Communication and love

Thanks. Yes, the best communication will always be one with love behind it.

@sophie09 Yes. Love finds the right words, love comforts, love understands, love is patient and kind in its words, all signs of good communication.

@innertalks when there is love, there is a good communication

@amitkokiladitya Yes, a sharp word thrown at someone cuts just as much as a stone does, and its damage cannot be taken back easily either.

That's true, for sure, but sometimes too much communication can also become a problem. We had a guy at work like that who somebody named, "motor-mouth", because it was like he had a motor in his mouth, he was always talking, never turning his motor off for a while. So, to me, it's the quality of the communication that puts the icing on the cake of any relationship.

@innertalks I completely agree. Our words are a sharp weapon and should always be used wisely

Thank-you. I am glad you liked/agreed with, what I wrote.

@innertalks Yes I have.

@Shiva49 Napoleon Hill did just that, in the area of business success. He interviewed hundreds of great men and women over many years, and he wrote his best selling book, "Think and grow rich", as a result of his findings. There are some famous people I would not like to meet myself, too though. I would not really like to meet Einstein, for example, nor even some famous chess players, nor even famous singers. I prefer to dream about them, and not meet them in person, and have my illusions shattered... lol... On the other hand, I would like to meet a spiritual giant, and have my illusions shattered. One way, or another, I would know if that spiritual giant had any truth in him, I think. I have met a few, and I found they had nothing much in them except the hot air of their own beliefs, that they knew the truths, when I could see that they knew less than which my pet dog knew at the time, and it probably knew more...again...lol...

@innertalks Thanks Steve. Yes, I bask in the memories of the bonding of love of the few who have left our shores. Their voices and actions live for ever. My life is so much enriched by them being part of my life in various ways/roles and inspire me to carry on and emulate their good deeds. HENRY WADSWORTH LONGFELLOW's verse says it all - siva Lives of great men all remind us We can make our lives sublime, And, departing, leave behind us Footprints on the sands of time

@innertalks My dream is to meet giants in their fields who have graced this place and to witness the reality of their times, their work ethic, what inspired them etc. They include religious leaders, spiritual masters, scientists, literary giants et al. They not only would have had talents but also undivided pursuit of their goals to excel in their fields. And some would have achieved against all odds too - siva

Yes, communication can cause both the ending and restoring of a relationship, as you said, but loving communication can beautify a relationship to a whole new level, to one that is not just idly existing, on an even keel, with no real problems to it, but just the same is lacking the sparkle of real love in the relationship.

Thanks, Scott. I liked what you said about the two doors. It has the right sounding doorbells on the doors to me too, for me to hear what you mean. I would say that God is an open house, with no doors to him, and yet there are infinite doors before him too. These are our own doors that we must open to see God. We place them there ourselves. When we communicate to someone, we open our own door to them, and we keep open our door to them, that they put in front of us too. Whether there are more doors inside of us depends on how segregated we are divided to ourselves, so we might have many doors to each separate part of us then. One door to our heart, one to our mind, one to our consciousness, and even one to our unconsciousness. An enlightened person is so lightened because he has all of his doors open wide now.

@Shiva49 Beautifully put, siva. You are writing better about love now, than which I only try to do here. Perhaps, my influence of always plugging love, has rubbed off on you a bit though, so we have gained something from each other, over the many years of our writing, and toing and froing here and there, and everywhere.

@innertalks When we don't see any doors then we are fully integrated with creation and I believe God is everywhere in the whole process. We don't see us as separate from the rest. God is the life force oiled by unabated love - siva

Yes, without connection through communication of some type or another, the fires of love tend to cool off, or stay as individual fires in each person, rather than combining into a far bigger fire of love than what is possible otherwise. A combined love fire is always bigger than any individual fire could ever be. This is why we need to love others, and to love God too.

@innertalks So right!

Yes, what do they say about a smile? A smile communicates its message for miles and miles, from our dials! We need to dial up a smile today, especially if we haven't adopted its style for a while!

@innertalks Yes, there is a "mile" in between the two ss in smiles - siva

Yes, good communication, opens doors, bad communication closes them. Good communication skills can even open closed doors, closed at us, but bad communication skills makes others put more locks on their doors too, to keep them more firmly closed towards us.

@innertalks Love and communication work hand in hand.

@cherigucchi Yes, I agree with you there.

Yes, and so when love is involved, all becomes magical because of it, communication too, becomes magical, is what I am saying here.

That's ok. That is what I like to do here. Anybody can share their views and opinions. This is a great site to do just that.

I agree with you there too. One of the most precious of love's gifts to another person is loving communication to them.

Yes, great endearing communication, and the way we speak to others, if it is in a kind and caring way, could lead to love, because love is behind it too, I think. Yes, if we feel connected through love, we will want to continue to talk to the other person, and to share our experiences, and ourselves, with them too. Love opens up the real us, and most people like to speak to the real us, rather than to someone that we are just pretending to be.