Is 10 years to big of a age gap to date? And to have kids in the future?

@jimmy423 (229)
Davison, Michigan
April 27, 2021 7:08pm CST
Ok I have a question, so I am dating a girl but she is 20 and I just turned 30 April 23rd. Is that to big of a age gap? And she wants to have kids in the future. I feel that 10 years is a lot more common than people think. We are both 2 people that joke and prank eachother and always have a great time. Are friends are always saying we have major chemistry. But idk how I feel about the 10 year gap. Mainly because I know people look down on that type of stuff.
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@MarieCoyle (27191)
28 Apr 21
It depends on the persons involved, not the age. Age is just numbers. My grandmother was 11 years younger than my grandfather, and they were perfect for each other for their lifetimes. My eldest daughter's husband is 14 years older than she is. And both of them are very happy together. Don't pay any attention to what other people think, it's what you both think that really matters.
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@jimmy423 (229)
• Davison, Michigan
28 Apr 21
So would it be OK to maybe have kids in the future if we were to last? She told me she definitely wants kids.
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@MarieCoyle (27191)
28 Apr 21
@jimmy423 In the end, the only one who can decide these things is you, and your lady. Marriage is work, it's a lot of give and take, but you no doubt know that.
@RebeccasFarm (84408)
• Wheat Ridge, Colorado
28 Apr 21
I dont think its too big a gap no
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• Wheat Ridge, Colorado
28 Apr 21
@jimmy423 That is crazy nonsense..it is fine to have children wth
@jimmy423 (229)
• Davison, Michigan
28 Apr 21
I've just been told by people to please don't have kids and so on cause it could cause problems. Don't people have kids in there 30's? I always thought as long as your not in your 40's your good.
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@kaylachan (56277)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
28 Apr 21
Health-wise, it won't affect her, unless she has underlying concerns that would affect her ability to get pregnant in the future. However, as for the age gap, that's between you and your partner. It doesn't matter what other people think. Hell, my husband is 23 years older than me.
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@jimmy423 (229)
• Davison, Michigan
28 Apr 21
What do you mean underlying concerns for the ability for her to get pregnant? Like me being in my 30's could make it hard for her?
@kanuck1 (4363)
28 Apr 21
If you both don't think there's a problem then there is no problem.
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• United States
28 Apr 21
With any relationship, it takes work. Maybe more work because there's going to be some cultural differences with age, but if ya work at it, who cares about the age difference?
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@jimmy423 (229)
• Davison, Michigan
28 Apr 21
I've had some people say don't have kids because it could cause problems. Like don't people in there 30's have kids or is it weird to? I always thought as long as your not in your 40's.
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• United States
28 Apr 21
@jimmy423 My brother in law is like 20 years older than my sister? He's in his 50's with a 20 year old and a 15 year old and he's fine. Of course, they are divorced but the divorce had nothing to do with the kids or their age difference.
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@yukimori (10140)
• United States
28 Apr 21
The thing with problematic age gaps is that the older partner tends to have significantly more life experience than the younger, which creates an imbalance in the relationship. Generally the rule for what's socially acceptable is "half the older person's age plus seven." Ten years is a huge difference when you're talking about an established adult and another person who's just two years into legal adulthood and may not have even completed their education yet. It doesn't matter as much when both are established adults.
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@marguicha (214294)
• Chile
28 Apr 21
My husband was 7 years my senior. I never had a problem with that. I think that it was better. THen, after I became a widow, I dated for some time a man 20 years older than me. No problem either. But of course, with him, we did not protend to have a family.
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@psanasangma (5881)
• India
28 Apr 21
I think he/she should be at legal age.. its okay as long as they love each other
@rakski (112993)
• Philippines
28 Apr 21
Unless she is a minor then that will be a problem. the age is just a number, it how the two of you will work together towards a good relationship
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@Starkinds (32710)
• India
28 Apr 21
If you both are truly love each other that age is just a number