Financial independence and confidence in life

Raurkela, India
June 22, 2022 7:43am CST
A stable job and good pay package with which you could run your life comfortably and also help your family and those in need when wanted; increases your confidence in life. I have tried my whole life to get a stable job and earn well so that I didn't have to depend on anyone for money, but it didn't happen. I always had to partially depend on my husband's.income. He was the main breadwinner of my family and took all the financial burdens. I only contributed sometimes and at times could not because of unemployment from time to time. When you can support yourself and a family financially your confidence level increases and that makes you happy. At least that's what I think. Today too I am running myself through the family pension that I get from the state government after his death. I wish my education will be fruitful in my next birth (we Indians believe in rebirth) and I get a stable well paid job.
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@Beestring (818)
• Hong Kong
22 Jun
Honestly, I really don't see any problem that your husband was the main breadwinner of the family. A lot of families in Hong Kong have one breadwinner. My Dad was the breadwinner and my Mom took care of the children and household work. In my nephew's family, his wife is the main breadwinner, he is doing some freelance work. That does not affect their relationship. It's nice that you would like to have your own career and financial independence. If that's not possible, you should not lose confidence. You've tried your best and made your contribution to the family. Please stay happy and healthy.
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• Raurkela, India
23 Jun
In India the women in a family nowadays is maid to feel low if she is educated and not working. Some families they accept a unemployed bride but treat her badly if she is not working. Now the situation is such that some families want the women to both work as well as manage the household chores which becomes stressful for the women.
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• Hong Kong
23 Jun
@aninditasen Understand. It sounds a bit unfair to the woman if she is expected to both work and manage housework by herself. Would be better if her husband shares the burden as well.
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• Raurkela, India
23 Jun
@Beestring It's here where the clash starts. Most husband's in India do household chores grudgingly and that's the reason India divorces are increasing in India and young working couples prefer to stay childless.
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@RubyHawk (62651)
• Atlanta, Georgia
22 Jun
A good paying job is what everyone wishes for but not everyone finds it.
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• Raurkela, India
23 Jun
That's true. That's the reason in India girls are still married only that their husband supports them financially. This is very insulting when a woman is educated and does not get a well paid job.
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@RubyHawk (62651)
• Atlanta, Georgia
24 Jun
@aninditasen Women should be equal to men everywhere and it’s much better here than it was years ago.
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• Raurkela, India
24 Jun
@RubyHawk In India it will take time for the men and some of their mothers to change their attitudes. Education is not everything cultural upliftment is essential.
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@anil02 (24380)
• India
22 Jun
I also didn't earn well in my life honestly saying that I am failed person, I am also depends on earning of my wife and son. My wife retired and now we both are depends of son's earning
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• Raurkela, India
23 Jun
Luck didn't favour you but your wife had a stable job and you have a supportive son. My husband had a well placed job no doubt but as I am a postgraduate too I wanted to get a stable job too like some of my classmates did.
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@anil02 (24380)
• India
24 Jun
@aninditasen Yes luck didn't favor me my wife was teacher and retired 2021 son is working is private bank
@RebeccasFarm (65339)
• United States
22 Jun
I wish for you too Anindita. I know how this is entirely. I made a career in life but it was not enough money sadly. It is good you are correct so correct that this ability to be stable and have enough financially rises confidence and happiness.
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• Raurkela, India
23 Jun
Yes, that's true. When you have a stable and good income and can support the family whenever the need arises you feel happy and confident.
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• United States
23 Jun
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@porwest (52773)
• United States
16h
Great jobs and stable income are noble, and I would never knock trying to make as much money working as possible of course. But true financial freedom does not come from jobs. It comes from investments, and the best education one can ever have is how to manage and invest money so that every dollar earned becomes more valuable over time than the minute it is earned.
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• Raurkela, India
6h
I know but not all are good at investing. We need to learn the trick.
@TheHorse (155325)
• Walnut Creek, California
22 Jun
I hope so too. Vanny says it's tough for women in India. I have a bit of a nest egg, but it's not much, considering how hard I've worked over the years. I made my choice to be a an educator and glorified social worker.
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• Raurkela, India
23 Jun
In India government school pay well but not private schools. I had got a job in a government school but couldn't continue as my children were too small and there was no one to look after them.
@Kandae11 (45490)
22 Jun
I have always felt that in India, the husband was the breadwinner.
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• Raurkela, India
23 Jun
Yes, earlier it was but now they expect the women to both work and do the household work too without any help which becomes stressful for the women. That's because now in India most of the women are educated.
@snowy22315 (137714)
• United States
22 Jun
I agree with all you said.
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• Raurkela, India
23 Jun
Thank you.
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@Aiana18 (288)
• Belo Horizonte, Brazil
22 Jun
There are many factors that prevent people from having a well-paid profession. When you have nothing and not even a profession to feel useful in, your self-confidence is shaken. But you have worked hard. You took care of your home and your family. Even though many people look down on housewives, it is still a job. Routine and boring, but necessary. In addition, you have your husband's pension. Be happy about it. If you had no resources at all you would be destitute, and that is too bad.
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• Raurkela, India
23 Jun
I did a job from time to time and without a pension I wouldn't have been a destitute as my sons are very caring and supportive. My grievance is though a postgraduate we had to face job crisis in our days which youngsters these days in India do not face.
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