Proxy Marriage,Thoughts?

@flapiz (11155)
United Kingdom
October 18, 2020 11:30am CST
I have been watching a lot of period dramas these days and in many occasions, I see “wedding by proxy”. So basically, it’s a wedding making use of a stand in because for some reason one of the party cannot attend. I am not sure if it still exist today but I do find it too convenient that it seems to defeat the purpose of having a ceremony.
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@sharon6345 (251671)
• United States
18 Oct
I would not proceed unless it was me standing there.
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@flapiz (11155)
• United Kingdom
18 Oct
I share the same sentiment. I take marriage pretty seriously and having it by proxy makes it less serious.
@sharon6345 (251671)
• United States
18 Oct
@flapiz I am just sure I would be there.
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@JimBo452020 (27331)
• Montrose, Scotland
18 Oct
Would that be legal in the UK?
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@flapiz (11155)
• United Kingdom
18 Oct
In this modern day it is not legal in the UK. Since it poses migration issues.
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@JimBo452020 (27331)
• Montrose, Scotland
18 Oct
@flapiz I checked. It would not be legal in Scotland even if involved a bride and groom living next door to each other here in our town. Both parties to be married must legally swear oaths to each other, in person.
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@flapiz (11155)
• United Kingdom
19 Oct
@JimBo452020 Well probably it’s not legal in a lot of places in this modern day. Although I found that it is legal in some African places.
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@moffittjc (91092)
• Gainesville, Florida
23 Oct
I would not want a stand-in at my wedding. If I cannot have my bride standing there next to me to recite the wedding vows with me, then I would rather hold off until a later time.
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@flapiz (11155)
• United Kingdom
23 Oct
I truly share the same sentiment. It’s supposed to be a solemn and sincere vow not just a civil obligation.
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@moffittjc (91092)
• Gainesville, Florida
24 Oct
@flapiz Too many people nowadays don't treat marriage like the sacred union that it was designed to be. You are right in saying that it should be solemn and sincere.
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@flapiz (11155)
• United Kingdom
24 Oct
@moffittjc Yeah marriage today has become quite breakable. Unfortunately.
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@florelway (14967)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
19 Oct
Never heard of such a thing or just actually heard it now. Is that being done?
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@flapiz (11155)
• United Kingdom
20 Oct
Well I’ve only just heard of it or seen it on period dramas. It’s been done before I’m not sure to this day.
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@florelway (14967)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
21 Oct
@flapiz that's very strange. Wonder if they need special documents for that when one of the contracting parties is absent.
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@flapiz (11155)
• United Kingdom
22 Oct
@florelway they have a marriage contract the other one is presigned by the absent party. And they have a witness to make sure it’s legal and binding and also to make sure they don’t get carried away by the moment and consummate the marriage.
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@rsa101 (29031)
• Philippines
19 Oct
I know that your witnesses/wedding godparents can be proxied but I do not know if the bride or the groom can be.
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@flapiz (11155)
• United Kingdom
19 Oct
Well it can. But I don’t know in the modern day. I heard Ghana allows it.
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@rsa101 (29031)
• Philippines
19 Oct
@flapiz Wow you would allow someone else to vow to your partner in your absence. There might be legal implications on it.
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@flapiz (11155)
• United Kingdom
19 Oct
@rsa101 I personally wont. Why get married if you can’t have a solemn proper wedding. But it is legal in some cultures.
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@Hytton03 (1083)
• Philippines
18 Oct
I don't know if that's happen in reality.
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@flapiz (11155)
• United Kingdom
18 Oct
Well I did search for it online and yes it is a thing that existed before. But yeah it sounds so unreal.
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@Hytton03 (1083)
• Philippines
19 Oct
@flapiz i don't know how i feel. But i respect.
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@flapiz (11155)
• United Kingdom
19 Oct
@Hytton03 Well of course if it’s their culture then we must respect. Although I personally would not partake in it.
@moonandstars (44754)
• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)
19 Oct
i think this once happened in the history of some british rulers but, still, not a good feeling
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@flapiz (11155)
• United Kingdom
19 Oct
Yeah I’ve seen it in historical dramas and got quite intrigued by the concept.
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• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)
21 Oct
@flapiz yes, history is fascinating
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• Santiago, Chile
18 Oct
It would be an odd wedding to attend haha
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@flapiz (11155)
• United Kingdom
19 Oct
For sure. For me, it’s more of a power boost rather than a wedding.
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• Santiago, Chile
19 Oct
@flapiz exactly.
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@fatragu (516)
• United States
19 Oct
I have heard of this being used in the US military if for some reason they MUST get married and just can't be in the same spot at the same time. I can think of medical reasons why this may be used. One person needing surgery and wanting the other person to be the one making the decisions for them since they know what the person wants done. Other than that, I don't really see a need for it. Have a great day and may the pay out odds be ever in your favor!
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@flapiz (11155)
• United Kingdom
19 Oct
Medical reason does sound quite sensible reason for proxy marriage. I’ve always thought it is more of a political gain but yeah it can be necessary.
• Philippines
19 Oct
Not sure if i should proxy a marriage, it's either Im there or not.
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@flapiz (11155)
• United Kingdom
19 Oct
Same here. I don’t think I ever need to be in a proxy marriage. I’m a jealous person, I’d probably get jealous of the proxy bride.
@Shavkat (93115)
• Philippines
19 Oct
It is a sad thing that it will not take to attend this kind of event.
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@flapiz (11155)
• United Kingdom
19 Oct
Yeah it’s more done for convenience or political reasons. I don’t think we common people could relate.
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@NJChicaa (90612)
• United States
18 Oct
What's the point if the 2 actual people aren't there?
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@flapiz (11155)
• United Kingdom
18 Oct
Exactly same sentiment. Is a wedding that urgent that can’t wait for the bride and groom to meet face to face?
@Corbin5 (207051)
• United States
18 Oct
A proxy marriage would definitely make for a less meaningful ceremony, I believe.
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@flapiz (11155)
• United Kingdom
18 Oct
Yeah. In the movies it is used for alliance purposes instead of a celebration of love.
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