World Traveler, Friend, Brother, Gone.
By Jo Ann
@akalinus (44366)
United States
September 6, 2019 12:46pm CST
Last night, I received word that my brother took his last breath. It was cancer that got him in the end.
He traveled the world with his wife and sometimes his kids. He was a brother, son, husband, father, grandfather and a friend to me and I always loved him. We had many long discussions on message online.
Even though we lived in different states, I knew he was always there for me. Now he is not. How will I ever be able to live with that?
What advice can you give me for coping with losing a sibling?
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@BelleStarr (61463)
• United States
6 Sep 19
I have lost 2 brothers and 2 sisters and there is no way of coping with it and you never get over losing them, there is a special bond between siblings that is unlike anything else in the world. My sincere condolences on your loss, I am sending a hug. I just let myself cry when I need to and since I still have 2 brothers we share memories a lot.
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@BelleStarr (61463)
• United States
6 Sep 19
@akalinus that is how we keep their memories alive by talking about them.
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@akalinus (44366)
• United States
6 Sep 19
Oh, I am so sorry. I don't know how you can endure that terrible loss. 
My brother and I shared a lot of memories too, chatting on message. He told me some stuff I did not know about. I talk to some of my brothers' kids too. One had three girls and the other had two. All girls but there are two grandsons now.
My brother and I shared a lot of memories too, chatting on message. He told me some stuff I did not know about. I talk to some of my brothers' kids too. One had three girls and the other had two. All girls but there are two grandsons now.1 person likes this
@akalinus (44366)
• United States
7 Sep 19
@BelleStarr Thanks, there are so many memories, especially the wacky and zany things we did as kids. Like we would jump off a train trestle into a dry creek bed. What were we thinking?
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@Juliaacv (56340)
• Canada
6 Sep 19
My condolences to you, I am so sorry for your loss.
I have not lost any siblings, nor has my husband, but our son has lost his sister.
We keep her memory alive by privately talking about her, and doing things in her memory.
I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
May your brother RIP
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@birjudanak (14316)
• India
7 Sep 19
sorry to hear about your brother and its a tough time as we cant change god decision so just remember his good activity or spent time with you. as day going hope thing will be normal. its a really tough time for familly who lost their dear ones.
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@birjudanak (14316)
• India
7 Sep 19
@akalinus Yes you are right, they always live in our heart and with us from the sky.
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@amitkokiladitya (171988)
• Agra, India
10 Sep 19
Omg....I can't even imagine this.....I really don't have words.
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@akalinus (44366)
• United States
10 Sep 19
@amitkokiladitya I have to stay strong. It is not really a choice.
@amitkokiladitya (171988)
• Agra, India
10 Sep 19
@akalinus I wish the same. I hope you just stay strong
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
6 Sep 19
@akalinus It is very hard indeed. You can message me any time if you need to talk. I still wait for the phone to ring. Same way with my parents. You will always have reminders and it will be like a roller coaster for awhile. Go slow. Baby steps and allow yourself to grieve.
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@akalinus (44366)
• United States
6 Sep 19
I'm sorry you lost friends. I lost two earlier in the year. That hurts because you have different memories and many of them funny. I hope you are okay.
I lost two dear friends this year. One had sepsis, which is a blood infection. I don't know why with the other friend. She had problems for years, I think her heart and lungs were bad.
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@crazyhorseladycx (39503)
• United States
6 Sep 19
my deepest condolences, hon. i hope that all're able to find some comfort knowin' he no longer suffers. cancer 'tis such a horrific disease.
no ma'am, i've no 'dvice fer such outside 'f bein' thankful fer the closeness y'all shared 'n the memories made o'er so many years.
@crazyhorseladycx (39503)
• United States
7 Sep 19
@akalinus folks've such genius either 've loads 'f troubles 'r not. some're quite grounded, others not. jest keep hold 'f those memories 'n recall that'cha can speak with him 't any time.
i confess to nearly dialin' my dad the other day 'n he's been gone since 2011. jest missed his voice...
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@akalinus (44366)
• United States
7 Sep 19
@crazyhorseladycx I'm sorry that you lost your dad. That is a special pain. I lost mine when I was 12 or 13.
There is a strong bond between the three of us siblings. I visited California once. We planned to go to the beach. We all showed up wearing the same thing, a pair of jeans, a white tee-shirt, and white sneaks. We did not plan that, it just happened.
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@akalinus (44366)
• United States
6 Sep 19
I keep thinking of all the zany things we did as kids and our mom never found out. Our family traveled around a lot and lived in some strange places and houses. What I miss most is knowing he was there. We lived in different states as adults but his presence was with me and I think he knew what I was doing and thinking. He was a Mensa genius stuck with me. How did he ever cope with that?
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@Namelesss (3364)
• United States
7 Sep 19
I've lost many family members within the last 12 months or so. Most of them in-laws followed by my husband and my dad recently. I like to think that instead of losing them I now have even more guardians on the other side helping hold life here together. That thought is the one that brings me peace. Sometimes I just cry and make no apology for it.
@akalinus (44366)
• United States
8 Sep 19
@Namelesss Thanks, it seems like I am losing a lot of friends lately and more are on the way. It is sad.
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@Namelesss (3364)
• United States
8 Sep 19
@akalinus That's all you can do hon. I haven't lost any siblings but at our ages the possibility becomes more and more real.
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@Shivram59 (50273)
• India
7 Sep 19
@akalinus I am very sorry for your loss.You have lost your dear brother who was your closest friend too.I had three elder brothers and none of them is now alive.All the three were my step brothers.We did not have such close relations as you had with your brother.Still I miss them.You have lost a loved and loving brother.....I feel your pain.
@septabchips (1141)
• Nigeria
7 Sep 19
Omg! So sorry about your loss. I pray that God will grant you and the rest of the family the fortitude to bear the loss.
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@Nevena83 (66063)
• Serbia
6 Sep 19
Oh, I'm really sorry about your loss. I hope God gives you the strength to endure. Believe that he is looking at you from heaven and is always there in your heart.
