My friend's birthday surprise. No one said "Thank you" to me. Part Five....
@VivaLaDani13 (60300)
Perth, Australia
April 22, 2021 7:10am CST
So the morning came. I paid for us ($20 per person) to have a buffet breakfast in this resort. "There's not enough bread put out." "The toaster is too slow." "The cheese and ham doesn't taste so good." "Why do they leave cold boiled eggs out?" "This apple juice tastes like orange juice." "This orange juice doesn't taste like orange juice." "This greek yoghurt tastes sour." And before you say it, the food was fine and have always been.
....picky picky picky! I felt like saying "Dudes! At least none of you paid for this!"
*We ate breakfast then went back to the room. The girls sat down to talk but I kept on packing things away. My personal belongings, the drinks, food, snacks, I was tidying up the room as much as I could by emptying unfinished drink bottles and binning them as well as plates / forks / spoons / cups. Picking up wet towels and placing them in a pile so the cleaners don't have to bend down so many times. And then I started taking down the decorations. I was untying knots to get down balloons, biting small holes into the balloons to let the air out to bin them, going along the whole room taking down streamers. Did anyone offer to help me? Nope. I know they are my guests but maybe it's just me! But I would offer to help.
*Once we were ready to leave, my dad was kind enough to pick us up and drop them to the train station. While they were putting their stuff in my dad's car, I went to the reception to check out. Got back in the car and there I learned something the girls did. And it has really annoyed the crap out of me! You know how in hotels you might take some soaps, or maybe some sugars, coffees or teas. These girls, decided to take out 3 light bulbs from the lamps in the room! Who even does that?
I had a good time! Don't get me wrong but the things I've explained to you all bothered me. I'm never doing this again with them.
Thank you for reading. I would love to know your thoughts about all of this. If you have read all the parts, thank you so much because it does give the whole story. I did this in parts so it wasn't one big long post.
****photo isn't mine but was taken from the resort's website - of the room where we ate breakfast****
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19 responses
@DocAndersen (54413)
• United States
22 Apr 21
ok taking three light bulbs is a bit odd.
Overall i suspect that you probably should examine the friendship. See what happens in the next few days.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60300)
• Perth, Australia
1 May 21
@DocAndersen It's truly odd! Well so far....they were aware of my Poppy who isn't well and no one has asked how he is or how my family is coping yet whenever they are going through a tough time, I am messaging them often. Interesting!
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@VivaLaDani13 (60300)
• Perth, Australia
2 May 21
@DocAndersen I will take that as a good answer. As you always give anyway. 
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@DocAndersen (54413)
• United States
1 May 21
@VivaLaDani13 i could dive into platitudes but the easy answer here is the simplest. They just don't think about the impact.
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@LadyDuck (457918)
• Switzerland
22 Apr 21
You know what, I would have said, well you paid nothing for this, may be the next time YOU PAY and you pick up another resort! Stealing light bulbs in the hotel is clearly showing that those girls do not come from nice families, they have no manner and no education. Never invite them again.
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@LadyDuck (457918)
• Switzerland
2 May 21
@VivaLaDani13 Do not invite them to your house, they will only come to criticize and this will hurt you.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60300)
• Perth, Australia
2 May 21
@LadyDuck I don't feel comfortable enough to so for now, I will only go out and about with them. Away from my house. 
@VivaLaDani13 (60300)
• Perth, Australia
1 May 21
@LadyDuck Definitely will never invite them again to anything. I don't even want them to come into my house together! I almost feel afraid that they will steal my money or jewellery or something. I hope they aren't like that!
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@m_audrey6788 (58485)
• Germany
22 Apr 21
Oh my goodness 
What the hell are they thinking? 
They are too much. You`re right. Don`t do that ever with them again. 
