Good morning. Babysitting continues.
By marguicha
@marguicha (230350)
Chile
January 20, 2020 5:58am CST
Claudia stayed again last night and today we will see what happens. All this about Claudia´s splitting form her 13 years partner has been painful and hard.
When she goes to talk to him, she comes back saying that maybe she should let him stay, that it is her fault in part, that he has told her that he would chance and not to rush things. I don´t think that it is rushing anything to get away from an abuser and controlling person that has done that for around 10 years.
So, I have not been mylotting and my life has changed a lot. I am invaded, but that is a job I want to do. I only told Claudia yesterday that I had forgotten the amount of toilet paper that children use
We are in need of jokes as there are too many tears.
We are in need of jokes as there are too many tears.8 people like this
9 responses
@marguicha (230350)
• Chile
20 Jan 20
That is the way he abuses her psychologically. Putting all the blame on her for anything and never accepting that he does anything wrong. He is always the victim and that is how he manipulates her. And yes, today she will go to a psychologist for the second time.
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@dfollin (27267)
• United States
20 Jan 20
@marguicha Oh I know how they do. Putting the blame on her and making her feel guilty! But then she is one of those women that fall for his abusive controlling stuff!
That is so sad!
I hope this psychologist helps her and she doesn't go back to this jerk!
That is so sad! I hope this psychologist helps her and she doesn't go back to this jerk!1 person likes this
@marguicha (230350)
• Chile
20 Jan 20
@dfollin I don´t understand! In everything else she is a beautiful and successful woman. I think that he cannot stand this and yet cannot do anything to reach her level
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@amitkokiladitya (171988)
• Agra, India
20 Jan 20
You both are going through a very tough time. I understand and you both really need to stay strong for the kids. How old are the kids.
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@marguicha (230350)
• Chile
20 Jan 20
Claudia has 3 children. Carolina (29) and Vicente (16) are by her first husband. Sofía (9) is her daughter with Rafael. According to what I have heard in these days, Carolina moved away from home years ago because Claudia sided with Rafael always and Carolina would not be yelled at or be called names.
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@marguicha (230350)
• Chile
21 Jan 20
@amitkokiladitya The only problem in all senses will be Sofía. Rafael has no say in anything about Vicente even if he is a minor. And Carolina is a grown up woman.
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@amitkokiladitya (171988)
• Agra, India
20 Jan 20
@marguicha ohk...then they are pretty big.
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@Tina30219 (82978)
• Onaway, Michigan
20 Jan 20
No she is doing the right thing she don’t need to put up with the abuse.
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@marguicha (230350)
• Chile
21 Jan 20
@Tina30219 They only have one child in common, Claudia´s youngest (9 years old).
@Tina30219 (82978)
• Onaway, Michigan
20 Jan 20
@marguicha Right. They will still have to deal with each other for the kids and try to be civil to each other
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@marguicha (230350)
• Chile
21 Jan 20
It is hard in many ways. But I think that Claudia will do what is best for her and the children.
@marguicha (230350)
• Chile
21 Jan 20
That´s what she is doing now. I am very glad.
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@marguicha (230350)
• Chile
21 Jan 20
@LadyDuck And she has a very good job where she is respected. She´ll get over it.
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@LadyDuck (502573)
• Italy
21 Jan 20
@marguicha I am sure that this is the best decision, she needs to live her life.
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@LindaOHio (222534)
• United States
20 Jan 20
It's hard to split with someone after 13 years; but that's what she needs to do.
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@marguicha (230350)
• Chile
21 Jan 20
Carolina (her oldest daughter) helped her take the right decision. She showed her many things that were not love but violence and control.
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@marguicha (230350)
• Chile
21 Jan 20
I have known for a long time that he is not for her. But I could not tell her.
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@xFiacre (14790)
• Ireland
20 Jan 20
@marguicha I hope she makes decisions that will be good for her.
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