Update on Poppy. And now my Aunty is in hospital?
@VivaLaDani13 (60337)
Perth, Australia
May 3, 2021 11:10am CST
For those of you who know about my Poppy (my grandfather, not my dad), just wanted to give an update. I spoke to my Nanny tonight and she sounds absolutely exhausted to which I'm not surprised. I cried after we hung up. I didn't want to cry over the phone.
Other members of the family have not been allowed to come in yet (still unsure what's happening with that - Covid related I'm sure). But my Nan will ask doctors / nurses to see if we can "Go in to say our goodbyes." He is still not eating a thing.
Then tonight, my brother tells me that my Aunty Lyn has been rushed to hospital. I have no idea what is going on! I'm angry, I'm worried, I'm upset yet I feel numb. Like I'm on auto pilot which is a normal response for me when things are getting crappy. I know my Aunty Lyn has upset me with her words a lot but doesn't mean I want her to be ill. I love her. I love my Poppy. I love my family always. Even if they have done stupid things!
Thank you to everyone who has been caring and supportive. I'm touched yet I'm also angry (not with any of you) but a good handful of my friends not on MyLot, who are aware of my family's situation have not checked up on my family and I. For all the times my friends have been sad / angry, I've always been there and the next day I would ask how they were and usually the next then the next depending what happened and the severity of it and their mental health.
I'm not naive. I know people have their own things going on and I do not expect people to drop everything for me but I'm getting extremely tired of putting my stuff aside for others. I'm a very caring person but I'm getting tired of it when the people I fight hard for to be there for, to make sure they are ok or need my help, do not even ask me how I am during tough times.
Like the girls I took to the resort for example, they all know. No one has checked in. Yet, when they were sad / going through a tough time, I listened, offered help and kept checking in. Do I not deserve something like that too or do I not matter? Does my feelings, worries, sadness and heartache not matter to these people? Or do I only matter to them when they need something? I don't know.
I'm kinda rambling. And I know I'm emotional but you can see who real friends are during these times too.
Just thank you for being there. I will come back on a bit later. 
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@marlina (154166)
• Canada
5 May 21
@VivaLaDani13 , I understand how you are feeling and think of you and sending you some good thoughts
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@VivaLaDani13 (60337)
• Perth, Australia
5 May 21
@marlina Thank you very kindly. It is a let down that the people I've been there for have not been there for me. I'm trying hard to see it from their point of view but still, it doesn't take much effort to ask people how they are going etc.
Thank you very much.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60337)
• Perth, Australia
5 May 21
@ZedSmart Thank you so very much. I hope so too, to both seeing my Poppy and my friends being more around like I am always for them. We will see but more hoping to see my Poppy. Thank you very much.
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@just4him (306090)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
4 May 21
I'm so sorry the doctors/nurses aren't allowing anyone to come in and say their goodbyes to your Poppy. I hope they change their mind before it's too late to do so.
I understand the emotional stress you're under. I hope your friends will show some compassion for your situation. I've tried to keep up with your situation. I'm sorry your Poppy is in his final days. I'm also sorry your Aunty has been taken to the hospital. I hope you can find out about her.
My thoughts and prayers are with you.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60337)
• Perth, Australia
5 May 21
@just4him Thank you very much. My dad and I are really hoping so too.
Thank you very much for keeping up with my situation. That means a lot and I hope you never feel any pressure. I appreciate any time you've answered any of my posts especially these ones so thank you so very kindly!
I have heard from my Aunty. She says her heart is beating too fast and from my understanding, she's at a high risk of having a stroke. But I'm still unclear about the stroke part.
Thank you for everything.
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@just4him (306090)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
5 May 21
@VivaLaDani13 I hope they can give her something so her heart won't beat so fast.
You're welcome. I always keep you and your family in prayer.
Are you working in childcare now?
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@VivaLaDani13 (60337)
• Perth, Australia
5 May 21
@just4him Me too. I did ask her via Facebook message what they (doctors) will be doing for her but she didn't answer so I don't know.
Thank you so very much. Very kind of you.
I am still doing Prac work. But even once I get my certificate, (which will happen after all my work is marked and then about 4 weeks to have it sent out to me) I am going to be taking a couple / few months off for a break. I also want to focus on some other things for myself and around the house that need my attention.
I am still doing Prac work. But even once I get my certificate, (which will happen after all my work is marked and then about 4 weeks to have it sent out to me) I am going to be taking a couple / few months off for a break. I also want to focus on some other things for myself and around the house that need my attention.1 person likes this
@DocAndersen (54413)
• United States
12 May 21
First off, I am so sorry. I wish there was something that could magically make that pain go away. I know there isn't but I wish for that.
you have friends, people that care for you here and in your family. You are as my mother-in-law used to say "a good egg."
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@VivaLaDani13 (60337)
• Perth, Australia
16 May 21
@DocAndersen Thank you so very much. I can tell you are very genuine and mean that and that, I appreciate so dearly.
