Proxy Marriage,Thoughts?
By YoghurtGal
@flapiz (22403)
United Kingdom
October 18, 2020 11:30am CST
I have been watching a lot of period dramas these days and in many occasions, I see “wedding by proxy”.
So basically, it’s a wedding making use of a stand in because for some reason one of the party cannot attend. I am not sure if it still exist today but I do find it too convenient that it seems to defeat the purpose of having a ceremony.
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@moffittjc (118449)
• Gainesville, Florida
23 Oct 20
I would not want a stand-in at my wedding. If I cannot have my bride standing there next to me to recite the wedding vows with me, then I would rather hold off until a later time.
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@flapiz (22403)
• United Kingdom
24 Oct 20
@moffittjc Yeah marriage today has become quite breakable. Unfortunately.
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@moffittjc (118449)
• Gainesville, Florida
24 Oct 20
@flapiz Too many people nowadays don't treat marriage like the sacred union that it was designed to be. You are right in saying that it should be solemn and sincere.
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@JimBo452020 (42629)
• United Kingdom
18 Oct 20
@flapiz
I checked.
It would not be legal in Scotland even if involved a bride and groom living next door to each other here in our town.
Both parties to be married must legally swear oaths to each other, in person.
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@flapiz (22403)
• United Kingdom
19 Oct 20
@JimBo452020 Well probably it’s not legal in a lot of places in this modern day. Although I found that it is legal in some African places.
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@florelway (23141)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
19 Oct 20
Never heard of such a thing or just actually heard it now. Is that being done?
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@flapiz (22403)
• United Kingdom
22 Oct 20
@florelway they have a marriage contract the other one is presigned by the absent party. And they have a witness to make sure it’s legal and binding and also to make sure they don’t get carried away by the moment and consummate the marriage.
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@florelway (23141)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
21 Oct 20
@flapiz that's very strange. Wonder if they need special documents for that when one of the contracting parties is absent.
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@jvicentevalera (13671)
• Santiago, Chile
18 Oct 20
It would be an odd wedding to attend haha
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@fatragu (677)
• United States
19 Oct 20
I have heard of this being used in the US military if for some reason they MUST get married and just can't be in the same spot at the same time.
I can think of medical reasons why this may be used. One person needing surgery and wanting the other person to be the one making the decisions for them since they know what the person wants done.
Other than that, I don't really see a need for it.
Have a great day and may the pay out odds be ever in your favor!
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@flapiz (22403)
• United Kingdom
19 Oct 20
Medical reason does sound quite sensible reason for proxy marriage. I’ve always thought it is more of a political gain but yeah it can be necessary.
@Letranknight2015 (51532)
• Philippines
19 Oct 20
Not sure if i should proxy a marriage, it's either Im there or not.
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@flapiz (22403)
• United Kingdom
19 Oct 20
Same here. I don’t think I ever need to be in a proxy marriage. I’m a jealous person, I’d probably get jealous of the proxy bride.
@flapiz (22403)
• United Kingdom
18 Oct 20
Exactly same sentiment. Is a wedding that urgent that can’t wait for the bride and groom to meet face to face?
