ODD - Oppositional defiant disorder

United States
June 13, 2019 2:25am CST
Over the course of the last few weeks, I have come to the suspicion that my youngest nephew may have ODD which is Oppostitional Defiant Disorder. ODD is a condition in which a child displays an ongoing pattern of an angry or irritable mood, defiant or argumentative behavior, and vindictiveness toward people in authority. The child's behavior often disrupts the child's normal daily activities, including activities within the family and at school. My nephew has ALL of the symptoms and has previously been diagnosed with ADHD which is also a part of ODD. ODD can be genetic, environmental or biological. In either category, Ryan has factors in each. Genetic: On his dad's side, there are at least 2 other family members that were diagnosed with mood disorders when they were between the ages of 10 -17, one was even institutionalized because the family just couldn't deal with him but he did get the help he needed where they sent him. Environmental: Factors such as a dysfunctional family life, a family history of mental illnesses and/or substance abuse, and inconsistent discipline by parents may contribute to the development of behavior disorders. - This fits Ryan to a T. My sister smokes pot on and off when she has the money to buy it. When she doesn't, she will find little things to yell at Ryan about. She is also very inconsistent about how she disciplines him when he does act out, often just opting out and letting her boyfriend discipline Ryan. Tonight my sister text me to tell me that she and Ryan had gotten into it again and that he flat out refused to clean the cat litter which is his ONLY chore in the house and he is supposed to do that every day. Also he told my sister that he wanted to cut off his knees because they are bothering him yet he wants to join the track team. So tonight I was FINALLY able to bring up my concerns about Ryan. She gave me the opening I needed to start the conversation and honestly, I think she was ready to hear what I had to say. Had it happened before, I don't think she would have wanted to hear it. I mean, who would? So tomorrow starts the hard part. I'm going to print out some info on ODD and show it to my sister and then possibly Ryan's dad when he picks him up for the weekend. I told my sister that when we take Ryan in to be tested for ODD that we need to have a list of any family members on both sides that had mood disorders and what they were. At the very least, I do think that Ryan needs counseling of some sort and possibly a medication to help calm him down. I'm going to talk to my friend Alison. She has custody of one of her grand kids and he has a disorder that's very similar to ODD. Let's just hope that we can find the help that Ryan needs and the sooner we can get him help, the better.
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@rakski (31263)
• Philippines
13 Jun
the concern must be addressed soon so it can help in way your nephew and sister handles things.
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• United States
14h
I agree.
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@rakski (31263)
• Philippines
13h
@CountryGirl31 it is a tough challenge to have a kid with special needs but those kids give you comfort other person cannot give
@MALUSE (50966)
• Germany
13 Jun
So it is more than what is normal in the field of opposition in a pubescent youngster. It is certainly a good idea to get professional help. Poor boy!
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• United States
14h
It is more than normal puberty. He has the symptoms for several things like depression. He wants to run away from his house but I talked him out of that. I did tell his mom about him wanting to run away and she went crazy on him so I don't know if it did any good to tell her. Honestly, I think he needs therapy so he can talk to someone but I think my sister is afraid that Ryan will be taken away if he says the "Wrong" thing like if he tells the truth about how he is treated. There are so many times when he would tell me that he wishes I was his mom or that he lived with me.
@MALUSE (50966)
• Germany
7h
@CountryGirl31 Could you take him in and care for him for a while?
@Aansh13 (3481)
• India
13 Jun
Mental illness is something that needs to be addressed and treated well... Wishing him better health...
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• United States
14h
Thank you. I'm trying to help him the best I can but I am not a professional and I am not his parent so it's not like I could take him to get him tested myself. I do believe that he is suffering from depression as well as ODD but he is only defiant to one person most of the time and that is his mom.
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@Aansh13 (3481)
• India
9h
@CountryGirl31 I can very well understand this... Hope things turn out better
@Beatburn (4314)
• Philippines
13 Jun
Now that more information available we can really help others become aware of conditions. Hope he gets better.
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• United States
14h
I hope so too. I am starting to think that he may be a little bipolar too but then again he could have ODD strictly towards her because of her inconsistency in her parenting. She will go crazy on him over little things but ignore when he does worse things.
@moonandstars (16343)
• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)
13 Jun
If it's visible, it's best to treat it sooner than later. I wish both of you luck.
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• United States
14h
Thank you. I gave her all the info but she hasn't brought it up again so I don't know if she's forgotten about it or just doesn't want to deal with it.