do you bcc? how do you react?
By hereandthere
@hereandthere (45628)
Philippines
January 8, 2020 7:42pm CST
some people forward your emails, texts, private messages to other people without your knowledge.
why do people do that? to get sympathy for themselves? to bring down the original sender?
but how about when you're the one who receives those forwarded messages? who do you believe?
the sender who forwarded it to you or the original sender?
are you open-minded enough or fair enough to read and analyze it objectively even if you don't know the original sender? even if you had a negative experience with the original sender?
sometime last year, mother realized a family member was doing this when a relative brought up an issue that mother was sure only she and that family member was texting each other about.
when i really, really thought about it, at the end of the day, it really depends on the recipient who she or he will believe.
it depends if he or she is open-minded enough and has a sense of fairness to focus on the issue, not the people involved.
are you the sender or the receiver? who do you side with?
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14 responses
@crazyhorseladycx (39503)
• United States
9 Jan 20
gossipers, not my favorite group 'f folks. i use bcc fer emails 'nly coz when i send emails i need copies 'f. no personal schtuff.
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@hereandthere (45628)
• Philippines
10 Jan 20
but we can't really tell if they forward it or talk about it with others. that's why i think it boils down to the receiver whom they will believe
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@crazyhorseladycx (39503)
• United States
10 Jan 20
@hereandthere oh, they can ferward what i dribble to whome'er they wish. i 'ncourage such'n fact. 'tis most oft letters to elected officials :)
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@hereandthere (45628)
• Philippines
10 Jan 20
i've been guilty of sharing a classmate's letter who moved away when she got married. i was so excited and felt nothing was too personal in the content so i shared it with other classmates when we got together.
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@hereandthere (45628)
• Philippines
10 Jan 20
@LadyDuck for work, no, i never did
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@LadyDuck (502148)
• Italy
10 Jan 20
@hereandthere I think I never did. For the kind of work I always had, I learnt "discretion and privacy" and I know that I would be upset to know that someone shares the content of a personal text I sent.
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@RebeccasFarm (91299)
• United States
10 Jan 20
Oh I hate that..I do not do it and do not want it done to me.
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@hereandthere (45628)
• Philippines
10 Jan 20
exactly. pause and put yourself in that person's shoes. but realistically speaking, as ladyduck says, it's part of human nature so it really depends on the receiver if they'll believe it, pass it on or ignore it.
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@RebeccasFarm (91299)
• United States
10 Jan 20
@hereandthere Yes circumstances always vary
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@sunrisefan (28524)
• Philippines
10 Jan 20
I sometimes BCC the CEO of our cooperative for my email replies to the TWG Chair, the Secretary or other members of the TWG when I feel the need for the CEO to be informed. That would not be an issue though because our communications are all business and it's in the loop of the TWG. I BCC the CEO so that she can be updated on what we're doing and she can act accordingly if there is need for her to do so.
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@hereandthere (45628)
• Philippines
10 Jan 20
while you're overseas, do you keep in touch with them or zero communication?
@sunrisefan (28524)
• Philippines
10 Jan 20
They keep me tabbed every now and then. In fact, the contractor of thr hotel keeps me in the loop and asks for inputs if I have. The other day our TWG secretary who is an architect sent me photos of the demolition of 2 bungalow units to give way to the construction of our branch building in another province which has been long delayed because of government bureaucracy. The BOD secretary also asked me if I will already be home on the 18th for the groundbreaking and I replied that I won’t be home yet and told her that I will stay only for about a month and will be back here for 4 months. I told her I might not be reappointed by the BOD then but she told me that they have not appointed anyone to replace me. I was told that the hotel will be finished by December and hopefully I will be around to witness the completion of the project I was actively a part of.
@YrNemo (20254)
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10 Jan 20
I don't often email confidential stuff to people who I don't trust enough. However, when doing reportings (workwise), I might have to do that bcc stuff to certain higher rank people especially if I know there were some conflicts among the main receiver & the bcc one. (The bcc happens to be the boss and my uni friend.)
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@jstory07 (148701)
• Roseburg, Oregon
14 Jan 20
I delete those type of emails. I do not want to get involved with gossip.
@moffittjc (128824)
• Gainesville, Florida
11 Jan 20
I try to live my life with the greatest of integrity. If I have a private conversation with someone (whether in person, through text or email), or someone shares private information with me, it stays between me and that person. I don't forward it to anyone else, I don't say anything to anyone else, or act inappropriately on the information. If I give you my word that it's just between us, it stays just between us.
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
20 Jan 20
Hm, thats a tough one. I don't usually do it, unless I'm sending a chain type message to a lot of people in that case its just for privacy
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@Nakitakona (59987)
• Philippines
15 Jan 20
If it's a private I don't share. I read it and delete. If it's a forwarded message and it's uplifting and worth sharing I do share. But I usually share it stops in me. I don't want to bother others.
