Am I a Cool Mom?
By Toni
@toniganzon (77227)
Philippines
October 18, 2019 8:42pm CST
Recently, I found out that my son has been dating this 9th grade student in his school. My son is in 10th grade. And he hadn't mentioned anything about her till I asked him about her.
He went on a school trip Wednesday and yesterday, Friday, he sent a message if his girlfriend could come with us to pick him up at the airport. I told him that I was fine with it as long as she ask permission from her parents first. It was the very first time I met and actually saw the girl. She was very polite and behaved maturely for her age.
After picking up my son from the airport, we had dinner outside, and then we brought the girl to her home but we just actually dropped her off. And I saw my son hugged her goodbye in front of their gate. It made me feel so old.
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10 responses
@Starmaiden (9308)
• Canada
19 Oct 19
It is beautiful to watch your kids blossom into adults, but you feel a sort of emptiness when they actually leave to pursue their own lives.
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@toniganzon (77227)
• Philippines
23 Oct 19
There's no such thing as emancipation in this country, especially if you have an only cilcd. They remain in with you forever.
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@Alexandoy (65302)
• Cainta, Philippines
19 Oct 19
Yeah, a cool mom you are. I'm sure your son loves you so much with that gesture.
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@toniganzon (77227)
• Philippines
19 Oct 19
Thank you. My son is a good student in school and he has never really given us any problem at all. And I want him to feel that he doesn't have to hide anything from us.
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@infatuatedbby (94909)
• United States
19 Oct 19
Aww how adorable! You are cool on that part, definitely! 
I don't think my parents' would have allowed me to go with a boyfriend's mom to the airport though. Then again, my parents' didn't want to hear the word *boyfriend*. And the only boyfriend brought home would be the one you marry technically in our family/household that was how it worked. I dated a few guys before bringing the one home and he's the one I'm marrying! 
I don't think my parents' would have allowed me to go with a boyfriend's mom to the airport though. Then again, my parents' didn't want to hear the word *boyfriend*. And the only boyfriend brought home would be the one you marry technically in our family/household that was how it worked. I dated a few guys before bringing the one home and he's the one I'm marrying! 1 person likes this
@toniganzon (77227)
• Philippines
19 Oct 19
Asian culture. That's how I was raised as well. But I wouldn't want my son to hide anything from us and I want to meet whoever he's involved with. I want to be a part of his life as much as I can and that can only happen if he allows me to.
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@infatuatedbby (94909)
• United States
19 Oct 19
@toniganzon
Yes, totally it is an Asian culture thing with the whole dating.
Whenever I have kids (or if I do) I would want my child to be able to open up to me as well and not to be afraid.
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@infatuatedbby (94909)
• United States
23 Oct 19
@toniganzon
It is just my sister and I. I have it a tad easier than my sister when my parents' found out she was dating versus me.
But yes, definitely no relationships at all. I have letters saved from all my friends, and then ex-boyfriends (tossed it out afterwards but unsure if my mom snooped.)
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@TiarasOceanView (70020)
• United States
21 Oct 19
Oh so sweet that he has a nice girl friend ..
Do not, you are not old my friend..I love you
If you saw some of my sons girlfriends growing up oh my gosh ..it was a roller coaster ride!!
Do not, you are not old my friend..I love you
If you saw some of my sons girlfriends growing up oh my gosh ..it was a roller coaster ride!!1 person likes this
@toniganzon (77227)
• Philippines
23 Oct 19
Honestly, I don't know how to deal with it. I just didn't expect my son to have a girlfriend he would take seriously this early. But well, he's a teenager and he has to experience that one time or another. I never had a boyfriend in my teens. I just hope he'll remain to take his studies as his priority.
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@toniganzon (77227)
• Philippines
29 Oct 19
@TiarasOceanView True. It depends. My son needs telling sometimes but he knows exactly what to do without me having to interfere. But being a parent, I feel I have to be protective and I want my son not to experience the bad things as much has possible. AT the same time I know as well that he had to experience it on his own to actually learn.
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@TiarasOceanView (70020)
• United States
23 Oct 19
@toniganzon I understand and you have a very valid point. Studies must come first with no distractions. In the long run, this is what matters.
None of us seem to know how to handle it until it happens.
For my experience, I just had to make sure not to say too much or my son would do the exact opposite. But that may not apply to everyone.
For my experience, I just had to make sure not to say too much or my son would do the exact opposite. But that may not apply to everyone.1 person likes this
@toniganzon (77227)
• Philippines
23 Oct 19
Now that he knows his gf is welcomed, he feels more comfortable talking about her to us. But his teachers actually knew about it before us!
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@Happy2BeMe (99353)
• Canada
19 Oct 19
Awww that is so sweet. It is nice that you got to meet her. Young love is so cute.
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@toniganzon (77227)
• Philippines
23 Oct 19
Indeed it was cute. At first, the idea of actually meeting her was kind of uncomfortable for me. I just didn't know how to handle such situation. But I think I did pretty well.
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@Happy2BeMe (99353)
• Canada
23 Oct 19
@toniganzon What I use to hate when my kids were teens was the break ups. It would break my heart to see them hurting and not being able to do anything to ease their pain.
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@toniganzon (77227)
• Philippines
29 Oct 19
@Happy2BeMe That is what I am afraid of and as much as I want to protect my son from it, I know that I wouldn't be able to.
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@moffittjc (128837)
• Gainesville, Florida
19 Oct 19
Awww, that's so cute!
My son is in 11th grade, and as far as I know he's not dating anyone, but he has all the girls chasing him around. I met him at Starbucks after school the other day (it's right next to his high school), and he was walking with four or five girls all surrounding him. When he got to Starbucks and came over to my table where I was sitting, all the girls were giving him hugs and blowing him kisses. It was funny to watch. But also reminds me that he is growing up fast!
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@toniganzon (77227)
• Philippines
23 Oct 19
I wouldn't know how I would react if I would see girls swooning over Craig. But I remember when he was in grade school, girls liked him a lot and would send him letters.
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@toniganzon (77227)
• Philippines
23 Oct 19
If she was, you couldn't see it in her face. She was very warm.
@toniganzon (77227)
• Philippines
23 Oct 19
Oh that's true and honestly I had no idea how to deal with it but I really tried my best I think.
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