Visited My Neighbor ~ Lost His Wife
By CarolDM
@CarolDM (203396)
Nashville, Tennessee
April 22, 2020 2:25pm CST
Visited, from a safe distance, my neighbor that lost his wife two years ago yesterday. He just turned 80. And now lives alone. His children are all grown with families. They visit every now and then.
He always grows tomatoes and shares from his garden. When I visited earlier, he was planting flowers around the memorial tree for his wife. And had some tomato plants as well. He told me not to buy tomatoes, he would make sure we had plenty.
Such a nice neighbor. Good to see him with a smile. And I also saw a few tears as he said he couldn't believe she's been gone two years now. He said it seems like a lifetime.
But, all in all, he seemed in good spirits. He was happy in his garden. It was good to see him a few minutes.
The photo are the flowers I sent to his wife a few days before she passed with cancer. We all have to enjoy each moment we have.
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@Alexandoy (65302)
• Cainta, Philippines
22 Apr 20
That made me sad that he still misses his wife even after 2 years.
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@Alexandoy (65302)
• Cainta, Philippines
22 Apr 20
@CarolDM this reminds me of my parents who were married for more than 60 years when my mother passed away. It was fortunate that my father was able to overcome the grief that he lived for 5 more years.
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
22 Apr 20
@Alexandoy It can be really bad the older you get.
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@moffittjc (128837)
• Gainesville, Florida
23 Apr 20
That was very nice of you to visit your neighbor. I'm sure he appreciated the interaction, even if it was from a distance. Sorry to hear about his wife, but it's nice that he has a memorial tree to keep her memory alive. It was also nice of you to send those flowers several years ago. I hope you enjoy the tomatoes he gives you!
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@moffittjc (128837)
• Gainesville, Florida
23 Apr 20
@CarolDM That is nice that you visit with him. It probably helps him avoid too much loneliness.
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
23 Apr 20
@moffittjc It helped us both I think.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
22 Apr 20
@CarolDM This post made me tear up. I'm so sorry for your neighbour's loss. He sounds like a very sweet man. It was lovely of you to remember her anniversary.
The flowers are so beautiful! And very thoughtful of you too.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
24 Apr 20
@CarolDM They both sound like amazing people. R.I.P to your beautiful friend. 
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
24 Apr 20
@VivaLaDani13 Thanks si very much. She is greatly missed.
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
22 Apr 20
You are sweet. It is hard to get through grief. I visit him when I see him in his yard. He is very sweet. I can never forget his lovely wife, we were very close. She said she always wanted flowers while she was alive, don't wait unlit I die. She joked about that the entire time I knew her. So she got them.
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@LindaOHio (222624)
• United States
22 Apr 20
It's so sad to lose a spouse. I can't even imagine what that feels like. I'm glad you visited him.
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@LindaOHio (222624)
• United States
22 Apr 20
@CarolDM So sad. That is what I worry about if I lose my husband...no one to visit.
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
22 Apr 20
@LindaOHio Same here. We will visit each other.
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@wolfgirl569 (135881)
• Marion, Ohio
22 Apr 20
Good that he is well and dong things
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@freelancermariagrace (29342)
• Philippines
23 Apr 20
Beautiful flowers. Glad you visited him. That's so nice of you!
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@DocAndersen (54399)
• United States
23 Apr 20
i have to say i am wiping a tear from my eye. What a sad moment. You are an awesome person to stop by!
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@DocAndersen (54399)
• United States
23 Apr 20
@CarolDM well it got me to, although I will deny tearing up if asked!
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@Butterfingers (66603)
• India
24 Apr 20
Sorry to know about your neighbor's wife and so kind of him to help you with farm fresh tomatoes
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@JohnRoberts (109841)
• Los Angeles, California
22 Apr 20
A nice visit for you both.
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@DesirousDreamer (34776)
• Peoria, Arizona
22 Apr 20
He sounds like such a sweet man. It is good that you visit him! Being alone like that cannot be easy.
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