Choose to be happy...Really ? 7-11-' 19
By bonnie
@bunnybon7 (50970)
Holiday, Florida
July 11, 2019 10:34am CST
Honestly I don't know about what's wrong with my silly daughter in Ohio. She's the one in the photo in the middle of us with darker hair when she visited us last year.
She is my silly, selfish one that has everything yet helps no one and thinks she is kind, yet when I mention a problem instead of really helping she says things like this. Sent me an e-mail/no a text about " When you get up this morning mom, Choose to be happy and that will make you have a better day" 
That was a few days ago and frankly I have tried that 
hoping she was right.
But she was not. Every day I try it the day just goes on like it always does. I texted her back eventually and told her only people who ARE already truly happy says such a thing.
Do you agree or does that idea really work for you?
As for me, I am wishing Call the midwife would come back on soon. Some TV programs make me happy for a while. Talking with my special friends here also sometimes makes me happy.
Playing games/challenges on Pogo makes me happy for a bit.
I am still anxiously waiting for Orange is the new Black coming out I think end of this month. It makes me laugh.
Been watching Big Brother as I am the biggest fan ever 
Makes me happy. What makes you happy?
BTW, do you also use Mylot as kind of a journal ? It sometimes helps me keep track of things 
That was a few days ago and frankly I have tried that hoping she was right.
But she was not. Every day I try it the day just goes on like it always does. I texted her back eventually and told her only people who ARE already truly happy says such a thing.
Do you agree or does that idea really work for you?
As for me, I am wishing Call the midwife would come back on soon. Some TV programs make me happy for a while. Talking with my special friends here also sometimes makes me happy.
Playing games/challenges on Pogo makes me happy for a bit.
I am still anxiously waiting for Orange is the new Black coming out I think end of this month. It makes me laugh.
Been watching Big Brother as I am the biggest fan ever
Makes me happy. What makes you happy?
BTW, do you also use Mylot as kind of a journal ? It sometimes helps me keep track of things 14 people like this
14 responses
@amitkokiladitya (171988)
• Agra, India
11 Jul 19
A peaceful life always makes me feel happy
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@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
21 Jul 19
would me too if it was more peaceful here 
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@amitkokiladitya (171988)
• Agra, India
22 Jul 19
@bunnybon7 is something troubling you?
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@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
24 Jul 19
@amitkokiladitya too long a story. too many things.
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@BelleStarr (61463)
• United States
13 Jul 19
I get what she is saying and I think you are mistaking happiness for enjoyment. We can enjoy tv and escape reality for a while but that isn’t happiness. I am happy when I am with my family. When I am working, when I am helping others. Happiness comes from within and while it isn’t easy to find when we are down faith is the best medicine!! I hope you find your happiness 
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@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
20 Jul 19
I try but hard when you are in pain and lonely. At least you have family around. to talk with. I only have daughter for a few minutes here and there . So yes it is hard to ignore pain and loneliness at the same time
It's not enjoyment I seek as much as someone visual to speak with.etc. would help
thanks sweetie
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@BelleStarr (61463)
• United States
22 Jul 19
@bunnybon7 I wish I was closer so I could actually visit with you. I do have family around especially the grandkids but my kids are all very busy so I have to grab a moment here and there.
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@crazyhorseladycx (39503)
• United States
11 Jul 19
i fear i aint big'n t.v., hon, so'd be a poor person to answer that part.
's fer happiness? i'm a firm believer'n ones mindset makin' a diff'rence. i make'n 'ffort to 'njoy e'en the smallest 'f whimsy 'round my world. i seek out these thingies daily, e'en when i couldn't get outdoors. 'twas 'lways somethin' if'n i gave my mind the chance to warm my heart, e'en if'n jest briefly.
i'm thinkin' this'd be a habit, perhaps? maybe ya need to give such a better chance 'n make small changes?
no ma'am, i don't use this place's a journal. folks'd most likely faint if'n i did, lol.
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@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
21 Jul 19
Well don't know why I said that about a journal but sometimes I have went back in my posts to remember a date something happened. so I guess that's why I said that.
I am taking some of you alls advice and it has helped a little. Yesterday it seemed to help a lot till I boasted on here about it. Then a big storm came and I still tried 
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@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
23 Jul 19
@crazyhorseladycx it surly is. and the hardest thing is getting used to not being able to do what you used and still want to and thinking you can
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@crazyhorseladycx (39503)
• United States
22 Jul 19
@bunnybon7 no frettin' o'er such, hon. i confess i used to utilize facebook fer such. i can tell ya what days't snowed/rain'n how much from lookin' through the "memories" thingy there, lol.
since y'ave a puter 'n most like some software ya can pen schtuff to, a journal aint a bad idea. ya could type'n such daily. highlights 'f yer day, thingies that made'ja blue, thingies that made yer heart sing. put details 'f who/what/when. then ya can look back't those 'n perhaps see what triggers certain thingies. when yer blue 'n strugglin', ya can find those times 'f happiness. such'd be a reminder that not all days suck :)
i'm proud 'f ya fer tryin'! changin' one's mindset'n habits 'tis quite the challenge all by 'tself.
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@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
16 Jul 19
I used to be like that back when the kids were all little or you might say still home. but these days I get so lonely because I am mostly in my room with no one to talk to.
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@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
18 Jul 19
@mom210 no wouldn't be fair to the dog as I can barely take care of myself or afford my own needs
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@mom210 (9170)
• United States
17 Jul 19
@bunnybon7 oh no sorry to hear that. Did you ever get another dog? might be something to start thinking about if you are up to it.
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
13 Jul 19
I'm generally happy. I don't draw happiness from TV, though I like to watch movies and shows. Happiness for me comes from accomplishing something, usually a finished book, or even spending a little time in it each day. Happiness also comes from my relationship with Jesus Christ. I couldn't be happy without Him.
