Do you think that some people seek out (or at least set themselves up for) "drama"?
By The Horse
@TheHorse (238370)
Walnut Creek, California
October 23, 2019 11:53am CST
I have a female friend who always seems to find herself in situations involving drama.
Years ago, when she was selling flowers at night in local bars (to make extra cash), she went into a darkened parking lot with someone who "left his wallet in the car." Of course, bad things happened.
More recently, she let a cousin of a friend stay at her new house "for a couple of days." He had served several months in prison for beating up his own mother and needed a place to stay. Of course, after a couple of weeks, bad things happened.
Is she lacking common sense? Or does she, at some level, "seek out" dangerous or dramatic situations? I have worked in dangerous neighborhoods, and I have done some work in both men's and women's prisons. But I try to have good situational awareness and good boundaries. I manage to avoid drama.
Do you know people who tend to "attract" drama?
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@LindaOHio (222898)
• United States
23 Oct 19
It seems like she may be intelligent but lacks "street sense". Common sense would tell you not to go into a darkened parking lot with a stranger and not to invite a stranger to stay at your house. I don't think she would intentiionally do these things for drama's sake.
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
23 Oct 19
Absolutely, I call them drama queens. It is kind of sad that some people seem to actually need this extra attention in thier lives. I avoid the drama and am thankful this lifestyle is not for me. I always think that person is lacking in their lives. What that specifically is, who knows for sure.
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@much2say (57760)
• Los Angeles, California
23 Oct 19
Sadly some people just don't get it . . . they don't like situations, but the things they do it's no wonder they get sucked into them. My mother in law's situation was similar to your friend's . . . a troubled grandson was allowed to stay with her because she felt sorry for him . . . she didn't want him to feel worse so she let him be . . . and sure enough bad things happened - right under her nose!
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@much2say (57760)
• Los Angeles, California
24 Oct 19
@TheHorse Sadly, my sister in law and loser husband (the grandson's parents) have asked the parents (my inlaws) for money ever since they got married (in their late teens!) - they have taken advantage for eons and still try to 
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@wolfgirl569 (136008)
• Marion, Ohio
23 Oct 19
I know people who seem to look for drama.
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@wolfgirl569 (136008)
• Marion, Ohio
24 Oct 19
@TheHorse Some just like to be in the middle of the excitement. But to keep setting yourself up to get physically hurt I dont understand. And yes if her father was abusive she could be looking for that type of man without knowing it. Hoping that they will show her the love she didnt feel then. It could help if she talked to someone to find why and what to do.
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@TheHorse (238370)
• Walnut Creek, California
24 Oct 19
@wolfgirl569 Se does not believe in doctors or psychologists. Or reading.
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@TheHorse (238370)
• Walnut Creek, California
24 Oct 19
Do you have any idea what their "reasoning" is? This woman never felt loved by her father. But that does not explain it. She is a good friend, and a good person (she would never knowingly do something "mean" to someone), But she attracts drama like I attract 3-year-olds.
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@thislittlepennyearns (68246)
• Defuniak Springs, Florida
23 Oct 19
I think there is probably something about the drama that attracts her to them.
I know someone who claims that a dude she used to see threatened or tried to kill her or something, and yet shes hiding the fact that they are still hanging out. So either she lied about what happened or shes just attracted to the drama. Haven't figured it out yet.
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@thislittlepennyearns (68246)
• Defuniak Springs, Florida
23 Oct 19
@TheHorse Considering who she is. She wouldn't give me a straight answer. She's baby momma of boyfriends oldest. I doubt she's gonna answer anything either one of us ask her with any ounce of honesty.
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@samysotelo18 (7743)
• Mexico
23 Oct 19
Oh my god yes, there's some people that it's like they need to have that type of issues in their lives, stuff that could have been easily avoided
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@TheHorse (238370)
• Walnut Creek, California
24 Oct 19
@samysotelo18 It even happens with the 1- through 6-year-olds I work with. They don't get enough attention for the positive stuff the try to do. So they get involved in "drama" to get attention.
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@samysotelo18 (7743)
• Mexico
24 Oct 19
@TheHorse I do! I think it might come from the childhood, meybe the only way they could get the attention they needes was either by causing trouble that lead to emotional pain, and somehow they can't be at peace without having this suffering in their lives...I think it's interesting and I have been a person like that before...That made me hold on to a horrible relationship a few years back, it's a pretty interesting subject
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@xstitcher (39074)
• Petaluma, California
25 Nov 19
I think there are people who do--maybe because they want the attention after the "drama" happens? Not sure.
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@JohnRoberts (109841)
• Los Angeles, California
23 Oct 19
Yes, I have. It's amazing how drama queens seek it out and then revel in the attention that bad things bring.
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