What happened to manners?
By Fleur
@Fleura (34954)
United Kingdom
August 2, 2019 1:43am CST
Yesterday Big One had a couple of friends round.
One arrived quite early in the morning, in time to have pancakes for a late breakfast. They had a picnic lunch in the garden together with Big One and Little One, then the friend’s sister arrived and they all played all afternoon and stayed for dinner. A friend of mine also came with her two (younger) children.
Then Big One’s friends jumped up and left.
No ‘Goodbye and thank you for having us’. Not even a ‘Goodbye’ or a ‘we’re going now’.
Big One went to see them off so I assume they said goodbye to her but given that they’ve spent the day in my house and I did practically all the food preparation etc. you’d think they might at least acknowledge that! My partner and my other adult friend were both taken aback by this as well.
Should I take this as a compliment that they feel ‘at home’ in our house? Or is it just rude?
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@Fleura (34954)
• United Kingdom
20 Sep 19
That's what I think as well. My daughter (Big One) obviously told her friend this because the next time they made an exaggerated point of saying goodbye and thank you to me, I guess they think I'm an old grouch but perhaps (hopefully!) they learnt something?
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@changjiangzhibin89 (17239)
• China
2 Aug 19
They were so rude that took all you had done for granted without so much as saying "thank you !" as they left.It is not too much to say they are ill bred.
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@changjiangzhibin89 (17239)
• China
7 Aug 19
@Fleura Nowadays many a kid have no manners and are spoiled rotten.I reckon that the thought of saying "thank you" never occurred to those kids.Your daughter surely knows how to behave.
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@crazyhorseladycx (39503)
• United States
2 Aug 19
so saddened to read 'f such, hon. i'd say bad raisin'. they should'a thanked ya fer the food provided 'n fer bein' able to spend the day 't'cher place. regardless 'f 'em feelin' like yer place'd be kin to a 2nd home. such's learnt behavior.
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@crazyhorseladycx (39503)
• United States
4 Aug 19
@Fleura doesn't so much need drillin' 'nto folks, most oft they pick 'p such from 'xample. that 'monkey see, monkey do' sort'a thingy.
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@Fleura (34954)
• United Kingdom
8 Aug 19
I think you are right. Too often people say 'I blame the parents!' when it is something the parents have no control over, but in this case I'm sure you are right.
As I said to MALU, the very first time the friend (let's call him Peter) came over, his father (who we had never met) came to pick him up in the car and take him home. But instead of coming to the door, he parked in the road outside and called Peter's mobile phone. Peter jumped up from the table where we were just finishing dinner, took the call in the hallway, then said he had to go and rushed outside. His father would have just driven off except that I rushed out after him to say hello! And the parents are very normal, what you might call middle class, they look quite prosperous; not rough, tough, no-hopers!
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@DianneN (254949)
• United States
8 Aug 19
@Fleura Parents today don't seem to teach their kids manners or respect. It makes me wonder if the parents themselves have any.
That was nice of you to rush out to say hello to that father. I always made it a point to know the parents of my kids' friends. Too many crazies out there.
@hereandthere (45628)
• Philippines
2 Aug 19
were you aware they were all coming and having several meals there? i would be wary of having them again.
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@Fleura (34954)
• United Kingdom
3 Aug 19
Yes I knew they were coming, they are Big One's very best friends from school so she see's them there just about every day. They have been here a couple of times before but each time I kind of made excuses for them - maybe they were in too much of a hurry or something - but maybe not.
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