How do you deal with Disappointments?

Disappointment
@Shiva49 (26200)
Singapore
May 4, 2021 9:13am CST
No one can be without disappointments. There are minor and also major which are life changing. What we planned and worked for goes up in smoke in a jiffy. We are left to pick up the pieces disoriented. People we had relied upon can let us down all of a sudden. I don’t make long term plans. I allow circumstances to dictate and then try to fit in, make the best of a given situation. That way, my setbacks are less compared to those who plan long term. However, there are those closer at home and on the wider front that impact me and cast a shadow over my outlook. If I cannot do anything at all to counter them I sort of grin and bear them! This pandemic is one such. We have to wait for it to blow over and leave it to others to tackle it while taking own precautions. How do you face up to disappointments? Image: Disappointments from free media site Pexels
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@eileenleyva (27562)
• Philippines
4 May 21
I meditate and pray. It is important to be constant and steadfast with our communication with out God.
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@Shiva49 (26200)
• Singapore
4 May 21
Yes, with God on board always we can face any eventuality. It lightens our load and guides us too.
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@kobesbuddy (74553)
• East Tawas, Michigan
4 May 21
@Shiva49 The Lord knows the beginning and the end, in every life. Everything in between, we need to yield it up to him, every single day!
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@Shiva49 (26200)
• Singapore
4 May 21
@kobesbuddy My take is our creator is everywhere and we have to live and love with this realization. “We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience.” — said Pierre Teilhard de Chardin, a French Jesuit priest, scientist, paleontologist, theologian, philosopher and teacher.
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@DianneN (246738)
• United States
4 May 21
I take everything one day at a time and deal with everything on an “as need” basis. Nothing is as bad as it seems once conquered.
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@mosherii (1132)
5 May 21
One day at a time is my new motto
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@DianneN (246738)
• United States
6 May 21
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@Shiva49 (26200)
• Singapore
5 May 21
Yes, once we put the setbacks behind us we walk with a spring in our steps.
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@kobesbuddy (74553)
• East Tawas, Michigan
4 May 21
All we can do at this time is roll with the punches and do a lot of praying! Bad things happen, even to good people.
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@Shiva49 (26200)
• Singapore
4 May 21
Yes, no one is spared. How we deal with our supposed setbacks defines us. Without challenges life is not worth living, meaningful.
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@Shiva49 (26200)
• Singapore
4 May 21
@kobesbuddy The beauty is there are solutions also in the challenges we face. We have to measure up to meet and put them behind us thereby gaining in confidence and wisdom.
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@kobesbuddy (74553)
• East Tawas, Michigan
4 May 21
@Shiva49 Every day is a challenge, we never know what's ahead. Yet, God provides us with stable ground to walk on.
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@Rashnag (30598)
• Surat, India
5 May 21
Rightly said. We all have to deal with it from time to time. Have a good day. Take care
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@Shiva49 (26200)
• Singapore
5 May 21
None is spared - the higher we rise, the harder we the fall. That brings to my mind - An out-of-control Chinese rocket is plunging towards the Earth – and it is not clear where it is going. And the beauty is our creator has created an atmosphere above to protect us from such. Very thoughtful of him indeed!
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@Rashnag (30598)
• Surat, India
5 May 21
@Shiva49 ok dear
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@Shxrubia (2752)
• Indonesia
4 May 21
It was very difficult. It took me a long time to accept the truth.
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• India
11 May 21
well pretty simple. I take a nap, get up and then move on with my life. I have realized over the years that we don't have time to get disappointed. Much better is to move on or keep fighting with it until the task is defeated. that's how you face your disappointments.
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@Shiva49 (26200)
• Singapore
11 May 21
Well, that is the best way - keep looking forward and be on the move than lose ourselves in setbacks and disappointments.
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@Shiva49 (26200)
• Singapore
12 May 21
@Prabhatsingh Yes. "If You're Going Through Hell, Keep Going" - said, Winston Churchill
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• India
11 May 21
@Shiva49 exactly. true. the only way I would suggest. keeping moving forward.
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@m_audrey6788 (58485)
• Germany
4 May 21
I always pray and cry it out until I feel calm down and accept the truth
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• Germany
4 May 21
@Shiva49 Yes. It is somehow like that
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@Shiva49 (26200)
• Singapore
4 May 21
Yes, better to give free play to our emotions than bottle them up. For me, I marshal all my resources and meet the setback head on. Then get adjusted to the new reality.
