So my dad spoke to my Aunty today....
@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
Perth, Australia
April 15, 2019 1:19am CST
I'm really glad my dad spoke to my Aunty today in regards to the comments she has said to me. She now understands why I've been keeping my distance lately.
The good thing, according to my dad, is that she appeared really sorry and hurt that she was hurting me.
The bad things are: She doesn't recall making fun of my past drinking habits or other nasty remarks my dad brought to her attention today. She also gave some weird, lame and contradicting reason for the drinking remarks. First she told my dad that she didn't realise she was saying anything like this to me. But then she said something like, "I kept on making the remarks because if I didn't then the boys ( her sons, my cousins ) would wonder why I wasn't making jokes about her."
....So....she doesn't remember making fun of me....yet....has a reason for why she does make fun of me....and IF that reason is true....she is basically saying she is sacrificing my feelings to entertain her sons? L*A*M*E
More was said but long story short, apparently my Aunty is feeling hurt that she's been mean to me. She apparently doesn't recall the glass turtle she gave me for Christmas along with the nasty comment about my life, she doesn't recall any drinking cracks she's made to me or making jokes about my depression.
She then said to my dad that she will watch what she says but apparently feels like she needs to walk on eggshells which annoys me because I don't have a bloody pole up my butt. I just don't appreciate someone mocking the darkest times in my life and for her to feel like she needs to be "careful" of what she says around me....She can speak about whatever she likes but just don't be a cow! Simple! It's not really that hard to know the difference between joking and being cruel.
I will contact her when I'm ready.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
15 Apr 19
@simone10 Thank you kindly Sharon! And I really hope so too. She is aware now but I still need to talk to her myself. But I can't decide between talking to her face to face or letter. I'm leaning more towards letter so I can sit and think about what to say and not have her interrupt me.
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@simone10 (54180)
• Louisville, Kentucky
16 Apr 19
@VivaLaDani13 a letter might be better. Let us know how it goes. You are in my prayers
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
16 Apr 19
@simone10 Will do. Thank you very much. 
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@Michellekidwell (29953)
• Sonora, California
15 Apr 19
I hope and pray things improve with your Aunt, and she realizes wha she did to hurt you!
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
15 Apr 19
@Michellekidwell Thank you very much. I hope so too.
@anil02 (24688)
• India
16 Apr 19
@VivaLaDani13 Yes talk only once. I think it is not good to write a letter. If she don't say sorry to you than ignore her. If she is not caring for you that why you are caring her.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
16 Apr 19
@anil02 I will talk nice as I don't want to stoop to any immature level. I will remain calm and just express myself about how her words hurt my feelings.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
16 Apr 19
@anil02 You are right. If she continues after I have a good talk with her or write her a letter, then I will have to ignore her.
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@LadyDuck (502636)
• Italy
15 Apr 19
@VivaLaDani13 Keep your distance, because what she said to your father makes no sense at all.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
15 Apr 19
@LadyDuck I am having trouble trusting her as her excuse was so dumb. Didn't make any sense to me. I don't if she feels bad or not. I have no idea. I have very little trust for people anyway.
I will just continue my distance for now but later on I'd still like to talk with her or write her a letter as I must vent to the actual person who hurt me. Otherwise it will fester inside of me.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
16 Apr 19
@LadyDuck Absolutely none at all. I don't understand what she was trying to say. It sounds like a lot of bull. Like instead of her saying sorry, she make a stupid lie up instead.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
15 Apr 19
@jaboUK I have no doubt you have many more words to describe her lol The two words you put down are accurate enough for sure!
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@sunrisefan (28524)
• Philippines
15 Apr 19
I think you hit the nail on the head with your adjectives, Janet. I guess Ms. Dani's aunt is "sick".
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
15 Apr 19
@Nevena83 I absolutely agree with you!
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@Daljinder (23193)
• Bangalore, India
15 Apr 19
Cows are a protected commodity in India. Apparently!
So, she doesn't remember. Or is it a way to shirk responsibility/accountability/ guilt? Isn't that what all bullies do? "It was just a joke". "I didn't mean it". "I don't recall saying it". 
It doesn't really instill confidence regarding her.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
16 Apr 19
@Daljinder I remember you telling me.
I feel like it was to hide exactly everything you said. And yes, she really seems to be a bully. The whole thing angers me actually. Even more so like....I'm grateful my dad spoke to her but why could no one stand up for me without me asking? I've been upset and angry about what she's been saying / doing to me for many years.
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@Daljinder (23193)
• Bangalore, India
19 Apr 19
@VivaLaDani13 They either didn't notice it or thought you weren't bothered by it. Beside if a person has been acting the same all these years then why would her behavior/conduct surprise anyone?
"Desensitized" is the word that comes to mind.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
19 Apr 19
@Daljinder Oh they know I'm bothered by it. I have been slipping into this rant about the way I'm feeling for years. Like YEARS! And not just about her. The main three people who have put me in such a horrible mood is Lyn, Nanny and Andrew. But its extremely rare that people will stand up for me. So I do it, to which it looks like I'm being a b*tch or "having a bad day."
But you do make a point because these people have always been this way but maybe I'm just a little bit different. I can accept people for how they are but I don't accept being treated that way I've been treated.
@sunrisefan (28524)
• Philippines
15 Apr 19
Seems like your aunty is "sick", Ms. Dani.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
15 Apr 19
@sunrisefan Sick is a great word to describe her way of thinking. 
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@Hannihar (130150)
• Israel
16 Apr 19
@VivaLaDani13
Dani, I am glad your dad spoke to her but, sorry she does not get it and is a very very nasty lady.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
16 Apr 19
@Hannihar Yep! Doesn't seem like she gets it at all. I will contact her on a later day. For now I want to concentrate on me with making money on here, at home and I'm going to be going on a strict diet tomorrow. I want to lose some weight and feel healthier so I have enough to do to better my life right now and my Aunty will just have to wait.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
16 Apr 19
@Hannihar Thank you for understanding.
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@Hannihar (130150)
• Israel
16 Apr 19
@VivaLaDani13
It sounds like she does not get it at all. I can understand why you need to concentrate on making money here.
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