Do you and your partner understand each other?

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My partner and I have been together almost 16 years and have two children, so I guess we must be doing something right, but some days I struggle to work out how we have managed it! Basically, we just don’t understand each other. We can be talking about something, and we seem to be understanding what is being said, but then if there is some sort of practical consequence it often soon becomes clear that we didn’t understand each other at all! As one quick example, we are trying to construct a ‘hugelkultur’ bed in the veg. patch; basically a long mound of organic matter covered in soil. We talked it over and I explained that if we were really clever, we could orient it to catch the sun as much as possible as it moved through the sky. To do that, the mound would need to be curved – he asked what I meant and I explained it would need to be a sort of smile shape from one side to the other. Now I don’t know how you imagine a smile, but I thought of something shaped like this ) I went to fetch some logs while he started digging, and when I got back he had dug a straight line in a perpendicular direction, pretty much just where the nose would be in relation to the smile, like this face : -) I can’t even begin to think what is going on in his head. I mean what sort of face has a straight vertical smile? Maybe someone can explain it to me… All rights reserved. © Text and image copyright Fleur 2019.