I guess this is normal...
By Toni
@toniganzon (77064)
Philippines
April 27, 2022 9:42pm CST
When I was young, I was extremely adventurous. I'd go out with friends middle of the night and would come home wee hours in the morning. We'd go on vacation for several days, race cars, go hiking, swimming, etc.
When I became a mother, I can't imagine my son having a vacation somewhere only with his friends without me or his dad. I worry too much. Every time he's out of my sight, I seem to think what he's doing or if he's safe. The only time I did allow him to go far away was when they had a school tour. I just prayed hard the airplane would land safely. Due to the pandemic their senior high school tour to Singapore was cancelled. If not, I would have gone with him there.
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@moffittjc (128824)
• Gainesville, Florida
28 Apr 22
It was the same way with me. I was wild and crazy and stayed out all night and would disappear from my family for days. Just like you, I now worry about my kids even when they’re gone for an hour. I’m sure our parents felt the same way when they were dealing with you and I.
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@toniganzon (77064)
• Philippines
29 Apr 22
My parents weren't alive to witness my teenage years.
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@toniganzon (77064)
• Philippines
30 Apr 22
@moffittjc My siblings and I took care of each other. We were trained young by your parents to take care of our business. That's why on weekends and on school vacation, we all had to work.
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@moffittjc (128824)
• Gainesville, Florida
29 Apr 22
@toniganzon I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope you were still well cared for by other family members. I know my parents worked a lot to try and provide a better life for me and my brother, so sometimes I feel like I was raised more by my grandmother than I was by my mom and dad.
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@toniganzon (77064)
• Philippines
29 Apr 22
Oh so sorry. I do allow Craig to sleep at a friend"s house and I let him party night as long as I know who he's with and where they're staying. I would make some phone calls though but he doesn't mind as I would just do it once. Yesterday afternoon his friend picked him up to attend the twins birthday party. They came home at 10pm.
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@toniganzon (77064)
• Philippines
29 Apr 22
@LadyDuck Exactly. That's why I don't want to deprive my son of that. That's why I do allow him to enjoy his teenage life as much as he can like I did. As long as I am aware where he is and who he's with I am fine with that. Craig always asks our permission and I really appreciate that.
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@LadyDuck (502148)
• Italy
29 Apr 22
@toniganzon - I know that I regret not being able to enjoy my teenage years as many girls did. Once you get married life is no more the same, there are responsibilities, we are busy all the time. Life not lived is lost forever.
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@toniganzon (77064)
• Philippines
28 Apr 22
I am not concerned of any crimes as I live in the most livable city in this country. Vehicular accidents is what I'm more concerned of or accidents like drowning. Crime's the least of my concern.
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@rsa101 (40946)
• Philippines
29 Apr 22
@toniganzon Oh if that is your concern, I guess accidents happen anywhere whether you are tucked in the safety of your home or out there. It could have happened to you when you were young or when you are right now. That is why I consider crime riskier for my kid since we could not really protect them when it happens. Where if they stay at home, they can stay safer than them being out there.
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@toniganzon (77064)
• Philippines
29 Apr 22
@rsa101 I think you still don't get it. Accidents at home when I am present can be taken care of immediately. He's into cycling as I've written too many times. With that in mind, I have more worries of him getting into an accident.
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@allen0187 (59648)
• Philippines
28 Apr 22
It is normal for parents to worry about their children.
Perfectly normal Toni.
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@allen0187 (59648)
• Philippines
30 Apr 22
@toniganzon that's your maternal love showing.
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@toniganzon (77064)
• Philippines
29 Apr 22
Sure. But I think it's extreme for me.
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@RebeccasFarm (91299)
• United States
28 Apr 22
I do not blame you, I still worry.
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@toniganzon (77064)
• Philippines
29 Apr 22
Guess that's normal for parents like us.
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@LindaOHio (222222)
• United States
28 Apr 22
Now you know how your parents felt when you went out and away.!
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@LindaOHio (222222)
• United States
29 Apr 22
@toniganzon I'm sorry to hear that.
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