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@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
20 Jul 19
yes I get it. Just don't know why she would say that as a way to brush off my pain and problems
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@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
20 Jul 19
well there went my comment . disappeared. uugghh
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
20 Jul 19
@bunnybon7 That's not nice of her to do that.
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@LovingMyBabies (85923)
• Valdosta, Georgia
11 Jul 19
What she most likely means is we have a choice-focus on what makes us miserable and talk about it/dwell on it and feel bad each day-OR choose to focus on helping others or what makes us happier each day. And yes that is a choice we each make for ourselves every day.
When my family was hungry and homeless we could have chosen to focus on that but instead we prayed for people, told them about God and His amazing love, we made people smile and gave them a better day.
It BLESSED us doing this and helped immensely to get through those 7 months. =)
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@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
21 Jul 19
I noticed that. It did help and God smiled on you because of it
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@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
21 Jul 19
that most certainly would me too. If I still had him. which insidently smug older daughter that said that still has hers.
Good for you dear
@simone10 (54180)
• Louisville, Kentucky
11 Jul 19
I also like the same shows you mentioned and although not everyone will understand how you feel, I do. It's really hard to have a positive attitude when you are sick and bed bound. Every time you think or feel something negative, try thinking of a positive. Every time something bad happens, try thinking of something good, something you are thankful for.
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@DaddyEvil (174296)
• United States
12 Jul 19
That sounds like a bunch of hooey to me, Bonnie. You have a very odd daughter!
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@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
13 Jul 19
yes especially the one that doesn't live with me. that one is in Ohio such a biatch.LOL
the one here is a bit odd but good hearted toward me most of the time. Shes a good girl here 1 person likes this
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
13 Jul 19
@DaddyEvil I know she tries because she has a good heart and loves her mother, me but is a bit odd also as some things she says and does don't often make common sense but she has a lot going on hard to manage right now. More then most of us.
but is a bit odd also as some things she says and does don't often make common sense but she has a lot going on hard to manage right now. More then most of us. @DaddyEvil (174296)
• United States
13 Jul 19
@bunnybon7 Oops! I meant the daughter you don't live with, Bonnie... although, I'm not too sure about the one you live with, either. I do believe she tries, though.
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@MarshaMusselman (38865)
• Midland, Michigan
18 Jul 19
Yes I'm keep track of things here too especially when I talked them right and remember what tags to search for later.
I agree somewhat with that idea and I feel that my husband could be happier than he is. But aren't you in pain a lot? If you can change what you think about that might help. Just thinking happy thoughts won't do it necessarily. But, I don't agree that anyone should tell another person that. That would be like saying if your in pain and can forget about it the pain will be gone.
It might be gone out of your thoughts temporarily but not gone completely.
The Bible says in Psalms, I think as a man thinks in his heart, so is he. Essence we become what we think about.
Last year I was in a lot of pain but I had to work so I learned to manage it. Sometimes I could forget completely and other times it was always there lurking
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@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
19 Jul 19
yes you get what I am saying. It's just that instead of caring or saying something encouraging she suddenly texts me out of no where, Mom you need to choose to be happy thats it.
Answer to all my problems ? 
she don't even say how can I help or I am here for you. Just that I should choose to be happy
she don't even say how can I help or I am here for you. Just that I should choose to be happy 1 person likes this
@MarshaMusselman (38865)
• Midland, Michigan
20 Jul 19
@bunnybon7 I agree that's not helpful .
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@andriaperry (118793)
• Anniston, Alabama
11 Jul 19
I get what she is saying, but you`re not.
The t.v. shows are happy entertainment, they are in the moment happiness.
This is what I get from your daughters statement, be positive and attract positive in your life, meaning to be happy no matter what.
While things look bad with sickness and less of what you want to have, be happy that you are here and enjoy what you do have.
I have to be happy while watching people die, its not easy but I have to look at it this way, things could be worst. Tony is slowing dying of stage 4 lung cancer but he looks at it this way, he could be bed ridden with a feeding tube.
I chose to be happy, no matter how dire life is.
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@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
21 Jul 19
dear you are so kind. Sorry for that.
Good thing people like you are in this world but doesn't sound like you are really happy. Must be a hard thing to do that
Good thing people like you are in this world but doesn't sound like you are really happy. Must be a hard thing to do that 1 person likes this
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
24 Jul 19
@andriaperry geesh. I just meant I don't see how anyone could be happy to watch people die. Not sure why you took it as a mean comment. It wasn't meant that way. Do you know my eldest daughter? She has not worked for all she has. She has gotten a lot from her relationships. Also, I don't begrudge her. I just wish she didn't say it the way she did. She just doesn't understand me. I love that she has all she does and hope it continues. You sound like you care about the people you take care of so how am I being selfish to expect her to care about her mother instead of just passing it off by telling me I should just be happy ? It's like she is saying "there, I did my good deed for today. Told my mom to be happy which really helped her. now moving on."
I don't understand why you would say it makes me selfish to want more attention from her? confused.
confused.
@YuleimaVzla (1857)
• Maracaibo, Venezuela
21 Aug 19
Yes friend, I think Mylot has become the diary of all of us hahaha, and if you can choose to be happy, even if we are close or not to the things or people we love most, you can find happiness simply by walking barefoot on your balcony , seeing the sky or doing good, smelling a rose or seeing people in the streets, smiling is living, giving peace to your soul also, being happy is simple God just wants us to be happy without as many vanities as you have to pay or what your neighbors would say if you have a year car or not, or if your children need things they don't really need, happiness is in love, and if you don't feel love then that's when you're totally lost. Live and be happy.
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