July 31, 2020 5:50pm CST
There are things in my apartment I know I need to part with. Five years after my mother died, I still have things of hers I need to go through. It's better than it was, but I really need to figure stuff out for the sake of organization. I was keeping some of her things in the back of my SUV, but my dad accidentally threw some of that away a year ago. He meant well, and I had to let that go even if it was upsetting at the time. It's not that there is a ton of stuff, it's just that my apartment is too small for much in the first place. How long does it take for you to go through things people give you, or if they pass away, how long does it take for you to go through it? It just feels wrong almost to give away anything that was hers.
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Its different for each relationship. I still have a ring that my grandfather gave to me after my grandmother passed. I wasn't as close to her as I was to him. Him giving it to me helped me realize that he looked at me as an adult. I have nothing of my Dad's, he passed away 11 years ago. I cherish the photo I have of him. You take as long as you need to let go of things, and do not feel bad about that length of time.
• United States
I know that you and I have discussed this a little bit already. I still have a few things of my mom's that I just need to get rid of. It can be so hard just getting rid of things because we have emotional attachment to them. I've been getting rid of things a lot lately, and still need to go through some books that I will never read and donate them. I have two boxes on the floor that are just junk and I need to chuck it, but yeah.. sometimes it's just difficult.
• United States
My mom's books are the last thing (besides pictures) my dad has kept of hers, and he has asked my sister and I to go through them and take what we want, and he'll donate the rest of them. That's going to take a long time because she had hundreds.
• Cuyahoga Falls, Ohio
Hugs Amber. I've been in your shoes 6.5 years ago. A lot of my mother's stuff and furniture went out of the window. I kept about 5% as keepsake mementos. With my brother's help, it took us two to three days. Then last December, we did another round, which took us maybe two hours to empty my closets except for my mother's X-mas stuff. Not much was given away either.