayamsiddha I see..I understand you. I have seen some people who are so devoted in their career marry at a late age.
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@Swayamsiddha (4358)
• New Delhi, India
7 Jan 19
@annierose So that till that time I would settle down in my career
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@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
6 Jan 19
Ha ha this is a very good question. But I would say, I am happy the way I am married with a daughter. I just am happy with their company, the love I feel for them and how we care for each other.
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@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
8 Jan 19
@yoalldudes There are things we want and things that we don't want and life can give us both and we need to keep going no mater what.
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@annierose (19234)
• Philippines
7 Jan 19
That is what really matters. We are all after happiness and once we find that, we feel so blessed already.
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@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
8 Jan 19
@annierose But i feel like i will be single soon if we dont get past some problems
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@annierose (19234)
• Philippines
7 Jan 19
It means you find the right person for you.
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@1creekgirl (40622)
• United States
6 Jan 19
Marriage can be heaven or hell. Sometimes both. But God created marriage and I wouldn't trade my husband after all these years of marriage. But it's up to you whether being married or single is better. There's a lot less stress being alone, but there's a lot of joy and fun being with someone you truly love.
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@annierose (19234)
• Philippines
7 Jan 19
I agree with you. I think it is happier to live with someone you love than to be alone in this life.
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@didinedhia (8475)
• Algeria
10 Jan 19
marriage with the right person is a heaven
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@annierose (19234)
• Philippines
13 Jan 19
I agree with you. I hope you already found your heaven dhia @didinedhia
@mariamm37 (6)
• United States
6 Jan 19
Interesting topic. I'm not married and it sure can get lonely since it seems that most girls my age are either focused on their relationship or getting in one. Why specifically do your friends complain about being married? If it's so bad, why do so many people work to get in one?
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@annierose (19234)
• Philippines
6 Jan 19
Perhaps, they just want babies? or they don't want to be alone? I am not sure.
