Relationships with an age gap

United States
May 14, 2021 9:37am CST
I am currently married to a man who is 14 years younger than me. We have been together for 7 years, married almost 4. It can definitely be trying at times. It is normal when it is the man who is older, however, there is definitely a double standard when it is the woman. Things were sort of crazy at first, but things have settled and are becoming more "normal", whatever that means. Anyway, I am here for questions or to give out advice.
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@marguicha (216271)
• Chile
14 May 21
I don´t have the experience of having a partner younger than myself. But I have always had men older than myself and I never minded it.
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• United States
14 May 21
Yeah it’s almost always looked at as normal or ok when the man is older. Women sometimes get criticized or judged when they are older. I absolutely feel though that whatever makes you happy!
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@marguicha (216271)
• Chile
14 May 21
@Purpz28 I agree.
@profree2019 (1218)
• Barquisimeto, Venezuela
16 May 21
I am 7 years older than my wife, we have been married for 35 years, and I can tell you that these age gaps are not that important. You have to know how to understand yourself and know how to say things in time. As for whether the man is the oldest or the woman, my wife always says that it is better when the man is older, since the woman shows his aging more and the man will be more likely to have an affair. I don't think so, I think this is 50 vs 50.
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• Barquisimeto, Venezuela
18 May 21
@Purpz28 In the end I think the important thing is to understand each other and for that the age barriers do not matter.
• United States
17 May 21
Yeah I can completely see that...and I guess it would lie on the man if he has an affair.
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@much2say (53942)
• Los Angeles, California
14 May 21
One of my friends has a mother who remarried a man who was 12 years younger. My friend says her mother's advice to her was to get a younger man because they have more energy .
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@much2say (53942)
• Los Angeles, California
14 May 21
@Purpz28 Ah, that is true too!!
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• United States
14 May 21
That’s funny but true...even though that can be a double edged sword.
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@lovebuglena (43169)
• Staten Island, New York
15 May 21
My cousin was in a relationship with a woman once. She was old enough to be his mother. He even married her. But that didn't last long and now he is married to someone closer to his age. Age is just a number. If you have a connection and have things in common and there is love then the age difference doesn't matter. The only issue is how well people are physically. Older people may not have as much strength for things as younger ones. Also, if one person is much older then possibly that person will pass away much sooner than the other person and time spent together will be shorter.
@lovebuglena (43169)
• Staten Island, New York
17 May 21
@Purpz28 It may seem weird when there is a very big age difference between two people but if the relationship is great that's what's important.
• United States
17 May 21
Yeah it’s sort of all a go with it and see what happens lol, I suppose.
@Hytton03 (5454)
• Philippines
14 May 21
Oh for me age not an issue as long as you love each other,
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• India
14 May 21
Thank you for that. It is marked as some kind of taboo by our society. I have no idea why. #normalizegettingmarriedtooldergirls
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• India
14 May 21
@Purpz28 LOL. stupid people that all can be said about the.
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• United States
14 May 21
Absolutely it is! I mean I would never say the things to random people, like what has been said to me! People automatically treat me like I am his mother. It doesn’t help that he looks younger than he is lol
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• Pamplona, Spain
17 May 21
One of my cousins is married to someone younger and she seems to be okay in her marriage.
@Rashnag (30594)
• Surat, India
17 May 21
Good to know that things are normal now. Have a good day. Take care