What the hell are they thinking? They are too much. You`re right. Don`t do that ever with them again. 3 people like this
@m_audrey6788 (58485)
• Germany
22 Apr 21
@VivaLaDani13 Yes. That`s good and also you are not feeling well that time. I hope you`re ok now 
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@VivaLaDani13 (60300)
• Perth, Australia
1 May 21
@m_audrey6788 I am getting better thank you so much.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60300)
• Perth, Australia
22 Apr 21
@m_audrey6788 Exactly right! I don't understand the logic or need to take out light bulbs! It's stealing. I can promise you I won't be going out of my way to do something like this again. It's not worth the stress or feeling of being taken for granted.
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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
22 Apr 21
Know what that feels like on another level.
That was not very nice of them to not even thank you at all.
Like Saima says cringy and I say on top stingy the way they went about it.
It would have helped if they had not complained also.
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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
2 May 21
@VivaLaDani13
Oh yes I know that kind of feeling only too well never mind the world still goes around and life still goes on.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60300)
• Perth, Australia
1 May 21
@lovinangelsinstead21 I completely agree with you. They could have handled a lot of what they did much better. I'm sorry to know you know this feeling!
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@RebeccasFarm (86729)
• United States
22 Apr 21
They are dirty low down no manners sods to not thank you Dani.
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@RebeccasFarm (86729)
• United States
22 Apr 21
@VivaLaDani13 Rotten to the core I would tell them off now if I were there for you Dani you are such a giving soul
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@VivaLaDani13 (60300)
• Perth, Australia
22 Apr 21
@RebeccasFarm It surely has made me wonder if I was appreciated. I don't expect anything else expect a simple "thank you." It's amazing how people still need to be taught this. Especially adults.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60300)
• Perth, Australia
1 May 21
@CarolDM I was very embarrassed and completely worried about my likeness of being allowed back to the resort again. Thankfully, nothing has been said but I have a knot in my stomach where I want to just tell them! But I am scared of the outcome.
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@CarolDM (203454)
• Nashville, Tennessee
1 May 21
@VivaLaDani13 You did nothing wrong. Keep your chin up.
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@popciclecold (35079)
• United States
22 Apr 21
This may sound old school to you. But you will know a tree by the fruit it bears. You have a good heart, and people take your kindness for weakness. It is good to help and fo nice things for people, but not to your own hurt. Because you have a good heart you need to be watchful of people. Whatever is in a person's heart will come out. I am 72 years old, and I am still watching. You have too..Or else you will always be hurting, or disappointed.
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@popciclecold (35079)
• United States
1 May 21
@VivaLaDani13 Yes, not easy, but you will get there, I did.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60300)
• Perth, Australia
1 May 21
@popciclecold Thank you so very much for what you said. For the kindness and for your advice! I cannot tell you how much that means to me. I know that I have a kind heart (I honestly do not mean this in an egotistical way nor am I perfect!) I just mean, I know whenever someone is hurting or in need, I feel like I'm hurting and want to help. I get emotional easy whenever the environment, animals or people are being harmed but I am getting very tired of how much I am being taken for granted. I am wanting to still be myself but take step backs from people who do not make me feel good after I've helped them.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60300)
• Perth, Australia
2 May 21
@popciclecold I'm so glad you did and thank you so much for saying I will too. Means a lot!
@sunilparthan (6283)
• India
24 Apr 21
Enjoyment which resulted in disappointments. There will be such situations for all... But hope you came out of it now and leave that bad feelings from the mind.
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@sunilparthan (6283)
• India
2 May 21
@VivaLaDani13 hm, don't worry about all these things please
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@VivaLaDani13 (60300)
• Perth, Australia
1 May 21
@sunilparthan I will never forget it as I do not want to be treated like this again. I don't deserve it.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60300)
• Perth, Australia
2 May 21
@sunilparthan I see what you're saying but I am a sensitive person especially when someone treats me the wrong way for no reason.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60300)
• Perth, Australia
22 Apr 21
@anil02 You have guessed it right. I'm just shocked, disappointed and confused. I had fun! But yeah some disappointments.
For sure I will take it easy. Thank you so much for that and for reading.
