How did you know that your partner is "the one"?

By Elsa
Indonesia
December 25, 2020 8:18am CST
As a girl who has no much experiences in love (i had but not that much) and ever had a bad experience with guy, i'm a little bit skeptic about marriage. I want to get married with someone and spend the rest of my life with him but i'm afraid that i pick the wrong guy. I'm afraid that in the middle of my marriage he will betray me or i may stuck in such abussive marriage. Instead of live hapilly i'll end up my life miserablely with the ring on my finger. So, how can you know that you choose a right person? or how can you know that your partner is "the one"?
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7 responses
@LadyDuck (459122)
• Switzerland
25 Dec 20
I believe that no one can reply to those questions, because if we could reply all couples will live happily together. Too many times people fall in love and only after the marriage they realize that life together is not for them.
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@LadyDuck (459122)
• Switzerland
26 Dec 20
@Elsafrojen I am married from many years, we only dated 6 months before getting married... we wanted to be together all the time, we took our chance, it worked. In my heart I knew he was the right man for me.
• Indonesia
26 Dec 20
Hmm i think not many can reply doesnt mean no at all, right?
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@DianneN (247191)
• United States
25 Dec 20
Welcome to myLot! You have to take the chance and make sure it works out. I met the right person and knew immediately that he was the one and vice versa.
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• Indonesia
26 Dec 20
Thank u for the warm welcoming, Can u give the example of the "chance" So when u met him..u already felt it? The feeling in your heart/gut?
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@RebeccasFarm (86823)
• United States
25 Dec 20
I did never meet the right one.
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• Indonesia
26 Dec 20
Me either...wish us will meet the one??
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• United States
26 Dec 20
@Elsafrojen Not me I prefer alone now. It never worked out for me.
@LeaPea2417 (36504)
• Toccoa, Georgia
25 Dec 20
My husband and I knew each other a year. Then we started dating. We dated a little over a year then got married. We got to know each other, realized we shared a lot of the same ideas and genuinely fell in love and knew we were right for each other. That was nearly 33 years ago.
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@LeaPea2417 (36504)
• Toccoa, Georgia
26 Dec 20
@Elsafrojen We were in love before we got married.
• Indonesia
26 Dec 20
What a lovely...so you fell in love with your husband after getting married?
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@Shiva49 (26221)
• Singapore
25 Dec 20
My marriage was rather an arranged one but we had the final say. Marriage is give and take but some take it as just taking while the other giving! Though one can know a person from our dealings with him, some are devious and change later. So a bit of luck plays a part too.
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• Indonesia
26 Dec 20
Arranged marriage? Just like my grandma did I'm early 20s, for my ages arranged marriage is pretty an odd thing.?? So your opinion is marriage is giving and take, and how about give and give marriage? I agree with you that a bit of luck is on the rule, life is a gambling doesnt it?
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@Shiva49 (26221)
• Singapore
26 Dec 20
@Elsafrojen I was recommended a girl and then it was up to us to meet and agree. I did not go about looking for a girl. It was not someone else decided the match for us. I have met few soul mates and that is real luck and hard work too in the sense one is always there for other and likewise. Give and give needs lots of patience and the other should eventually reciprocate
@peachpurple (13884)
• Malaysia
27 Dec 20
Love is blind, unless your eyes are wide opened as the eagle, you might be able to get your perfect catch
@coolsite (544)
• United States
27 Dec 20
Like any thing else they are always some risks but taking that chance you might end up doing the right thing. you make the choice and see what happened . Take your time before you say "yes I do"