I Had A Discussion With Little Miss
@Michellekidwell (29953)
Sonora, California
August 30, 2019 7:51pm CST
She made a last minute change of plans after we had made plans for the week so I explained to her that though I will always be there for her, we couldn’t keep doing this, that I wasn’t going to make a special trip into town at a later date simply to get her an iTunes card, and that movie night was only going to happen this week!
I will of course get her the things she needs, and I got her snacks, but I am not going out of my way to get an iTunes card! If she had an appointment or something that I would understand but she made plans even her Mother did not know about until the last minute. So she’s not getting her ITunes card or her allowance until she understands that these things need to be communicated before hand, and they need to be communicated without Sass!
Like I said if this were something to deal with school, this would be different but it’s to deal with an iTunes card. Not to mention we have discussed my feelings and the dangers of Tik Tok, and she’s not been showing her Mother what she’s posting!
She’s generally a good kid, but ugh this preteen thing is fun!
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@LovingMyBabies (85923)
• Valdosta, Georgia
31 Aug 19
I have a 13 year old who just got her phone taken away for things we found on social media that was a secret from us! It was shocking and sad. =(
These lessons must be learned while they are still young.
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@Michellekidwell (29953)
• Sonora, California
31 Aug 19
Yes I actually had her sit down and watch a show on what can happen on Social Media if you are not careful!
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@andriaperry (118793)
• Anniston, Alabama
31 Aug 19
And what we did at that age stayed within a small group of people, now its world wide for all to see.
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@Michellekidwell (29953)
• Sonora, California
31 Aug 19
@andriaperry Yes and I have to remind her of that, we live in a far different world now than as when we were younger!
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@xstitcher (39038)
• Petaluma, California
31 Aug 19
I wouldn't want to raise a child these days...
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@porwest (112876)
• United States
9 Feb 23
I don't think raising children is any more difficult than it ever was before. PARENTING has changed. The kids haven't. I say, let's bring back corporal punishment. A few tanned butts never hurt anyone and kids did behave better knowing there might be actual consequences to things.
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@Michellekidwell (29953)
• Sonora, California
31 Aug 19
It’s a scary time for sure!
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@Michellekidwell (29953)
• Sonora, California
9 Feb 23
@porwest She's not my kid, so corporal punishment was out, discipline was definitely a thing...
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@CookieMonster46 (13453)
• United States
31 Aug 19
I am not fond of the social media for kids, although I did let my daughter have it at that age, but i had the password, friended her and got to see the posts, where were nothing bad.
Social media causes problems and today there is a lot of bullies and everything else there.
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@CookieMonster46 (13453)
• United States
31 Aug 19
@Michellekidwell exactly right, and I don't like games where they play online and play with someone who says they are a teen, you just never know.
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@Michellekidwell (29953)
• Sonora, California
31 Aug 19
Thankfully I am more technologically savy than her Mom, so I am
Able to check things! I have to remind her that though her intentions may be good not everyone’s are!
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@Michellekidwell (29953)
• Sonora, California
5 Sep 19
@CookieMonster46 I’m Leary about those as well!
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@andriaperry (118793)
• Anniston, Alabama
31 Aug 19
You did right. Set boundaries and keep them.
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@Michellekidwell (29953)
• Sonora, California
31 Aug 19
Definitely! She knows the boundaries, she’s just thinking that I’m not going to react when she pushes the boundaries!
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@YuleimaVzla (1857)
• Maracaibo, Venezuela
31 Aug 19
I love how you have empowered yourself as an adult and have made the girl understand the value of things, and that situations will not always be in your favor as they expect it, it is good and I congratulate you, it is seen that you have raised with values and discipline, while making it a responsible, empathetic and humble being, who will not be selfish or spoiled, but will know how to wait and define that everything has a time in life. You're doing it right.
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@Michellekidwell (29953)
• Sonora, California
31 Aug 19
Thank you so much, I went through the Preteen thing with Amber too but it was different even eleven years ago when Amber was her age!
@Michellekidwell (29953)
• Sonora, California
31 Aug 19
Thank you. she’s family that’s for sure, but this preteen thing is a challenge lol’
@RasmaSandra (98033)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
31 Aug 19
Sounds like your getting into deeper woods. This time of life often makes pre-teens suddenly think they know it all and they are boss of their own life. I am sure if you communicate the problems to her now you might be able to avoid great problems in the future. Personally, I think it's bad that her mom has no idea what she's posting.,
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@Michellekidwell (29953)
• Sonora, California
31 Aug 19
Her Mom isn’t really Internet Savy but I am, so I talked to her about it and a couple of weeks ago we watched a show about the dangers of Social Media!
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@Starkinds (32737)
• India
31 Aug 19
To update about technology it's a good thing but I think the addiction of gadgets or social media it doesn't healthy for anyone
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