Question: "Is it appropriate for a married woman to send a text message(s) to a married man?"
By Shavkat
@Shavkat (141905)
Philippines
April 27, 2021 10:22am CST
A married woman student that I had tonight is whining about her husband. It's a hundred percent true that she is jealous of the text messages of her husband's friend who is a married woman at night. Honestly, I am not good at marriage thing. It seems inappropriate for the married woman to send a married man.
What's your call with this situation?
Do you check your spouses' mobile phones?
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10 responses
@Shavkat (141905)
• Philippines
28 Apr 21
@gamayngbaki I personally think it is the best course of action.
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@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
27 Apr 21
As a married women, who say they a married person Cant message or talk to another married person?
My husband best friend is a girl and she is married. It doesn’t bother me. It’s always okay to be jealous but when you let your jealous rule you then that means you don’t trust people. When your married you should trust your partner isn’t going to do something to break the relationship.
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@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
28 Apr 21
@Shavkat everyone has friends the gender of the friend shouldn’t matter when it comes to talking to people. My husband had friends before me I don’t tell him no. I’m also super friendly with all of his ex’s as well.
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@Shavkat (141905)
• Philippines
29 Apr 21
@ShyBear88 I agree. I have some male friends whose wives are like this. Some of them got separated.
@Shavkat (141905)
• Philippines
28 Apr 21
I also told her that it is fine to talk with this woman. I just remembered that she claimed that the woman is a friend of her husband 5 years ago. It is way back in college days. Jealousy is making her mind clouded that she cannot think straight last night.
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@rsa101 (40987)
• Philippines
28 Apr 21
Well, I think she should make sure what kind of text exchanges they send each other. It may be friendly text messages or the opposite of course. If it is the opposite then she has every right to be angry but if it is not malicious in any way then she should not be worried at all. Gather evidence first before allowing yourself to be controlled by your emotions.
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@Shavkat (141905)
• Philippines
28 Apr 21
I asked her about the text contents. It seems the married woman is asking for comfort since her father passed away. This student of mine is being disturbed since it is a personal matter. She also claimed that this married woman just reconnected after 5 years. Why not be feeling comfortable with the husband, relatives, or family members instead of her husband as she said.
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@RebeccasFarm (91297)
• United States
27 Apr 21
I do not think its a good idea no.
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@gamayngbaki (1601)
• Cebu, Philippines
27 Apr 21
I read somewhere I can't remember anymore that "flings or love affairs start with casual or friendly texting then before they know it they've fallen in love" so for me; speaking as a woman ; I don't think it's proper for a married woman to send text messages to a married man. It does not matter if they're innocent messages or whatever it may be.
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@Shavkat (141905)
• Philippines
28 Apr 21
This is also what I perceived when she told me about it. What if the married woman will think differently for her husband to be so friendly. It can trigger something and the soft spot of her heart will embrace the fact to have a forbidden love.
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@gamayngbaki (1601)
• Cebu, Philippines
28 Apr 21
@Shavkat That is what every wife should be on guard for. If she allows her husband to entertain this kind of texting then their is a great possibility of "a forbidden love"
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@Shavkat (141905)
• Philippines
28 Apr 21
@gamayngbaki Now, I can understand why she is reacting like this. She thinks that he and she had a past relationship. But the husband denied it.
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@kaylachan (84815)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
27 Apr 21
Marriage is a partnership. Couples are permitted to develop friendships outside their patners. That's just how life is. Now, if your partner, feels the need to hide from you, then that's a problem. However, at the same time you should trust your partner, too. You shouldn't feel the need to go through their device.
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