He found his friend hanging there
@shaggin (71672)
United States
May 17, 2019 10:32pm CST
My kids and I were getting ready for bed at 10:30. I was laying on the couch reading a book and waiting for them to brush their teeth.
My son was scared by the door knob rattling and a knock on the door. It was my boyfriend who was obviously tipsy which I lectured him about.
He told me his friend killed himself. I asked who and when and he told me the wrong name and that it happened 15 years ago. I finally figured out who he was talking about.
He told me some things that I feel are very private causing him guilt so I won’t repeat that.
He has been dealing with this for 15 years and never told anyone how bad it’s bothered him. He was the one who found his friend hanging in a tree. I can only imagine how horrible that had to be. He cried so hard telling me all this I felt so terrible for him. It made me cry too.
Photo is unrelated. I just like to add photos to my posts. This was taken at the restaurant my daughter and I went to this past Saturday.
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@shaggin (71672)
• United States
20 May 19
@crazyhorseladycx I was pretty furious at the time when this went on via text. I think it was just a shock to him. He has been good about it since. If he couldn't accept her that way I would not be able to keep the relationship going.
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@crazyhorseladycx (39515)
• United States
20 May 19
@shaggin yer datin' a fella 'n 've him 'round yer young'uns when 'twas nasty 'bout yer daughters preference??? whilst what he says might be true, i would seriously question this relationship.
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@Shellyann36 (11385)
• United States
22 May 19
This is very sad news. I am sure it has helped him to get it off of his chest by confiding in you. One of my friends lived with someone who hung himself. He had several problems ranging from a failed marriage, child support issues and a bad drinking problem. She moved out of the house the weekend before he hung himself. She felt really guilty for a long time thinking she possibly pushed him over the edge when she left. I think that given his situation and the amount that he was drinking and his mental state it was inevitable.
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@shaggin (71672)
• United States
23 May 19
@Shellyann36 oh wow that poor girl. I can understand why she feels guilty. It sounds like the guy was a mess and really needed help. Even if she had stayed it likely would have happened still and she may have had to be the one to discover his body. I am glad for her that she wasn't there.
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@Shellyann36 (11385)
• United States
5 Jun 19
@shaggin Yes, he needed major help. I am glad she didn't find him. I don't know what it would have done to her if she had.
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@shaggin (71672)
• United States
23 May 19
@DianneN I know I can't imagine having bottled that up all those years. I feel so terrible for him. I am glad he came to see me that night and got that out. It was so sad seeing him sobbing but I hope it helped having me to hug and talk to.
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@Courtlynn (66918)
• United States
19 May 19
Oh wow. Thats sad.
Think it explains a little more about him too. Which may be good for your relationship..
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@shaggin (71672)
• United States
23 May 19
@Courtlynn it does help me understand some of her issues more. My heart breaks for him thinking of him having to have this inside him all these years. His sobbing was so sad 
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
18 May 19
He will now feel better, he told someone, gave his feelings away.
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@shaggin (71672)
• United States
23 May 19
@andriaperry I sure hope it helps him being able to tell me. It made my heart break seeing him sobbing but I am glad he came to me to see me and talk to get it out. It's nice to know he feels that way about me to confide in me and want to come to me when he is upset.
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@GardenGerty (157691)
• United States
6 Jul 19
So sorry that he had that traumatic experience. It is good he is berginning to talk about it, even if he did have to drink too much to be able to speak. I am glad you will help him get the help he needs.
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@shaggin (71672)
• United States
6 Jul 19
@GardenGerty I feel terrible he had to go through this and all the years he had this bottled up.
@snowy22315 (170698)
• United States
18 May 19
That must have been dreadful, a cousin of mine's husband killed himself and she was the one who found him. I can't imagine the horror. She remarried though and seems to be quite happy with her life now. I am glad for her, even if she does post too many pics..She deserves happiness..as we all do. Your boyfriend needs help to deal with this.
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@snowy22315 (170698)
• United States
23 May 19
@shaggin Yes, I am sure it haunts her..
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@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
18 May 19
That must have been horrible discovering his friend as he did. I had a friend who did the same thing but thankfully I wasn't the one to find him. Horrible! 
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@shaggin (71672)
• United States
23 May 19
@1hopefulman I am so sorry your friend killed themselves. I am glad you weren't the one to find them. It would be the worst site to see.
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@yanzalong (18982)
• Indonesia
27 May 19
I understand it isn't easy to get over it.
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@shaggin (71672)
• United States
27 May 19
@yanzalong right I dont think it is something anyone would ever really get over but eventually learning to cope with it would be slightly easier. It has haunted him for 15 years
@TiarasOceanView (70035)
• United States
24 May 19
How sad. But yeah that tipsy would bother me too.
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@shaggin (71672)
• United States
27 May 19
@TiarasOceanView he drove home a few months back (probably not even that long) from a bar and was eating food and hit a guardrail doing $10,000 worth of damage to his truck. His insurance covered it but his insurance cost will have gone up a lot. I thought he would learn from that but nope. I should have driven him home that night he came to my house that way I don't know why I didn't think of that before he left.
@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
18 May 19
It must have been really hard for him, perhaps he needs some kind of counseling.
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@shaggin (71672)
• United States
23 May 19
@louievill I can't imagine having kept that all in for 15 years. He would never go for counseling I don't think so I am glad she came to me when he was sad that night and talked to me.
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@shaggin (71672)
• United States
23 May 19
@CarolDM I can't imagine having to go through that and then bottling that all up for 15 years. It makes my heart ache so bad thinking about what he had to have gone through. Days later my heart still aches from seeing him so upset. I can't even imagine how horrible the PTSD would be for you with loosing your son . It is the worst nightmare for a parent to have to go through.
. It is the worst nightmare for a parent to have to go through.