Face Time With Cousin in ICU

@CarolDM (203396)
Nashville, Tennessee
November 14, 2020 4:01pm CST
Updating a few who have asked about my cousin. She has been in ICU on a ventilator for over a week now. She is over 500 miles away and no visitors allowed due to COVID. She is negative for COVID. Got a call last night that she coded twice. But is stable now. The ventilator has been off and on a few times over the past few days. Still no exact reason for what is going on with her breathing. Her sister, the one I talk about often who is blind, was able to go see her today. Her daughter as well. The nurses allowed the visit due to her condition. She started to improve when she saw her sister. The nurses were amazed. They allowed me to face time with her. She couldn't talk, on the ventilator. But she saw me and I could talk to her and she would nod her head back and forth. She understood what I was saying to her. We were both crying. But they were good tears. That face to face communication is everything. Even if it was on the phone, it made my day. And hers as well. We all think she was giving up when she coded. She has a condition called Metabolic Acidosis that causes her breathing to stop, and her heart rate to rise. They are still running tests to rule out anything else. I had my name added to the list to call and speak to the doctors and nurses. Another relief. I will call Monday and try to find out more from the doctor. A very sad situation but maybe it will improve.
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@Juliaacv (56207)
• Canada
14 Nov 20
I have a feeling that her condition will improve having facetimed with you. She is a fighter, and now she has you 'officially' in her corner as far as speaking with the medical professionals are concerned. Lucky her, lucky you.
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@Juliaacv (56207)
• Canada
14 Nov 20
@CarolDM You will get all of the information that you need as the days pass and you can reach the medical professionals. She will improve after seeing you.
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
14 Nov 20
@Juliaacv I certainly hope they can tell me what is going on with her. Thank you.
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
14 Nov 20
And physically seeing her sister and nice. The family support means so much. I just still don't know what all is going on. Looking forward to talking to the doctor soon. Maybe on Monday.
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@sophie09 (34230)
• Indonesia
14 Nov 20
I hope the best for her, i am sure she will get better soon
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
14 Nov 20
Thank you
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
14 Nov 20
@sophie09 Thank you
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@sophie09 (34230)
• Indonesia
14 Nov 20
@CarolDM sending my prayer to her
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@BelleStarr (61463)
• United States
14 Nov 20
Family visits are a great way to improve the spirits and improved spirits often result in improved health. I hope that they can help her get better.
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@BelleStarr (61463)
• United States
14 Nov 20
@CarolDM Yes I did realize you were 500 miles away but even on facetime you get family time and it sounds like it was very good for her morale.
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
14 Nov 20
Yes but I am 500 miles away, I hope I can keep up the face time. Depends on the nurse on duty. Thank you.
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
15 Nov 20
@BelleStarr Yes it was, thank you.
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• United States
15 Nov 20
oh, what a blessin' that the family could finally come'n visit. e'en better that'cha got to's well via that app. i've no doubts such lifted all y'alls spirits durin' this most diff'cult time. 's she diabetic? i do hope they figure the cause 's well 's 've a game plan fer a full recovery.
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• United States
15 Nov 20
@CarolDM oh dear :( some folks're really private, e'en with family. such's the case with mine 's well. i shall keep'er very close 't heart.
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
15 Nov 20
She is borderline diabetic. So many things wrong I wasn't aware of. Her kidneys are failing as well.
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
15 Nov 20
@crazyhorseladycx Hoping for a better day soon.
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@moffittjc (128835)
• Gainesville, Florida
15 Nov 20
It's amazing how personal or face-to-face interaction can improve a patient. It has even been shown that contact with pets or therapy animals has improved medical patients' conditions. I hope the medical staff continue allowing family to interact with your cousin, as I think this will do a world of good for her.
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
15 Nov 20
Yes I have seen that happen as well. Thank you, me too.
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@moffittjc (128835)
• Gainesville, Florida
15 Nov 20
@CarolDM Willpower also plays an important role. I hope she has the willpower to hang on and fight to regain her health and strength.
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
15 Nov 20
@moffittjc I know, she has a lot against her but she is a fighter.
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@DocAndersen (54399)
• United States
15 Nov 20
i am so sorry. glad you got to ta;l tp the doctors/ I am sure she knows you are thinking of her.
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
15 Nov 20
Haven't talked to doctors yet, probably tomorrow when they call me back. Can't get much information on weekends.
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
15 Nov 20
@DocAndersen Thank you.
