Online Dating
By Naughty22
@Naughty22 (63)
January 8, 2022 11:48am CST
Hey everyone,
So I was just sitting here thinking; Wow, times have changed. Years ago I thought that online dating was for weirdos but now its like its trending. I have tried it before and let me tell you it is really interesting. I decided to fall back to see if I can actually meet someone and connect organically.
What are some pros and cons to online dating?
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@akalinus (40440)
• United States
10 Jan 22
@sharonelton That is a really scummy way of making a living. It should be a crime.
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@sharonelton (25013)
• Lichfield, England
9 Jan 22
Yes, that true. That's another reason I don't like dating sites. I saw a programme on TV sometime last year about romance fraud and people who were duped online by people who were not who they said they were and were just after money!
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@StarryCat (38)
• United States
10 Jan 22
I agree with you 100%. I say this based on experience, lol.
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@ShyBear88 (59283)
• Sterling, Virginia
8 Jan 22
I have no tips other then meet in public more then once never in a hotel or ther places or your places always where Orhet people can see you and cameras. Also let a friend know where you are going, who’s it your meeting if that person give you there number give it to friend so if something happens to you they have that persons number to give to the police. Also always like do a selfie and sent it to someone or posted online so people know what you where wearing at that time.
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@ShyBear88 (59283)
• Sterling, Virginia
8 Jan 22
@tallawah thanks you! If I forgot something you should definitely add it you can’t never be to safe.
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@ShyBear88 (59283)
• Sterling, Virginia
8 Jan 22
@tallawah haha food thing I don’t really have to worry about that. I’m married but we practice the same thing but many dating sites actually now have apps so nobody gets your email but can message you directly to that app.
@Naughty22 (63)
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11 Jan 22
I do everythng except the last statement, what a gem. im going to do that if I ever decide to go on another onlne date lol
@Naughty22 (63)
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5 Feb 22
@paigea Thats amazing, I enjoy when people can find love.
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@Fa_Maverick (9458)
• Australia
10 Jan 22
Pros:
- You can pick up on some major red flags immediately. Do they spam you with messages? Do they get mad when you don't respond to said spam? Cool, this tells you they are either eager to talk to you or they are possessive and controlling and potentially abusive.
- You can assess whether their values and principles line up straight away before meeting them. Need your partner to be an ally of the LGBTQIA+ you can ask them right there and if they are a homophobic tw*t you can block them right away no need to meet and need to excuse yourself cause they're a hateful bigot.
- Virtual dates no danger of being kidnapped, roofied, assaulted, raped etc.
cons:
- Catfish.
- Bit pics are everywhere.
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@Fa_Maverick (9458)
• Australia
12 Jan 22
@Naughty22 never actively looked for a partner online no. I did meet Bones an ex of mine on a website though.
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@Naughty22 (63)
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5 Feb 22
@Fa_Maverick So you met you someone thru social media outlet? What made you give that person a chance?
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@Naughty22 (63)
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11 Jan 22
Love your outlook on this situation.
Have you ever dated online?
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@Kouponkaren (5486)
• United States
9 Jan 22
@soymex I couldn't have said this better. Nice job with this answer!
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@Naughty22 (63)
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11 Jan 22
Thats why people shouldnt catfish, because some people want to find actual love and not play games.
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@Naughty22 (63)
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11 Jan 22
Catfish is a big problem online, you can be whoever you want. Sometimes its someone you know. Super scary I think
@Naughty22 (63)
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11 Jan 22
I want to connect organically but due to the covid and just the fact that everyone is plastered to there phone they could have missed me walking by
@mildredtabitha (16053)
• Nairobi, Kenya
10 Jan 22
With online dating, the advantage is that with you will always find someone. The disadvantage is that you might not want them after you meet in real life or you might be fooled online and fall for it
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@Naughty22 (63)
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11 Jan 22
lol awww so true, they could have catfished you and madly in love with you. And they probably didnt have to catfish to begin with.
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@sharonelton (25013)
• Lichfield, England
9 Jan 22
I've tried dating companies. Postal ones mainly. There were 2 that I tried and one of them I tried twice. I ended up writing to one or two people but no-one significant and we no longer write. As for online I tried that one once too. Still no joy. I really want to do it the old fashioned way and meet someone in person because dating companies and sites never seem to work for me. The postal ones were frankly a waste of my money!
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@sharonelton (25013)
• Lichfield, England
12 Jan 22
@Naughty22 Well, there was an advert in a magazine, they sent you the application form, you sent it off with your money then every month they sent you a list of eligible fellas that fit your likes and that were kinda compatible. Then you wrote to the ones that took your fancy, hoping they would write back and like you too. You could send each other photos and after a while you could meet up. I only met up with one and that was just as a friend. Later I joined one where the photo was included on the listing so you didn't have to wait for them to send you a photo to see what they looked like. But nothing came of it. I wrote to a few people when I joined the first one, a few wrote back but none that I really ended up fancying! Eventually they all stopped writing. The latest one I joined was SO expensive and then the lists they sent were so short and there was hardly anyone I liked the look of. So nothing ever came of them and I am disillusioned with them.
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@Naughty22 (63)
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11 Jan 22
Postal? I dont know anything about those, Can you tell me more of your exprience with this method?
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@elmer0421 (363)
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10 Jan 22
I feel like one advantage of online dating is you can date while at the comfort of your home using your internet while one disadvantage is when you can't fully know about the person through online dating..
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@StarryCat (38)
• United States
11 Jan 22
Personally, I dislike dating sites/apps like POF, Tinder, Match.com, etc. Sure, there are success stories. People have met their partners and started families. Then, there are those who experienced drama, mind games, catfishes, scammers, stalkers, and pretty much anything no one wants to experience on a dating site/app. The pro is it's possible to find what you are looking for. You can know just a little bit about a person by viewing their profile before you decide to communicate (if they are being honest on their profile of course). I have met my ex and the guy I am currently see on POF. Like I mentioned earlier, I dislike dating sites. So, if things do not work out between me and my current man, I refuse to go back to dating sites. Between the time I ended things with my ex and the time I met my man, I had so many bad experiences with online dating. I have been duped by players. I have been catfished by liars. I have been scammed by con artists. I have been stalked by creeps. There are so many people like the ones I listed lurking online. Those are the cons. Be cautious when you meet someone online. I recommend to take the time to get to know them online first before you meet them offline. Get to know them via video chat like Zoom or Skype. When you meet for the first time, do it in public. Also, if you notice that someone online is falling in love with you so fast before you meet them, that is a major red flag. That person can be a scammer. Always set your boundaries when you meet someone online.
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