An insult that's actually a compliment? (and the other way round)
By Faye
@FayeHazel (40230)
United States
May 28, 2019 2:49pm CST
Has anyone ever attempted to insult you, and it's actually a compliment?
I know there are plenty of times the opposite way around too, someone intends a compliment but it's actually mistaken for something rude.
Or someone has threatened you with something that you actually want?
Here's my examples :
1) Someone called me fat (true I'm heavy) and I just shrugged and said thanks. 
2) One woman who was trying to be very kind but said something like since I'm a nice person I should have a boyfriend - in spite of my appearance. I truly believe that she didn't mean that as bad as it sounded. 
and of course we couldn't do this post without my old man
3) I really dislike washing cars. The old man loves it.
When I told him that I wouldn't do it more than once a week - "Fine! he insists angrily. I won't give you the opportunity to wash my car any more."
Uhm. alright then. Fine with me.
Photo: Pixabay
2) One woman who was trying to be very kind but said something like since I'm a nice person I should have a boyfriend - in spite of my appearance. I truly believe that she didn't mean that as bad as it sounded.
and of course we couldn't do this post without my old man
3) I really dislike washing cars. The old man loves it.
When I told him that I wouldn't do it more than once a week - "Fine! he insists angrily. I won't give you the opportunity to wash my car any more."
Uhm. alright then. Fine with me.
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15 responses
@DianneN (254926)
• United States
31 May 19
@FayeHazel True! Adios to them. I have plenty of true friends.
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
31 May 19
Lol good for you. Don't need that drama :-)
Thanks!
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
29 May 19
I've had compliments backfire on me. People have also had to back peddle when they said something to me and realized how offensive it was. I know I've done it too. I try very hard not to be rude or to say things that can't be taken wrong. However, when you have a tendency to talk backward, it can happen more than I like.
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
30 May 19
Aw, I think when people know you, they would know you meant no ill will
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@Courtlynn (67089)
• United States
12 Jun 19
The first two are very rude. Even if the second one was meant to be a compliment. Sorry you had to hear those.
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@Courtlynn (67089)
• United States
13 Jun 19
@FayeHazel I wish society was getting better about it. but maybe it is, in certain states/towns
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
14 Jun 19
@Courtlynn Me too. There is a whole body positive movement out there - it's widely misunderstood as "promoting obesity" - in fact it's about loving yourself as you are, you may still make changes to your body but coming from a place of love and not of being conditioned to view yourself as "less than" because of not looking like the (airbrushed) models that are everywhere
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
12 Jun 19
Thanks. I try to shrug it off usually. I'm big and know it... of course everyone deserves basic politeness no matter how big (or small) - and I think society is getting better about that. Thanks dear. More people should be as kind as you.
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@MommyOfEli2013 (89893)
• Rupert, Idaho
29 May 19
Well one that I can think of is when I get told I am weird....I just say thank you, I know. Not sure if people know what to say after that haha.
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
30 May 19
Aw. I think it's a compliment. Well, not sure if it is meant as one, but I would take it as one. lol. I think a lot of artists are weird
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
30 May 19
@MommyOfEli2013 lol so true and serves them
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@MommyOfEli2013 (89893)
• Rupert, Idaho
30 May 19
@FayeHazel Well I know of some people in my life who have meant it as an insult lol....but I always take it as a compliment. Artists can definitely be strange people :)
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@snowy22315 (209164)
• United States
28 May 19
I can't think of any examples, but I am sure it has happened somewhere along the way.
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@psanasangma (7910)
• India
29 May 19
Yes, Insult and taking it other way round and giving them back is my choice sometimes.
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
30 May 19
Oh yes, that's a smart way to do it, it usually shuts them up
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@BelleStarr (61463)
• United States
29 May 19
When anyone calls me a *itch I say thank you, since that was my intention it is no insult to me!! lol I'm the first to say if Salem had *itch trials instead of witch trials I would have been in grave danger!!
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
29 May 19
lol. I love that. Yeah I no longer see *itch as an insult myself, either
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@andriaperry (118793)
• Anniston, Alabama
29 May 19
Oh yeah, happens all the time. One I love and get sometimes is " You look good to be so old."
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
29 May 19
Oh dear. I hope they know you well enough to know you didn't mean it that way
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
29 May 19
Many times last week.
One night, we are going home riding in our scooter when a Police make us stop. I was tired from my treatment.
So the boyfriend told the Police officer where we came from.
The Police said okay, you may go. Your daughter needs a rest.
And I was like? What? She called me your daughter?
The boyfriend just laughed and said, he thought you are a kid. You gets small.
I don’t know until now if it’s a compliment or not.
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
29 May 19
Ha ha, oh dear!
I think it's a compliment - it means you look young :-)
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
30 May 19
@FayeHazel
I think of it too. Lol
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@cintol (11261)
• United States
29 May 19
Sometimes I think people open their mouths before the brain catches up!! How rude were they but you handled their comments gracefully.
