Do you buy lots of Christmas presents for your children?

United States
November 29, 2006 12:53pm CST
Do you buy lots of Christmas presents for your children or do you worry that you will spoil them by doing this? Isn't the meaning of Christmas to celebrate the birth of Christ and really doesn't have anything to do with buying presents at all? My wife and I have differing opinions every year on how much to spend on presents ... not sure I would buy any at all if it wasn't for her!
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@brokentia (10395)
• United States
29 Nov 06
Let me first say, we do not celebreate Christmas. I am a different religion but we celebrate the Yule/Winter Solistice. This is a few days before Christmas and we also give gifts. However, our celebrationg starts at sun down and continues to sunrise. As for gift giving...the rule is each person can only give one present to each person. So, each child gets a present from Mom and one from Dad. They also make each other gifts. They are taught that if it is made, it took heart, love, and will of the other to make it for them...so it is treasured. The interesting and difficult thing about this season is...my children know that they will only get one present from us...so when asking them what they want, they are very careful to select what they ask for. LOL
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• United States
29 Nov 06
I like the idea behind your gift giving. I like that you only buy one gift for your kids and that they have to really consider what they want. I think when I was a kid I would sometimes tell my parents things that I wanted just because it seemed good at the time!
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@brokentia (10395)
• United States
30 Nov 06
Growing up with my father, I didn't get anything for the holiday because he couldn't afford it. But when I lived with my mother later in my teen years, she told me to pick out the things I wanted. It was so hard to do...so I did what you described. I just picked things to pick. ha ha I like the idea that my kids think about it too. :) Thanks for the support!
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@medooley (1874)
• United States
30 Nov 06
Very interesting to say the least. I like the idea of making gifts... do you think that my kids could make me a big screen TV?
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@medooley (1874)
• United States
29 Nov 06
What is your definition of a lot? Are you referring to the amount that you spend or the number of presents? I wouldn't say that I buy my kids a lot of presents, but I am that there are people who may think that I do.
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• United States
29 Nov 06
I'm talking about spending a lot of money. Like a hundred plus dollars. I think my kids already have too many toys so it would be hard for me to justify spending that much money on toys when there are so many better ways to spend money. I think the money would be spent better on paying bills and making their life better that way (by getting out of debt) then buying them the dollhouse my wife insists they need!
@medooley (1874)
• United States
29 Nov 06
Hey but if you get the dollhouse, perhaps your kids will have a kind uncle that will go crazy and get them extra accessories for it. What's a doll house with out furniture?
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• United States
29 Nov 06
I wish I had an uncle that would go crazy and buy me all kinds of Christmas presents!
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• United States
29 Nov 06
My son IS spoiled, but not spoiled rotten. There's nothing wrong with buying your kids toys so long as they stay levelheaded about it. It's when they start to EXPECT it that you have problems. That said, yes, I buy lots of stuff for my son for christmas. Luckily, this year I found Mturk and made about $145 since the end of September doing that. I took that money and transferred it into Amazon gift certificates and used it to buy christmas gifts for him :) He's getting that new fisher price kids digital camera, some new Little People toys, some books, some kid k'nex...and it all cost me $9.75 out of my own pocket :) All the rest came from Mturk. If anyone's interested, the link is www.mturk.com. Most of the tasks pay literally a penny, but you want to try to answer the Nownow Research Questions. The more of those you get and get great answer votes on, the more you can win at the end of the week :D That's where $126 of that money came from!
• United States
29 Nov 06
Thanks for the tip! I'm sure lots of people will be racing to see how much extra money for Christmas they can make!
@medooley (1874)
• United States
29 Nov 06
Thanks for the tip I will have to take a look at that site?
• United States
29 Nov 06
i buy lots of gifts for my kids.yes the meaning of christmas is to celebrate the birth of christ.but the kids love christmas and to get gifts.
• United States
29 Nov 06
Of course they love to get gifts! My kids would also love it if everytime we went to the grocery store I'd forget the broccoli and just buy chocolate and cookies ... but that doesn't mean I do it. Sarcasm aside, don't you worry that Christmas will become less about Christ and more about presents?
@minnie_98214 (10572)
• United States
29 Nov 06
im supposed to buy for my kids why didnt you tell me. Kidding i buy a few things but they get so much from others i dont worry so much.
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• United States
29 Nov 06
I like the way that you think!
@Ravenladyj (22936)
• United States
29 Nov 06
Christmas means different things to different ppl....and as much as I do think its become far too commerical..I've never ever considered it a Christian thing but I'm Pagan...for us Xmas is about family time, getting together with friends and loved ones, making memories to last a lifetime and that sort of thing....that being said I try to get my kids things they'll enjoy and when we can afford it yes they do get a little spoiled at that time of yr (we actually went to Jamaica for Xmas 4 yrs ago and they got gifts there and money and then gifts when we got home too) but life has been hard for them and they deserve it twice a yr (Xmas and their birthdays)...this yr we cant spend tons of money but the stuff they are getting is pricier than last yr and things they really want...
