Dont we really need neighbors, relatives and society??
By Paras Pandey
@parpande (1515)
Bangalore, India
June 19, 2019 2:05am CST
This is sort of a very popular discussion that most of the youngsters would talk about.
'I dont like that lady next door interfering me all the time '
'Why are all my kin always ask me to tie the knot , it is my life why should they bother'
'I barely know any of the neighbors` name , I do not care either'
These are the common phrases spoken amongst the youth and some of them would make sense as well. Even I may not like over interference all the time that compromise privacy of my family but I still would want to greet my relatives , neighbor once in a while. If we remain in an entire nuclear environment then there wont be people to help us in need , even in our celebrations we would remain too alone as we might not have anyone to invite .
Had you ever been bothered by uninvited neighbors or guests. What kind of society fits you the best ??
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@allknowing (130067)
• India
19 Jun 19
I am selective when it comes to neigbours and relatives but I do have some in my life.
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@allknowing (130067)
• India
19 Jun 19
@parpande It has however changed in leaps and bounds with social networking having made its presence in that real contacts are few and far between
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@parpande (1515)
• Bangalore, India
19 Jun 19
@allknowing Man is a social animal.
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@parpande (1515)
• Bangalore, India
19 Jun 19
@allknowing yes. But that offers us a good liberty at the same time , we are more free to choose appropriate channels for distinct people that we maintain relations with. Few must be limited to social network, next is whatsapp , phone and next the people whom we actually would like to see in person.
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@pumpkinjam (8528)
• United Kingdom
19 Jun 19
I haven't been bothered too much by neighbours. I am friendly with some of mine. Some change so often that I don't get chance to get to know them. I have a lot of relatives but don't really interact with many. Saying that, I do know that most of them would be there in a heartbeat if they were needed, even if they barely remember what we look like!
I'm not sure what kind of society I prefer. I don't really fit in anywhere. There are times when I want company, times when I don't. There are times I would just like to be on my own and times when I wish I could just call on a friend.
I've always tried to get my children to make friends and to make an effort with friends and family. The eldest son will but sometimes needs reminding that he hasn't seen people for a while. Youngest prefers his own company - which is fine - but I do worry that he's deliberately isolating himself. I wouldn't want to force him to spend time with people when it makes him uncomfortable but nor do I want him to end up with nobody. I don't have close friends, most of my family wouldn't bother if I didn't, and I have times when I feel like I'm having to make myself do things because I really don't want to be around people. I don't want my children to be like that.
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@pumpkinjam (8528)
• United Kingdom
19 Jun 19
@parpande My parents were kind of the opposite (well, they still are). We would see some people but my parents didn't really bother too much with anyone. I don't think they had friends but that seems to have been their choice.
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@parpande (1515)
• Bangalore, India
19 Jun 19
@pumpkinjam ok , now this is actually rare .Rather , it is usually to discern inverse of your case where I see parents would insist kids to be social , they literally nag their child to greet almost everyone ...
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@parpande (1515)
• Bangalore, India
19 Jun 19
@pumpkinjam well said about you and your perspective of social availability . It did happen to me while I was too young that my parents would always want me to greet everybody I meet.
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@janethwayne (5193)
• Philippines
21 Jun 19
There are people who makes us feel irritated and even relatives and families but we can't avoid it cause it is a human nature.
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@parpande (1515)
• Bangalore, India
21 Jun 19
@janethwayne we may prefer to choose who do we want and whom we dont want we can keep them in touch via different channels.
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@arunima25 (85265)
• Bangalore, India
19 Jun 19
No more we are brought up with that community feeling. But I am of the old school thought. Love to have people around me though I might not like all of them.
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@parpande (1515)
• Bangalore, India
19 Jun 19
@arunima25 yes , most of us would like to have the same.
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@arunima25 (85265)
• Bangalore, India
19 Jun 19
@parpande It's sad that in this era of nuclear family, even grandparents and uncle- aunts become a guest. We grew up in a house full of them and dozen cousins.
@Starkinds (32703)
• India
19 Jun 19
Being Human we all need those things but we have to decide what kind of relatives what kind of society what kind of gathering we had. Because its effects us a lot.
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@Starkinds (32703)
• India
19 Jun 19
@parpande sometime it necessary to choose what kind of surrounding we have
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@yanzalong (18984)
• Indonesia
19 Jun 19
My neighborhood is a good one. We know one another and help one another as well.
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@parpande (1515)
• Bangalore, India
19 Jun 19
@yanzalong My locality has people with different mindsets. Some of them are friendly and few are loners , I appreciate your neighborhood .
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@psanasangma (5884)
• India
20 Jun 19
My house is somewhat open, every one comes and go, its very disturbing actually but my folks believes that that's how they are connected to each other. Its too disturbing to me actually,
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@VoiceofTruth7 (1121)
• United States
20 Jun 19
To me youngsters think they know it all and do not want to people who are older and wiser than them who have already lived life and want to share their wisdom and knowledge with them so they can gain something from them and not make the same mistakes they did but most youngsters are hard headed and think they know better than we do but later on they wished they had listened and learned from us when they find themselves in a hard place in life but it is to late then if they had sat down and listened to us in the first place they would not be in the place and state that they are in now.