And thank you for that comment too, that also means a lot to me. Thank you kindly.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60337)
• Perth, Australia
16 May 21
@DocAndersen Is this the same grandfather we were talking about not too long ago or another? Either way, I am so sorry for your loss. Not only for a family member but for losing your best friend too.
I am like that too. More so lately wishing my mum and Uncle could be around still.
I am like that too. More so lately wishing my mum and Uncle could be around still.1 person likes this
@DocAndersen (54413)
• United States
16 May 21
@VivaLaDani13 i know how hard it is, honestly i lost my grandfather (he was my best friend) many years ago now, I still find myself wondering what he would say.
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@florelway (23112)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
13 May 21
Just take things lightly. Don't put the.burden on yourself. Be happy, do not worry as worrying will not solve your problem.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60337)
• Perth, Australia
16 May 21
@florelway Thank you for your answer. I see what you are saying but I don't find it possible for me to be worry free. I am sure you'd feel upset if one of your beloved family members were possibly dying in hospital. 
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@VivaLaDani13 (60337)
• Perth, Australia
16 May 21
@florelway Thank you very much. I appreciate that a lot.
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@florelway (23112)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
16 May 21
@VivaLaDani13 yes I know where you're coming from. Hold on.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60337)
• Perth, Australia
24 Jan 23
@Treborika 100%. I'm getting really sick of it!
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@VivaLaDani13 (60337)
• Perth, Australia
25 Jan 23
@Treborika As a human, I am allowed to feel how I feel.
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@Treborika (17259)
• Mombasa, Kenya
24 Jan 23
@VivaLaDani13 You don't have to worry about that since you can't change anything about it
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@snowy22315 (169932)
• United States
5 May 21
I am sorry for your situation and I hope you will be allowed to see your Poppy.
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Stay strong!@VivaLaDani13 (60337)
• Perth, Australia
12 May 21
@prinzcy Thank you so much for asking. She is back home but from what I am understanding, her heart beat is / has been beating too fast, meaning higher risk of a stroke. I believe she hasn't been feeling well too. I did send her a message but haven't heard back yet.
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@Juliaacv (48415)
• Canada
3 May 21
Sadly, too often people will not go out of their way to offer a shoulder to lean on, really when someone needs it the most. I have found, that for some, it means nothing, because they have not encountered anything so painfully difficult, so they cannot even fathom it, for others, it can be a painful reminder. And then there are those who remember someone else reaching out to them when they were in your shoes. That happened to me here, from another member, and I have not forgotten.
I feel bad that you have another family member not doing their best, but right now, you have to focus on you, and your immediate family. It sounds like your Dad's days are numbered, make them count.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60337)
• Perth, Australia
5 May 21
@Juliaacv I will definitely take what you said on board in regards to my friends. I am trying hard to see things from their point of view. I guess I am just really getting tired of being there for people every single time but get very little to nothing when something really awful is going on. Just a simple "How are you?" or "How is your grandfather?" would mean a lot to me but I get nothing. In fact, what I have had since is some of them wanting my opinion for this and that or venting to me about something they are going through without any questions or statements for my situation. I don't get it.
Thank you for your comment, as always I appreciate it a lot. My Aunty is back home which is good. She said her heart is beating too fast to which she's at higher risk for stroke if I understand correctly. My grandfather is still not eating and is just very weak from what my Nanny has said. That's all I know for now.
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@DaddyEvil (137145)
• United States
3 May 21
I wish I could be there to help you through this, hon.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60337)
• Perth, Australia
5 May 21
@DaddyEvil Thank you very kindly.
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@mildredtabitha (16052)
• Nairobi, Kenya
3 May 21
I will be praying for you and your loved ones
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@VivaLaDani13 (60337)
• Perth, Australia
5 May 21
@mildredtabitha Thank you very kindly.
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@mildredtabitha (16052)
• Nairobi, Kenya
5 May 21
@VivaLaDani13 you are welcomed
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@CarolDM (203454)
• Nashville, Tennessee
3 May 21
I hope your family all recover soon. I understand about friends and family not checking in. I have said so many times that I know people are busy but how long does it take to call. No excuse. Always here for you. Take some deep breaths.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60337)
• Perth, Australia
5 May 21
@CarolDM I completely agree with your statement. I know people get busy but seriously, it doesn't take long to ask a quick question of "how are you?" So I agree with what you're saying.
Thank you very kindly.
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@CarolDM (203454)
• Nashville, Tennessee
5 May 21
@VivaLaDani13 I don't understand many people. You are very welcome.
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@JimBo452020 (42629)
• United Kingdom
3 May 21
Gee whizz, you are having it quite hard just now.
Thoughts very much with you
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@VivaLaDani13 (60337)
• Perth, Australia
3 May 21
@JimBo452020 Honestly, yes it very much feels like that. Thank you very much for your caring and supportive comment.
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