Do you have a friends like this?
By bobsungjin
@agustinaln (35)
Medan, Indonesia
July 29, 2021 11:56pm CST
When he/she has a problem he will ask for your advice, but the advice I gave was ignored at all. and this happens over and over again but I still want to give him advice.
I know all decisions are in his hands, but I'm so annoyed that it feels like this to be treated, it feels like my advice is not being respected.
But on the one hand I'm still weighing, all decisions are in his hands and it's his life.
If you were me, what would you do?
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8 responses
@sjvg1976 (41131)
• Delhi, India
30 Jul 21
I won't mind it as being a friend it's my responsibilty to give him/her the advice and it's his/her decision to follow it or not.
If you feel bad that your friend doesn't follow your advices then you can stop giving your advices. Why should you give advices then?
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@agustinaln (35)
• Medan, Indonesia
30 Jul 21
That's right, i better go to think my own things.
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@sulynsi (2671)
• Canada
31 Jul 21
@agustinaln I find, when a person does that to me, and I know they don't really want advice, I turn the question back and say, "What do YOU think is the answer?"
Then they can bounce their thoughts and feelings off you.
You can throw in a couple of ideas, but they are just that, your ideas and opinions - and try not to get too emotionally attached to those suggestions. When we start thinking too much of our own perspective, then we can be offended if our friend doesn't choose to implement it.
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@agustinaln (35)
• Medan, Indonesia
31 Jul 21
@sulynsi omg yes i found it, i'm thinking too much to my perspective and then get offended. "What do you think is the answer?" This one hit me too, ahh thank you for telling me *i'msobbing*
@agustinaln (35)
• Medan, Indonesia
31 Jul 21
I know, but she always ask me what should she do and I don't want being silent :|
@Vikingswest1 (6305)
• United States
30 Jul 21
I'd be direct and say you never take my advice but...
Or just stop giving advice. If they ask why, be honest and say you don't appreciate my advice because you never listen to it.
@florelway (23141)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
30 Jul 21
I will tell the person, you're old enough to make a decision for your good.
@jefferson126 (3052)
• Shenzhen, China
30 Jul 21
yes,i met a workmate behaving like that,in my opinion,this type of guy is full of himself usually.but meanwhile,he is contradictory because of lacking true confidence.later i cut off from him.
@Mavealfajora28 (32)
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30 Jul 21
I probably record my advice just to be prepared and play it whenever he/she will be asking me again and again so that I didn't waste my time repeating myself.
@Rashnag (30598)
• Surat, India
30 Jul 21
I don't give advice if not asked for. I shy away from giving it for this particular reason of not getting implemented many a times
@aureategloom (8344)
• Bosnia And Herzegovina
31 Jul 21
i wouldn't care that much - it's their life after all. they just asked for your opinion, they're not supposed to listen to you. they have to make a decision.
