A Culture for Died People's Family.

By Dini
@Andini (3208)
Indonesia
July 22, 2021 11:23am CST
Hello everyone, Here in indonesia there is culture that whenever someone in our family died we as family should give food for neighbors. Its have meaning that wish from family for neighbors with pure heart want to pray for that died people. And also its for sharing purpose. Due to corona here so much increase death. So i often received these foods. So what do you think about this culture? Good or bad culture?
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@flapiz (23272)
• United Kingdom
22 Jul 21
I think it's a beautiful culture. Specially because a grieving family sometimes do not have time to cook out of grief. A community that takes care of each other is beautiful.
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@flapiz (23272)
• United Kingdom
24 Jul 21
@Andini Oh that is quite a roundabout way of doing things. I guess they provide snacks for visitors then? I feel like it should be the other way around.
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@Andini (3208)
• Indonesia
24 Jul 21
Not an community that cook it. But a grieving family that give foods to community. Its little bit strange culture
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@Andini (3208)
• Indonesia
24 Jul 21
@flapiz yes i think so, thats why i want to know other people's opinion.i also think it should be other way arround
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@ThatDisha (4010)
• India
22 Jul 21
It's good that the family will get a little support from their neighbors at the time of grief
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@ThatDisha (4010)
• India
22 Jul 21
@Andini that is not good then If they have to arrange for the money to be spend for this work then it's bad If they are providing as per their capability then it's completely fine
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@Andini (3208)
• Indonesia
24 Jul 21
@ThatDisha yes half bad ,half good
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@ThatDisha (4010)
• India
24 Jul 21
@mayka123 (16972)
• India
1 Aug 21
Here it is reverse. The neighbours cook and give food to the family who has lost someone. Because they are in pain and very often unable to cook.
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@Andini (3208)
• Indonesia
1 Aug 21
Thats nice culture. But here different and so weird .
@kaylachan (78698)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
22 Jul 21
Sharing of food is common in a lot of counteries for the passing of a loved one. While the grieving party may not be thinking about food, I can see why the pratice exists. It's a way to encourage a person to eat, and to keep going because that's what the departed would want.
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@kaylachan (78698)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
24 Jul 21
@Andini Those who recently lose a loved one, might not think so, but it really does. In times of grief, people often fail to remember to take care of themselves. I know when my mom passed, the first couple of days I was a real wreck.
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@Andini (3208)
• Indonesia
24 Jul 21
Yes its make sense
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@Andini (3208)
• Indonesia
24 Jul 21
@kaylachan sad to hear it. Yes you are right
@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
22 Jul 21
It's pretty similar here. But I think some people have started to change it, so it's the neighbours and relatives that come and help prepare the food and everything. I personally think it makes more sense.
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@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
23 Jul 21
@Andini Yeah, sadly there are some people who come only for the free food.
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@DianneN (247166)
• United States
22 Jul 21
It’s a neighborly thing to do.
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@DianneN (247166)
• United States
22 Jul 21
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@Andini (3208)
• Indonesia
22 Jul 21
Yes of course
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@much2say (57687)
• Los Angeles, California
22 Jul 21
It is always a kind gesture to share with neighbors - it's thoughtful.
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@Andini (3208)
• Indonesia
24 Jul 21
Yes of course
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@prashu228 (37518)
• India
23 Jul 21
That's a good culture ..we should do it with pure heart...
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@Andini (3208)
• Indonesia
24 Jul 21
Exactly, pure heart make all more beautiful
@YuleimaVzla (1505)
• Maracaibo, Venezuela
23 Jul 21
I am Latin, we do not have something similar, but it is a beautiful custom that you have. It is a very noble gesture to share in the midst of your pain for your loss. It should be an example for many countries.
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@Sathyabo (904)
22 Jul 21
Its good only. Enjoy your day.
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@Andini (3208)
• Indonesia
22 Jul 21
Thanks. Enjoy your day too