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@prinzcy (32322)
• Malaysia
11 May 21
When you don't hope so much, you'll less likely be disappoint by it. I would try to achieve something and then tell myself not to hope on it. Always have plan B to Z in case the first one didn't work.
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@Shiva49 (26200)
• Singapore
12 May 21
That is a good approach. I had followed a path - do my best with goals not selfish and then accept the results. At times, I did not get what I had hoped for, but what I got proved better than what I had intended.
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@innertalks (21024)
• Australia
5 May 21
Poetry: Disappointment Blind disappointment, disempowers. Love lives behind all, even the mask of disappointment. Anger can be aroused from disappointment. We want what we want, not what happens. Nothing is ever perfectly your way. Accept life, and accept disappointment. Disappointment grows its legs from expectation. Disappointment lives in the disappointed. Allowing life to be more what it is, a bundled bundle, allows disappointments to be washed all aside by love. "We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope." A great quote from Martin Luther King, Jr., (1929 to 1968), an American spiritual leader.
@innertalks (21024)
• Australia
5 May 21
@Shiva49 Thanks, siva. Yes, that is a great quote. Being always spoonfed, just makes us fat and lazy. We do need to learn to feed ourselves. This quote comes to mind too: "Give a man a fish, and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish, and you feed him for a lifetime."
@Shiva49 (26200)
• Singapore
6 May 21
@innertalks Yes, the basics of survival are what matters rather than a sense of entitlement and dependency.
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@Shiva49 (26200)
• Singapore
5 May 21
This poem is a balm to the easily disappointed. When we accept the blessings, take a few setbacks too that come with them Yes, life is a package deal to keep us alive and to prove our mettle too - we need to grow up than be spoon-fed The quote is inspiring - hope keeps us going while inside the darkest of tunnels.
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@Fliafaith (763)
• Nairobi, Kenya
6 May 21
Life is full of disappointments, in one way or another it's something we have to face, just try being positive and accept whatever comes your way, to avoid unnecessary stress.
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@Shiva49 (26200)
• Singapore
6 May 21
Yes, "stay positive but test negative" is the catchphrase of present times And the Serenity Prayer is the best guide: "God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference"
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• Nairobi, Kenya
6 May 21
@Shiva49 Woow that's nice
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@Tenshidc (584)
• Philippines
6 May 21
Well When something happens that already happened. I choose to let it go, it already happened, so move on, do not stress yourself.
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@Shiva49 (26200)
• Singapore
7 May 21
That is a positive approach - learn to let things go. "Forget what hurt you but never forget what it taught you" "According to Buddhism, we must let go of attachment and desires if we are to experience happiness. However, letting go doesn't mean you don't care about anyone and anything. It actually means you can experience life and love fully and openly without clinging to it for your survival."
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12 May 21
Like you, I don’t make long term plans. I just mostly take one day at a time. When disappointments come, I turn them over to the Lord.
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@Shiva49 (26200)
• Singapore
12 May 21
That reminds me. Every year, a father used to take his son to his grandparents' house by train for him to spend some time. Then one year the boy insisted he was old enough to manage by himself. His dad did not want to discourage him but as his son boarded the train he gave a folded piece of paper and told him to open only in times of real need. As the train was on its way, the boy was feeling lonely and even a bit afraid. Then he remembered what his father had given him. He opened the paper and read - "Don't worry, I am in the next compartment." Yes, let us never forget God is near us in good times and bad.
@Belexhanns (3431)
• Kampala, Uganda
11 May 21
I hate Disappointments, but it depends, some I just chill and begin a new chapter
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@Shiva49 (26200)
• Singapore
11 May 21
When we get over the disappointments, we feel a sense of achievement too. We build our self-confidence thereby.
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• Kampala, Uganda
11 May 21
@Shiva49 that's it
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• Angeles City, Philippines
11 May 21
I really don't expect from other people so i won't be disappointed. The more you expect, the more you got being disappointed Sir. But when i'm disappointed i'll just think that it just have to happened that way so it will lessen the hurt i feel.
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@Shiva49 (26200)
• Singapore
11 May 21
Yes, the best is to do our duty and that is the best reward by itself. I had achieved against heavy odds but a few downplayed them. Yes, the best approach is never to expect bouquets and discard the brickbats too!
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