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@dfollin (24172)
United States
October 16, 2019 8:35pm CST
I promised my friends here at myLot that I would keep you all posted about my living situation. I could not find any place to rent that would let me make a security deposit in payments or except that my credit rate was low. Found one place that I think was a scam ad that said that they would except payments, but checking their distance from the bus stop and the store....... it was 4 miles The other place, if anything ,,,,,, I could go to my oldest son's that I babysit for and live in a small area in their basement . The area is in a townhouse that would be a lot of stairs that would be dangerous for me and at times impossible for me to use, especially carrying the baby Also checking the bus stop is only 3 blocks away and the store 1 and a half miles. But I found out that the bus only runs during rush hours and the route is very strange. I would go to the bus stop 3 blocks away and get on a bus that goes to the metro station that is 11 miles away! This place is dark and creepy at night! You can see some townhouses but they are a long way to go to in case of an emergency especially with my physical situation. Then if rush hour is not over yet I have to get on another bus to go right back near where I came from. But by the time I come out of the store rush hour will be over for sure and I couldn't get home. I was talking to my younger son, who my daughter is speaking to and I told him these facts and he told her. She texted me and said,"Well it's a place to live!" I told her," No it's a place to die because I cannot get food, good to the doctor or get my meds.!" So she ended up resigning the lease but said she would not pay any rent or utilities after the lease we are on that ended October 12th. She already owed me money from me paying her half of the rent many times, spending all my disability. Then she said that she would only sign the lease if she didn't give me the rent or utility money for the apartment complex ! She already took my phone said that she will not give me the money back that she owes me Plus she owes me for 3 and a half months of the cable/wifi bill and 1 and a half months of the electric bill! And she will not let me see my grandson! They left some things here that I have been able to sell, but not enough to pay those bills and late fees I am also not going to have enough to pay next months rent and utilities to the office. I have borrowed some money from a friend and my uncle to pay some of it but not all of it.
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8 responses
• United States
17 Oct 19
I am so sorry that you are having a hard time of it. Does your State offer section 8 housing? Is there anyway you can get on an emergency list and explain your situation? I am sure there are others that know a little bit more about the section 8 program. I'm wishing you the best of luck on this. If you move to your sons, could you see about medical transport? I know in my state (NC) there are medical buses that come and take people to and from appointments.
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@sallypup (57888)
• Centralia, Washington
17 Oct 19
@ScribbleAdNauseum In my state, there is paratransit for the handicapped folks- door to door service in vans. The vans take people to the grocery store as well as the doctor.
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@dfollin (24172)
• United States
17 Oct 19
Yes this state does have section 8 but right now the list is even closed again! Besides I have already signed the lease here till next August 12th. The only emergency housing is a shelter. Which is not safe or healthy. When I first was diagnosed disabled by my doctor I tried to get the rides where the bus comes to the house and I was told that I do not qualify for that because I am able to get on to a regular bus. Plus they only run during the daytime I cannot go to the store during the day because of watching my grandkids.Thanks Amber
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@dfollin (24172)
• United States
17 Oct 19
@sallypup They have some of them here too. But the drivers treat the people badly, boss, bully and sometimes leave them stranded at the stores and they cuss and robe them as well. My mom gets rides to the doctor only and the drivers are not allowed to stop at the store for her to get her prescription. Matter of fact they cannot go anywhere else, they have to be right there in front of the building. The doctors office calls them and tells them when the appointment is over, then they have 5 minutes to get outside, but the driver can be as late as he/she wants to be! One time my mom asked the driver to stop at the pharmacy to get her meds and she did. Later on my mom got a phone call from the driving company that the drivers are not permitted to do that and if she asks again they will not drive her to the doctors again!
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@oahuwriter (26780)
• United States
17 Oct 19
How about a free govt. phone that you got to renew over the phone which takes a few seconds to do. How about rental subsidy to help pay rent? You got to apply every year for it. Benefits.gov has more information about benefits that you can get. You're in such a bind, that, maybe for now you should consider living with your son so you have food and a home though it poses a bit difficult to live in, but you don't have much choices. Maybe they could get a Lift for you for the stairs? Good luck! Hope things work out for you! How about A Place For Mom, it's free and they are at twitter for very quick help.
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@dfollin (24172)
• United States
17 Oct 19
Thanks! I used to have a free government phone, so did other family and friends. My first one arrived broken. the next one only lasted about 3 months. You can only get 200 minutes on it a month. My mom has gone thru 3 in less than a year and my friend has had several of them that keep breaking too. I have already signed the lease here and they won't accept subsidy. Most places that will accept it are already full. They are renting that place so they cannot get a lift for the stairs. My only option now is to find more ways to make more money the next 10 months,
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@dfollin (24172)
• United States
19 Oct 19
@oahuwriter Thanks! I had a Tracfone years ago and it was 25 cents a minute!
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@oahuwriter (26780)
• United States
19 Oct 19
@dfollin Wow! My TracFone has lasted me since 2017 already. All I do is renew my application every month by phone which takes me only a few min. Gee how sad that you and your family has had this happen to you! Now the stores are looking for seasonal help for the holidays that sometimes leads to full-time jobs. Good luck!!!
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@shaggin (71666)
• United States
17 Oct 19
Maybe you can watch the baby in the basement where you live so you won't have to take the baby on the stairs and risk falling. Since the bus is odd hours and scary at night maybe you can buy online and have it brought to your home? That is sad she owes you all that money and won't pay it back.
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@dfollin (24172)
• United States
17 Oct 19
Thanks, but it's just a small area down their and the kitchen is upstairs and their beds are all the way upstairs. Even if I found a way to move in there now I cannot because I already signed a lease here till August 12th.
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@dfollin (24172)
• United States
17 Oct 19
@shaggin Yes, but not a lot.
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@shaggin (71666)
• United States
17 Oct 19
@dfollin babysitting never pays a lot unfortunately
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@LindaOHio (156157)
• United States
17 Oct 19
I'm so sorry that you're having all these troubles. I hope a different living situation presents itself that will work for you.
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@dfollin (24172)
• United States
17 Oct 19
Thanks, my friend.
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@Happy2BeMe (99399)
• Canada
17 Oct 19
I am so sorry to hear this and I thinkg it is terrible that she is keeping you from seeing your grandson and that she won't pay you what she owes you. I will keep you in my prayers and hope that everything will work out for you.
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@dfollin (24172)
• United States
17 Oct 19
Thanks! Yep there are a lot of people that cannot understand why she is acting this way.
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@dfollin (24172)
• United States
17 Oct 19
@Happy2BeMe I know! Sad to say but I am waiting till one day when she needs her son's help and he is not there for her.
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@Happy2BeMe (99399)
• Canada
17 Oct 19
@dfollin I think it is terrible when people use their children like that. It is the children who suffer too. They don't understand what is going on.
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• Sonora, California
17 Oct 19
I am sorry that you are having such a hard time. I will be praying that things improve for you soon!
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@dfollin (24172)
• United States
17 Oct 19
Thanks for the prayers my friend. I can use all the prayers I can get.
@RasmaSandra (73444)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
17 Oct 19
I am so sorry you are having such troubles and I hope the best for you that you can resolve your situation. Many blessings to you. Virtual hugs.
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@dfollin (24172)
• United States
17 Oct 19
Thanks so much my friend. Right now I am going to have to find a way of doing more work online or from home.
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@Janet357 (75656)
17 Oct 19
I'm sorry for this. I don't know the system there but all I can do is pray for your current situation that God Jah will help you find a house that fits your financial situation.
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@dfollin (24172)
• United States
17 Oct 19
I am still here at least till next August 12th, but I need to get more money.