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• United States
29 Nov 06
Um, can you adopt me please?? Seriously though, Jamaica, gifts and money? Don't you worry about what you are teaching them? Money can't buy love.
@rakinitin (686)
• Canada
30 Nov 06
My daughter is grown now and insists on no gifts at Christmas. Gift giving was invented and has nothing to do with a religious holiday
@imadriscoll (2230)
• United States
29 Nov 06
Do you know my husband or something? Because he thinks a lot like you! I think that if you celebrate Christmas as the birth of Christ then you need to be teaching your children year around about the importance of Christ, who He is and what He has done. If you only teach them on one day of the year then you have missed out on the importance of the holiday and more importantly the importance of Jesus. I think that gifts can be used as a physical lesson of what Christmas is ... God's gift of His Son to the world. We give our children gifts because we love them, just like God loves us. It is a great teachable moment if used correctly! Though excess should be avoided, because no one likes a spoiled kid!
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@cblackink (969)
• United States
29 Nov 06
I don't have any children but my boyfriend has a son who is almost 13. Every year, he gets gifts lavished on him because he is an only child. They are expensive ones too- PSP, IPods, etc...If he were my child, I wouldn't do that. I believe Christmas is supposed to be a holy holiday.
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• United States
29 Nov 06
My parents have always done both for us... give us presents, BUT also realize the important of Church and of Christmas. I was raised in a strong Catholic family. We went to midnight mass and my parents made sure we understood the meaning behind Christmas. My family is German, so we didn't have Santa visit us, we had "Kristkindchen", "Christ's Child"... and he came after church on Christmas Eve. My husbands side o the family is non-religious.. so for them its all about the presents. But, i will make sure that my daughter understands the importance of Christmas
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• United States
29 Nov 06
Yes, for my children I do. I start buying throughout the year so it dosent hit me all at once!
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@fotychic (318)
• United States
29 Nov 06
We buy our some things throughout the year as well, so we only get him one or two presents for Christmas. He still has lots of Aunts and Uncles, and Grandparents who give him presents too, so he is far from being deprived!
@usmcsgtwife (4997)
• United States
30 Nov 06
nope we set a limit of 75.00 per kid
• United States
30 Nov 06
That seems reasonable to me.
@manaki23 (214)
• Greece
29 Nov 06
for everybody.....
• United States
30 Nov 06
If you're buying for everybody I'd like to have a gas grill!
@alpalino (226)
29 Nov 06
I can't effort any for this year.
• United States
29 Nov 06
I know where you're coming from. It's kinda sad isn't it?
• United States
29 Nov 06
There was a time when I could afford to buy many presents. My children are grown now and I have grandchildren. I have tried to make a nice Christmas for them. Last year I realized the importance of focusing on other things. They opened their gifts and really didn't see what was inside the wrapping or did they really acknowledge who the gift was from. I want them to understand what Christmas is all about. The spiritual side. I really doubt their parents do this for them. This year there will be fewer gifts. I am making what I can. Money is tight due to loss of jobs for both me and my husband. My 5 year old grandson really doesn't understand why he won't be getting a lot of presents. I believe that the kids need to appreciate the fact that gifts cost money. Money doesn't grow on trees. And, it isn't about the presents.
• United States
29 Nov 06
I agree with you. It seems like we almost teach our kids to be greedy by going out of our way to make sure that they have a million of presents that they aren't thankful for!
@aprilsue00 (1992)
• United States
29 Nov 06
I always buy my kids a lot of presents for christmas. It is the one time of year where you are supposed to spoil your kids.
• United States
29 Nov 06
I guess that's what a lot of people think, but I just think that practical gifts are a better idea. Like socks and comforters for their beds and stuff like that.
• United States
30 Nov 06
This is his 1st christmas so he will be only 2 months so not much toys since he wont kno how to play
@annsweets (2046)
• United States
29 Nov 06
i usually buy them alot of stuff, but this year i have to cut my alot on my spending
@brokentia (10395)
• United States
29 Nov 06
Let me first say, we do not celebreate Christmas. I am a different religion but we celebrate the Yule/Winter Solistice. This is a few days before Christmas and we also give gifts. However, our celebrationg starts at sun down and continues to sunrise. As for gift giving...the rule is each person can only give one present to each person. So, each child gets a present from Mom and one from Dad. They also make each other gifts. They are taught that if it is made, it took heart, love, and will of the other to make it for them...so it is treasured. The interesting and difficult thing about this season is...my children know that they will only get one present from us...so when asking them what they want, they are very careful to select what they ask for. LOL