Our relatives and their intervention in our life.
By dpk262006
@dpk262006 (58679)
Delhi, India
May 10, 2019 12:40am CST
Our relatives play an important part in our life. However, most of us do not like their unnecessarily intervention in our life. Some of the relatives are poking their nose in our affairs, asking about exam results of our children, asking about their salary, if they are in job etc. Sometimes, we do not want to share such information due to invasion of our privacy.
Do you have any such relative who you do not like and avoid him/her at any cost?
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
10 May 19
That is a very common issue. Luckily my near ones are not like that but some distant ones are too much into such things. One of my aunt in law on this recent visit asked me about my husband's salary. I politely said that salary is confidential and I have never asked my husband to share it with me. Her son kept talking to my daughter as how she should study for 16 hours a day to score and get serious about studies more than her music and sports. He even felt that I was not a serious mom. Luckily my children are mature and they listened politely without being stressed.
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@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
10 May 19
I understand your point. We generally do not want such kind of relatives who unnecessarily poke their nose in our affairs. My point is - "If I am not asking about salary or income, you should not unnecessarily asked about mine." Also, some of the relatives give unsolicited advice, as you have mentioned in your reply, whether we need such advice or not.
It was nice on your part to clearly avoid the question regarding income of your hubby and your children not getting disturbed by their uncalled for advice.
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
10 May 19
@dpk262006 Most of these advices are non transferable and I have developed a thick cuticle for them. But I try to be polite with them. Sometimes brushing their ego works. 
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@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
10 May 19
@arunima25 Yeah, it is better not to pay heed to their advice, as it may not be suitable for us.
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@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
19 May 21
If any relative (whom you do not like) comes to your house, how do you avoid him?
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@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
20 May 21
@Rashnag Whenever they used to come, how did you use to avoid them?
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@TiarasOceanView (70020)
• United States
23 Oct 19
Yes there are several in that category of relatives here.
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@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
25 Oct 19
@TiarasOceanView It is good that you no longer keep in touch with troubling relatives.
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@TiarasOceanView (70020)
• United States
24 Oct 19
@dpk262006 Well we no longer have contact so that is best in this case, less stress. I am able to do that dpk.
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@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
21 May 19
@LadyDuck Yes, I agree with you that sometimes not amongst relatives could be a boon, specially when you are far away.
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@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
20 May 19
Great to know that you are lucky and you do not have to bother about any nosy relative.
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@LadyDuck (502391)
• Italy
20 May 19
@dpk262006 We moved to another country three years after our marriage, sometimes not being close to the family is an advantage.
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@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
23 Oct 19
You seem to be lucky that none of the relatives bothers you.
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@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
21 May 19
You mean to say that none of your relative could be termed as Nosy relative?
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@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
22 May 19
@Janet357 That is nicer on their part. 
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@Janet357 (75638)
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21 May 19
@dpk262006 none. but they tend to misunderstand me in some aspect but they never ask how.much i earn and bla.bla
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@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
20 May 19
You are lucky that you do not need to face nosy relatives.
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@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
21 Jun 19
Yes, salary is such an issue, which should generally not be asked, however, there are some relatives, who ask about salary.
You are indeed lucky that you do not have nosey relatives. By the way how many relatives get to meet you in a month.
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@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
24 Jun 19
@SIMPLYD That is great and those of your relatives are not nosy and they mind their own business.
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@SIMPLYD (90717)
• Philippines
21 Jun 19
@dpk262006 I always meet some of the relative on my father side. That's because we live in a compound and some are just near our compound.
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@smileyhema (4463)
• United States
28 Jun 19
Hmm I don't blame on the relatives. May be our previous generations were used to sharing such information like that. That again passes to the current generation based on the parents. If they teach their kids of what is good to ask and what's not, we don't tend to ask such information to others. It's better to ignore them and say frankly that we don't wish to answer those questions. I mean not that boldly but indirectly...
@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
21 Oct 19
It is good that you do not have such relatives which bothers you and invade your privacy. Hope your aunt is nice with you.
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