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@sweetloveforeve (13107)
• Portugal
22 Apr 21
It's so sad that your friends just complained about breakfast things even though as you say it was a good breakfast and also take out 3 light bulbs from the room? My god. You know I work in a Hotel as a receptionist and sure people can take soap and shampoo as souvenirs but I never knew about people taking away the bulbs. Before this Hotel I worked in a small hotel where people took the towels with them sometimes and we just found out because the cleaning ladies saw that the towels were missing. Anyway I agree with you it is not correct at all to take away things that don't belong to us unless it is a soap or a shampoo that is normal that people take it as a souvenir and Hotel's staff know about it and no one will say a thing but other kinds of things it's a disrespect. I feel sorry that you didn't have as much fun as you deserved after paying for everything for your friends to spend a good time with you.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60300)
• Perth, Australia
1 May 21
@sweetloveforeve Thank you so very much for reading and answering all these posts. I am glad to have someone who works in a hotel to answer this as it's relevant.
I have never heard of people taking lightbulbs before either. It's truly bizarre.
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@Daljinder (23231)
• Bangalore, India
24 Jul 21
I read the whole story. There are some people who are just that ungrateful. Kindly, have a boundary with such people. These three could be good to hang out, to have talks, etc. They don't seem to be the types one would rely on for long term.
And they stole 3 light bulbs. Throughout the story, I at one point thought they were trying to get you in trouble. Did the hotel charge you extra for the stolen bulbs?1 person likes this
@VivaLaDani13 (60300)
• Perth, Australia
31 Jul 21
@Daljinder Thank you kindly for reading the whole story. That is one thing to cross off my list to tell you.
I have bonded a bit more with the birthday girl (Cheri). But still some things I'm still trying to get comfortable with. I do have things to show you. Cheri and I went ghost hunting and capture some....things.
Yeah the light bulbs thing still annoys me. I don't understand it. Thankful I was not charged. But still, it annoys me they disrespected the hotel, me and my dad like that. I paid, but used my dad's credit card. I don't want my name in the bad books for other people's mistakes. 
I have bonded a bit more with the birthday girl (Cheri). But still some things I'm still trying to get comfortable with. I do have things to show you. Cheri and I went ghost hunting and capture some....things.
Yeah the light bulbs thing still annoys me. I don't understand it. Thankful I was not charged. But still, it annoys me they disrespected the hotel, me and my dad like that. I paid, but used my dad's credit card. I don't want my name in the bad books for other people's mistakes. 1 person likes this
@VivaLaDani13 (60300)
• Perth, Australia
22 Nov 21
@Daljinder I completely agree with you. As of late, I haven't bothered doing what I normally do. I am not checking in on those who never check in on me. I am not offering money or agreeing to lending out money to those who take me for granted. In my own words, I seriously cannot be f***ed. I think I've finally had it. I will still be a friend but not going to continue doing the same as before to some.
My Poppy is back in hospital right now. I am not expecting sympathy or anything but it would have been nice for some I've told to show some concern or asking how things are just like I do for them every single time they are sick, or upset, or depressed or hell, even when they have a damn scratch on them I ask how it's going but get nothing back for my Poppy who we have no clue if he is coming back out alive. I have much understanding of reasons why people may not ask but I'm done with the excuses. I really am.
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@Daljinder (23231)
• Bangalore, India
9 Nov 21
@VivaLaDani13 I don't wish you to not have friends. I don't expect all friends to be selfless or perfect. I just hope and wish that when you need to take a stand for yourself you do not drown yourself in self doubt and self consciousness. It's a good thing to have empathy and sympathy but too much of it can become apathy when its taken for granted.
Its in your nature to help others so do yourself a favour and stop expecting even a "Thank You" in return. Stop expecting anything at all. I am not kidding dude. It really helps. When you don't expect anything you will never be left disappointed by them. Moreover, you will know who is worth investing effort into and who isn't.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60300)
• Perth, Australia
30 Apr 21
@Nevena83 I agree. Thank you for seeing this all from my point of view. I appreciate that.
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@Nevena83 (65282)
• Serbia
30 Apr 21
@VivaLaDani13 Your thinking is completely correct.
