Poetry: The blamer is often a misnamer
By emptychair
@innertalks (23740)
Australia
May 4, 2022 9:43pm CST
In John's family, he was blamed for all.
He never complained,
and others liked someone to blame.
John was big enough to be the fall guy.
No one should be blamed for anything.
The big man shouldn't even blame himself.
The small man should not blame others either.
Blame is a lazy way of passing the buck.
Shifting the blame is a game that most play.
But blame's game should not be ever played.
Fault is not an excuse to blame another.
Never blame, or inflame this life, with blame.
Blame is something that maims life, not builds.
Blame wants to shame others into its game.
Blame causes people to try to counterclaim.
Blame is never worth pursuing in its name.
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Pointing the finger at others, blaming others, is bullying them.
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@innertalks (23740)
• Australia
5 May 22
Yes, I would say that it's as sinful as judging another person, perhaps worse, as some deception/lying is involved too.
@innertalks (23740)
• Australia
5 May 22
Yes, bullying someone is one of the worst, unloving of things, that we can do, as it makes of the other person's life, a living hell, at times. They are afraid of the bully, and of what they might do next.
@Deepizzaguy (122162)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
5 May 22
You have a good point that blaming others according to the line in the movie "Rocky Balboa" when Rocky Balboa had a chat with his son outside of his restaurant that due to the success of Robert's dad being successful as a businessman and former boxer is "An act of a coward. And that ain't you."
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@innertalks (23740)
• Australia
5 May 22
Yes, blaming someone can be cowardly, if we do not own up to our misdemeanour, but try to direct the blame onto others, or even just to share the blame with them, sometimes happens too.
I cannot remember the line, but I can almost, right now, imagine Rocky, drawling that line out meaningfully.
@innertalks (23740)
• Australia
5 May 22
"A man can fail many times, but he isn't a failure until he begins to blame somebody else."
John Burroughs, (1837 to 1921) an American writer said this.
Yes, it is always having the wrong attitude that makes us regress. With the right attitude, we can fail, and still go on. With the wrong attitude, we might blame something for our failure, and usually, we will not go on, as if we blame, we have no control over what we blame, if that is what we think.
Acceptance of our own part in doing something wrong, is the only way that we can move past a failure.
We need to learn from failure, not blame anything for it, to excuse our own mistakes, or to prevent us from learning from it too.
@innertalks (23740)
• Australia
7 May 22
@Shiva49 Yes, to self reflect is far better than to self-deflect, as we will never touch the core of our real selves, if we deflect ourselves away from the truth of ourselves like that too.
Politicians never own up to anything, and they even never usually like to apologise for hurts caused either.
An apology often comes out as very lukewarm, and meaningless diatribe, rather than having the real ring of sincerity to it too.
@Shiva49 (28385)
• Singapore
6 May 22
@innertalks Blame games in politics are rife and politicians indulge in them without taking a hard look in the mirror to realize their own faultlines.
They may get temporary relief from such tactics, but at a personal level, it is wise to self-reflect and own up to our faults to progress.
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