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@DocAndersen (54399)
• United States
15 Nov 20
@CarolDM that is the hard reality of a situation like that. Fingers crossed
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• Pamplona, Spain
15 Nov 20
Sending her all best wishes and that they find the thing going wrong and the right treatment for her.
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• Pamplona, Spain
16 Nov 20
@CarolDM You´re welcome and all best wishes for all of you.
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
15 Nov 20
Thank you very much.
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@kaylachan (84760)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
14 Nov 20
I hope they find out what's wrong with your cousin.
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
14 Nov 20
Thank you, me too.
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@kaylachan (84760)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
14 Nov 20
@CarolDM You're welcome. I'm just sorry that you live so far away. Glad you're on the list to be kept in the loop as to what is happening.
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
14 Nov 20
@kaylachan Same here.
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@Shavkat (141906)
• Philippines
15 Nov 20
I hope she will be fine soon.
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@Shavkat (141906)
• Philippines
16 Nov 20
@CarolDM No worries.
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
15 Nov 20
Thank you, me too.
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@LeaPea2417 (40029)
• Toccoa, Georgia
15 Nov 20
So glad she was allowed visitors and your web cam visit. Prayers for her.
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@LeaPea2417 (40029)
• Toccoa, Georgia
15 Nov 20
@CarolDM your welcome.
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
15 Nov 20
Thank you.
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@DianneN (254926)
• United States
15 Nov 20
Such good news. Hope she continues to improve.
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@DianneN (254926)
• United States
15 Nov 20
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
15 Nov 20
Still on the ventilator but they are going to try to slowly get her off. They had to restrain her the last time. Fingers crossed.
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@Courtlynn (67089)
• United States
17 Nov 20
Fingers crossed for her
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@Courtlynn (67089)
• United States
17 Nov 20
@CarolDM course!
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
17 Nov 20
Thank you
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@thelme55 (79308)
• Germany
14 Nov 20
God bless her. I have teary eyes reading this that you were able to face time with her. She will fight for her life. She is motivated to live after seeing you. I am glad you were able to facetime with her.
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@thelme55 (79308)
• Germany
15 Nov 20
@CarolDM I can relate to that. You are welcome. Have a nice Sunday.
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
15 Nov 20
@thelme55 You do the same, thank you.
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
14 Nov 20
I cannot explain the joy I felt and relief. But still not out of danger. Thank you!
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@Hannihar (130150)
• Israel
15 Nov 20
@CarolDM I remember about your cousin. That is very hard that no one can visit her. I am glad her sister and daughter were able to see her. I am so glad you could do face time with her. So sorry she could not talk back but you could see her. It sounds very sad but I hope she makes it. I am glad you are on the list and can talk to the doctors and nurses.
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@Hannihar (130150)
• Israel
16 Nov 20
@CarolDM You are welcome and so glad you can get information so do not have to wonder and hope they figure out what is going on and can help her.
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
15 Nov 20
Thank you, me too.
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@popciclecold (40214)
• United States
15 Nov 20
You know, I am so sorry to hear about this. But face time is so very important. I have a friend whose Mom is in the nursing, that's the only way they can talk. Prayers for you and your family.
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
15 Nov 20
Thank you
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• China
15 Nov 20
It was great that you were allowed to face time with your cousin ! Sounds like she has been out of danger.
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
15 Nov 20
Thanks but she is not out of danger. Still on a ventilator.
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• China
15 Nov 20
It was great that you were allowed to face time with your cousin ! Sounds like she has been out of danger.
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
15 Nov 20
Thanks, she is still in danger with a ventilator.
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
15 Nov 20
I'm glad to hear she's responsive and starting to do better. I'm still praying.
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
15 Nov 20
Thank you very much Valerie.
@JudyEv (382036)
• Rockingham, Australia
15 Nov 20
That's so nice that you were able to see your cousin and speak to her. Such visits might make all the difference to her recovery. I hope so.
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@JudyEv (382036)
• Rockingham, Australia
15 Nov 20
@CarolDM Certainly it's not ideal but better than nothing.
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
15 Nov 20
Seeing her on the phone screen, but better than nothing. I was happy to have some type of communication.
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@LindaOHio (222314)
• United States
15 Nov 20
I'm so sorry for your cousin and for you. This is a terrible situation. I hope they zero in on a diagnosis. I'm sure the face-timing helped her feel better. I am sending prayers and positive healing thoughts.
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
15 Nov 20
Thank you for your kind words. She has many things going on with her. Hoping for the best.
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