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@Starkinds (32703)
• India
22 Apr 21
Hope you had a beautiful time with your friend or family
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@VivaLaDani13 (60300)
• Perth, Australia
22 Apr 21
@Starkinds With all due respect, I truly don't believe you are reading these but thanks anyway. 
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@Starkinds (32703)
• India
23 Apr 21
@VivaLaDani13 ha ha ha i always red your post
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@VivaLaDani13 (60300)
• Perth, Australia
1 May 21
@Starkinds I say it because your answers didn't match the posts. That's all.
@Treborika (17251)
• Mombasa, Kenya
24 Jan 23
I have not liked the resort. The juices in the resort seems to be fake
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@VivaLaDani13 (60300)
• Perth, Australia
24 Jan 23
@Treborika Sorry your experience was not great because of juice.
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@Treborika (17251)
• Mombasa, Kenya
24 Jan 23
@VivaLaDani13 It's something that I really like the most
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@VivaLaDani13 (60300)
• Perth, Australia
1 May 21
@prinzcy I'm not sure, it's very odd and I don't understand it at all. It's a first for me too.
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@Torunn (8609)
• Norway
23 Apr 21
I haven't read the other posts (maybe tonight), but light bulbs? That's just weird.
I've got plenty of little bottles of shampoo. I never use the whole bottle in one go, so I reckon they're mine to take. Never thought about taking light bulbs.
One of my friends took a towel at a hotel in Prague. When we took the train back to Vienna (we were studying there) she was convinced we'd be stopped at the border by police looking for stolen towels. I might have stopped her if she had wanted to take a light bulb.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60300)
• Perth, Australia
23 Apr 21
@Torunn No worries at all! Please read them only if you desire to. I'm still going through other notifications right now and will go through the notifications regarding these birthday posts a bit later.
I've never thought about light bulbs either. I find this to be stealing. Not something to take as a souvenir!
Well for me, if it feels like you might get in trouble taking something, then I wouldn't take it. Only things I will take are some teas and a shower cap as they truly come in handy and teas are something I love. But more than anything, I know we are allowed to take them.
I'm still going through other notifications right now and will go through the notifications regarding these birthday posts a bit later.
I've never thought about light bulbs either. I find this to be stealing. Not something to take as a souvenir!
Well for me, if it feels like you might get in trouble taking something, then I wouldn't take it. Only things I will take are some teas and a shower cap as they truly come in handy and teas are something I love. But more than anything, I know we are allowed to take them.1 person likes this
@Torunn (8609)
• Norway
23 Apr 21
@VivaLaDani13 Light bulbs is just very weird. It's not a souvenir, it's not expensieve so you're stealing for nothing.
I don't remember why she took the towel, I think she might have used too much of her student loan to have money to buy one. I suppose hotels are used with some of the towels disappearing, it's easier to take than the bulbs.
I reckon that if don't take the little bottles with shampoo they'll just throw them away, I think the only other thing I've taken is the same as you, teas and some of those small packets with sugar.
I really miss going to hotels. I hardly ever travel in Norway, so I'm waiting quite eagerly for this stupid virus buisness to stop.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60300)
• Perth, Australia
1 May 21
@Torunn I completely agree with you. I didn't and still don't understand.
I cannot wait for you to be able to go to hotels again! I'm sure you'll be over the moon!
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@RebeccasFarm (86729)
• United States
27 Apr 21
I am disgusted with the rotten lot of them
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@JESSY3236 (18892)
• United States
4 May 21
That's strange about the light bulbs. Yeah they sound like rude girls.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60300)
• Perth, Australia
4 May 21
@JESSY3236 It sure is. I don't think I will ever understand that.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60300)
• Perth, Australia
2 May 21
@paigea No worries if you don't wish to read the others. I just thank you for reading this one and giving me your opinions / thoughts. Much appreciated! And for sure I will never been putting myself in this position again as it was stressful. Had a great time but the negative parts made me want to be more careful with these people. Thank you.
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